Online Dating and Love Information Articles

Some have said that online dating is an impersonal relationship. These people just don’t know what they are talking about. In fact, online dating is really the best way to start a dating relationship. And, today, many people are finding the person of their dreams on the internet. And, you have nothing to lose. Online dating even with a monthly fee is probably much cheaper than finding a partner the old fashion way.

Have you ever gone on a blind date and wished you were somewhere else? I have. The friends that tried to fix you up meant well. But, usually they try too hard because they feel you need a date since they don’t see you socializing with many people and they have to fix you up with anyone they might think is somewhat compatible with you. In other words they just want you to go out and have fun and not sulk at home. It will make them feel better knowing that you have someone to be happy with. So, they put you together with what they think is another lonely human being and hope that you will both have a great time.

Many times the date just doesn’t work. You both just don’t hit it off. Either the politics doesn’t work, or each of your ideas of what fun means doesn’t work. There are so many reasons why the date fails. And, really it’s no ones fault except your friend that got you involved with this person in the first place.

The problem is that while you are on this date you are the most uncomfortable human being you have ever known. And, for the most part you try to be nice if you can. You just want this thing to finish so you can go home and watch some more TV and then just go to bed.

Why go thru all that pain when you can log onto your favorite online dating site and browse thru as many personal ads as you like. And, if you desire, you can even look as long as you want for the person you might want to date in your gym clothes, pajamas or even your underwear!

And, when you see someone you like, then contact them. Send them a brief e-mail and introduce yourself. Be honest. Be sincere. Be funny. If, you see more then one prospect send two or even three e-mails. Get to know each one of your prospective dates a little thru the internet. See if you have any common interests. Get a phone number of the ones you want to talk to. You know the rest.

The online dating part just takes the initial search for a dating partner and makes finding a prospective date a lot easier for many people. Don’t be afraid to try online dating. Don’t think this is not how to do it because your parents didn’t date this way. Don’t worry that initially you think that it feels weird to find a date on the internet. Today, everyone is doing it and a lot of people are having fun searching for a partner with online dating.

And, the best reason to try online dating is that so many people are happy because they have found their perfect partner sooner then they had thought possible.

Wear good clothes, e.g. a good shirt and a tie. Probably you should ask some girls what clothes they like a man to wear or you should go clothes-shopping with a female relative or a female co-worker.

Important note: A lot of women pay a lot attention to SHOES.

Don’t wear those clothes at all costs even when they are inappropriate or don’t suit you. Example: Don’t wear a tie and your new shoes while swimming. OK, this is an exaggeration, but imagine yourself going bowling and you wear beautiful but uncomfortable clothes that make you sweat? Or going to the movies with a Hawaiian T-shirt.

On the other hand (since you are looking for a girl-friend anywhere) dress well whenever and wherever you go. You go shopping? Shave and dress well! You go to an exhibition? Shave and dress well. You go to a football match? Shave and dress well!

Another important thought: Woman are usually very “clothes-aware”. In fact they communicate thru clothes and thru make-up (they wear shorter skirts and redder lipstick to show they are datable). Thus by wearing good clothes YOU establish immediately a communication line, too.

You should show a tolerant and open-minded attitude towards many subjects. Imagine the following sentences:

A: “All bugga-huggawoks always make trouble. I hate them”
B: “Bugga-huggawoks are often difficult. Some of them are OK though”.

Now, whatever bugga-huggawoks are, sentence B seems to be more reasonable. If you start sentences like A and insist that there are no exceptions and get angry then

• you involve yourself in an uneasy talk
• you show intolerant temper
• you show extreme attitudes (”all“, “always“,”hate“)
• you show that you have less knowledge than someone who says sentence B (because he knows good bugga-huggawoks and you don’t)
• you show that you have little experience, since there are always exceptions, but you never encountered them
• since you have little experience you are a prejudiced hater (”I hate them“)
• you don’t admit that you are wrong most probably
• you show sarcasm and negativity and that tells that you are probably on the losing side of life (see Don’t symbolize a loser)

ANYTHING that can cause YOU a bad mood or HER a bad mood should be avoided (unless you are self-confident enough to make her smile again). Please also read and Don’t be a Crybaby.

Maybe the only exception (where you actually CAN say that you hate something) are “spiders”. Women usually hate spiders/bugs/midges/… too. But don’t forget to add “I usually kill them whenever I see them” to become her hero

Moreover, don’t start fights. Fights are something you do not want to have in a human-human relationship. Fights have winners and losers. But you shouldn’t want to make your partner lose. Nor your partner you. Do some “peaceful negotiating” where everybody wins instead.

How often do girls on the street smile to you, pay to you attention? Sometimes? Never? You wonder what you should do to make it happen?

It is very easy, just use your senses.

First of all, what attracts attention of a girl? You think appearance? You are wrong! There are 5 main aspects that girls value most of all.

• Masculinity. Women feel sorry for losers, but are fond of winners.
• Confidence. Women like self-confident men. The ones who know what they want, and how to achieve it.
• Determination. If you look at the girl for the whole evening, but do not dare to come closer to her, your chances are not high.
• Activity. As the man is proud of himself if he comes to the party in a luxurious car, the woman is proud of her man if he is Nr. 1 among the others.
• Persistence. Indecisive men are not valued not only by women, but at work either.
• Calmness.

If a man possesses these qualities, he can do nothing at all but be a favorite among the women.Though this is not enough. After you gained her attention, you have to conquer her. How? Just make a first step, or otherwise in the evening you will be again watching football with a bottle of beer.

