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True love is the rarest of things in my experience, it’s because few people can navigate the dating scene successfully enough to find it.

The truth of the matter is that most people settle, it’s that simple.

It’s a basic law of human nature for people to seek the path of least resistance, translated it means that most people will take the first person that basically meets their standards.

That’s the reason why the majority are with someone by default, “he” or “she” was better than a lot of the other people the person in question may have dated, so, they will settle on that person.

Now what happens when the right person comes along? They will see that you are with someone and move along, it happens all the time.

Let me ask you a question. How many times have you met someone outside of your relationship, say, a social gathering, through a friend, wherever, and were really attracted to them?

They seemed so right, but you were in a relationship.

Many people will know exactly what I am talking about. I’ve had it happen to me and talked to many other people that related to that question.

God, nature, designs men and women to be together, we have a kind of beacon in our DNA that makes us want to be in a relationship, to procreate.

There is a lot more to a relationship than procreating though so we need to put a lot more thought into finding that “Special Someone”.

Most people don’t put a lot of thought into the process though, they simply react, that signal in their DNA is what is in control, not their intellect.

A large majority of people are just plain needy too. They are the worst off in the long run. They spend a lot of their life in and out of relationships just because they are scared to be alone, and unless they deal with their core, self esteem issues they will always follow the same pattern.

Then there are the people who are attracted to a certain “type”, usually negative in nature, bad boys, or bad girls. These are the people that are always whining about their boyfriend being a jerk, or for guys, being totally obsessed with their girlfriend, her whereabouts, who she talks to, stalking her.

Once again, if these people don’t deal with their core self esteem issues they have little if any chance of finding true love.

True love has a price, a price most people are not willing to pay, therefore, they will never have it. It does exist, there are numerous examples from history, true love stories, it’s out there, it’s real, but it costs.

Each person sets their own standard, only those with the highest standards when it comes to finding the right partner will find them.

I’m not talking about being picky or concieted, I’m talking about being honest with oneself. If the person you are currently with does not meet your needs today, they will never meet your needs.

People don’t change who and what they are to suit each other, so don’t sell yourself short, find the right person. It will take some time and selection, some navigating. Be honest with yourself in regards to that person, are they really everything you always wanted? If not, they won’t be later on either.

True love is the rarest of things in my experience, it’s because few people can navigate the dating scene successfully enough to find it.

The truth of the matter is that most people settle, it’s that simple.

It’s a basic law of human nature for people to seek the path of least resistance, translated it means that most people will take the first person that basically meets their standards.

That’s the reason why the majority are with someone by default, “he” or “she” was better than a lot of the other people the person in question may have dated, so, they will settle on that person.

Now what happens when the right person comes along? They will see that you are with someone and move along, it happens all the time.

Let me ask you a question. How many times have you met someone outside of your relationship, say, a social gathering, through a friend, wherever, and were really attracted to them?

They seemed so right, but you were in a relationship.

Many people will know exactly what I am talking about. I’ve had it happen to me and talked to many other people that related to that question.

God, nature, designs men and women to be together, we have a kind of beacon in our DNA that makes us want to be in a relationship, to procreate.

There is a lot more to a relationship than procreating though so we need to put a lot more thought into finding that “Special Someone”.

Most people don’t put a lot of thought into the process though, they simply react, that signal in their DNA is what is in control, not their intellect.

A large majority of people are just plain needy too. They are the worst off in the long run. They spend a lot of their life in and out of relationships just because they are scared to be alone, and unless they deal with their core, self esteem issues they will always follow the same pattern.

Then there are the people who are attracted to a certain “type”, usually negative in nature, bad boys, or bad girls. These are the people that are always whining about their boyfriend being a jerk, or for guys, being totally obsessed with their girlfriend, her whereabouts, who she talks to, stalking her.

Once again, if these people don’t deal with their core self esteem issues they have little if any chance of finding true love.

True love has a price, a price most people are not willing to pay, therefore, they will never have it. It does exist, there are numerous examples from history, true love stories, it’s out there, it’s real, but it costs.

Each person sets their own standard, only those with the highest standards when it comes to finding the right partner will find them.

I’m not talking about being picky or concieted, I’m talking about being honest with oneself. If the person you are currently with does not meet your needs today, they will never meet your needs.

People don’t change who and what they are to suit each other, so don’t sell yourself short, find the right person. It will take some time and selection, some navigating. Be honest with yourself in regards to that person, are they really everything you always wanted? If not, they won’t be later on either.

There’s a new women staring back in the mirror, she’s got a glow, new hair cut and color, a fresh attitude and a new found freedom. You’ve got the art of flirting down to a “t” and you’ve practiced a very seductive smile that is genuine and natural…. Bravo!!! And keep up the work that you’ve done as it will only empower and enable you to be “the best you can be” and now you are about to get back into the dating scene.

Consider the following before going online and putting an ad or putting a profile on your local “singles” line.

Chemistry is crucial, it’s hormones raging, lustful thoughts that are unconsciously there within the first 7 minutes of meeting a new person.

If you are seeking a long term relationship, you seek romance, and roses, you won’t respond to an ad that says, “looking for a casual friend” You will be a lot happier in the long run and save yourself the heartache of trying to understand why the guy said so many wonderful things (that one night) and then just disappeared.

Chemistry for the most part can lead us into relationships that at best should just be seen as “moments”, “interludes” and “escapades”. And yet too many fall into intensely passionate, but short-lived relationships that have broken their hearts and been highly disappointing.

Don’t get me wrong. Attraction is a critical element for any budding romance, but try this food for thought, instead of relying on sexual attraction alone, think about all the qualities that will make for a loving partnership.

If you meet a great guy who appears to have many of the qualities you desire, but falls short on chemistry, get to know him better so you can appreciate who he really is and discover the kind of attraction that builds with time.

For a lasting loving partnership, start assessing prospects based on a wider range of characteristics that have more meaning for the something long term.

Things to consider:

• shared interests
• social compatibility and friendship
• intellectual compatibility
• ability to communicate
• shared values, attitude and beliefs
• level of maturity
• personal and family goals

Love, respect and admire yourself first…then and only then can love grow in your heart for another.

Love is the burning embers of the fire deep in the hearth!

Best Love Dating Sites

Women often grumble about the inventory of single men saying, “There are no good men available.” Well new evidence is in and it’s quite the contrary. I spoke with eight single men in their 40’s who are members of a local dating service. What an eye opener! We spent an hour together discussing their surprising dating experiences. Hold onto your hats ladies because this is a shocker!

Who Are these Good Guys?
The group varied, but were all very datable. Highlights include: Career: teacher, electrician, IT consultant, insurance underwriter, mechanic. Looks: 5′7″ to over 6 feet; athletic to huggable; dark brown or salt and pepper hair to balding. Education: two masters degrees to trade school. Interests: cooking, biking, dancing, hiking, movies. Seems like a bunch of regular guys.

Men Do Want Honesty and Monogamy
Overall, the men expressed a sincere desire to find a loving relationship. Monogamy is a must and honesty is a primary concern. Most want a partner who is close in age (plus or minus 5 years.) Surprised? These men want exactly the same thing that most women want. So what’s the problem? Here’s what the guys had to say about dating:

Women Won’t Give Men a Chance
The number one biggest issue men have with women today is that the fairer sex just won’t give them a chance. More often than not, the ladies they select from the dating service either say no without as much as a phone conversation or don’t respond to the request at all. As a result, the men feel bewildered, baffled, and very frustrated by this high level of rejection and don’t understand why women paid good money for a service they don’t take full advantage of.

Men feel women’s unwillingness to connect is because they are simply too picky and looking for a level of perfection that’s unrealistic. The fellows worry that they’re too short, not fit enough, losing hair, don’t have a status job, the right education, or make enough money. Hmmm, could they be right?

Look Past Looks
What fascinated me most is that the men complain about the very same thing that women complain about men! Women whine that men select or reject them based on looks alone rather than taking the time to get to know them. The truth is that selecting a potential partner based solely on physical attraction represents a trap to which both sexes often succumb. This is why most matchmakers don’t use pictures with clients, insisting instead that they meet in person. Attraction is important to a good relationship, but is perfection necessary?

Missing the Boat on the Good Guys
All of this begs the question: What is the cost of turning men away based on superficial qualities? Seems like it might be pretty steep. Could be a lot of women are missing the boat on the “Good Guys” because they won’t even put a toe in the water to meet them. It’s certainly something to think about. Of course, you must find a man attractive, but how important should looks be and how much job status is required?

Expand Your Datable Criteria
When you think about the qualities you want in a partner, what comes first; fitness or a warm heart? A high-powered career or good communication skills? Education or honesty? In this day and age, when women are fiercely independent and self-sufficient, do you really need his financial status or emotional support and friendship? Expanding your datable criteria opens the door for so many more possibilities. Before you dismiss a man because of his physique, hairline, or job, try stretching yourself to discover what’s inside. Could he be worth a glass of wine, some light conversation, and 90 minutes of your time?

The bottom line on dating in the 21st century is — there really are lots of good men available. If you’re looking for a loving partner, ease up on stringent standards and let a few more prospects pass inspection. Give the next guy who approaches you a chance. Say “Yes” to a man who may not be ideal, but could be a wonderful partner just the same. You have little to lose, but the upside could be finding the love you’ve been seeking all along.

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