Now you have to take a second step to call her and ask her for a date, on condition you don’t want to spend an evening with you friends instead of staying with her and nicely chatting in a cozy cafe.

Yes, it is high time to make a third step and invite her to your apartment. This might not be very easy but you must try.

So, don’t you think it is much better to try to change yourself than every night to think that the girls you met couldn’t have an opportunity to get to know you better.

Advice. What should you pay your attention to?

Your walk should be smooth, slow enough. Pay attention to the way the superstars walk (Johnny Depp, Richard Gere).

Bearing - straighten your shoulders, center of gravity a bit downwards. Keep your head in a way that your chin is parallel to the ground.

Your look should radiate kindness, it is better to smile a bit.

Voice. It is preferable to talk to the girls in a deep voice, which is at the same time ingratiating, confidential, soft and tender.

Dating Online is currently the Internets biggest craze, and its here to stay! But does it actually work?

I mean, there are tons of Dating websites, but their success with matchmaking is kept rather low key, and I found out why.

When I was searching for Online dating websites, I felt that I couldn’t trust many of the companies and that they were just trying to get money out of me. After many hours of research I was exhausted by the idea of Online Dating, it just seemed more hassle than what it was worth, but I was determined to see it through.

A lot of websites that I researched were either free or had rock bottom membership fees, and I found that these were the worst to go to, bar a few exceptions. Eventually I found a handful of websites that I could trust and were worth the money that they were charging, but it just took so long to find these trust-worthy sites.

So I signed up and begrudgingly paid the membership fee. One of the most important aspects I learnt early on is that your personal profile that you place on the dating website should be immaculate! By this I mean spend time modifying and perfecting your profile, as this is what counts the most! The last thing you want is to be receiving messages from other adults who are just not right for you, its better to make contact with another adult who is very similar to yourself, than to make contact with 10 adults who only share a few similarities.

Eventually I started meeting other people who were very compatible to myself, and as a result have made 2 great friends who are now a major part in my life and have been going out with my long-term girlfriend for over a year (I’m planning a trip to New York at Christmas, so that I can propose to her!)

Online Dating has worked wonders for me, even though it’s taken time to get their, and I Strongly believe that if you spent time looking for the right Dating website, that’s suits you and your needs then you will also have similar success. This thought gave me a brainwave.

I thought how great it would be if their was a website that had a list of all the best Dating websites, that listed these trustworthy companies, so that the biggest hassle is taken away and you can start meeting and communicating with other adults, without having to waste time looking for the best companies. So that’s what I did. I designed a website that was split into sections for American Singles, Gay personals, Jewish Singles and Christian Dating, with the best dating websites for each category.

It is full of information about Online Dating, with reviews of every Dating website and loads of interesting, related articles. There is also help on the best way of writing your personal profile.

1) Don’t look at other women

While dating, focus your attention on your date and make her feel as if she matters the most to you compared to other women. Let’s face it, women loved to be showered with attention and pampered by her man. If not for you, who else other than her immediate family members.

2) Make her feel like a queen.

On the first date, buy her dinner to show you value her company. This will also reduce any tension between two people meeting for the first time. Make her feel special. Women find this absolutely irresistible. Build a bond of fun and excitement between you and be romantic. Subsequently you can buy her gifts when the relationship progresses but never ask or even hint sexual favors in return. Women get appalled and turned off by any suggestion of sex initially.

3) Be yourself.

Don’t exaggerate or boast your credentials, successes, etc. Make the other party feel at home so that she does not feel pressured to impress or lie to you. Sincerity is the best policy. Nobody feels more comfortable around people who are genuine and sincere.

4) Don’t ever talk about your past relationships.

Don’t keep harping on them. This is a no-no and a sure turn-off. You will only project the impression that you are unable to let go and continue to give a present date a chance to get to know you better in a positive manner.

5) Treat your first date as if going for an “interview”.

You want to impress and let the other person know your qualities and characteristics for a life partner. If you are not ready to be in a commitment, let her know straight away so that you do not mislead her into false hopes. But be cautious not to boast or exaggerate stuffs that are beyond you. Your deepest communication to women is carried out by your personal style and your level of confidence. Nobody feels more at ease than being with a confident man.

6) Don’t keep splurging and live like a millionaire unless you are one yourself.

During the dating process, be careful how you handle money and spend within your own capacity. You don’t want a bank account of only 1 figure left after several dates. If you cannot afford it, go for somewhere cheaper or try less expensive alternatives. It is most undesirable if after several dates, you find that both of you are almost broke or worse, had to borrow to continue your lavish lifestyle. If your partner is in a habit of borrowing money from you, drop her or him immediately.

7) Be observant.

While dating for a while, you can conclude if this person is suitable for you for life or not. During dating, keep both eyes wide open and look for tell tale signs like a persistent borrower, in debt, etc but after marriage, keep a close eye and forgive.

The best time to date is during high school or undergraduate years as you are young with no “life baggage” but you can also date if you are single again. Marriage is meant to last for better or for worse till death do us part. But enjoy dating while you can and live life to the fullest.

There is one thing we all know for certain when it comes to the internet. That is that each year someone will come up with a way to do things faster, better and cheaper. Well, that time has come in the world of online dating. The old fashioned way of signing up for a internet dating website, putting your profile in with hundreds of others and paying a monthly fee for the privilege of searching that database of profiles is about to become totally obsolete. Dating Share ‹ a phenomenal new P2P Dating Software > is changing everything about how we handle romance using online dating sites.

• IT’S FASTER

The idea of online dating is to get in touch with interesting and exciting romantic partners quickly. The old way makes you do all the work of looking through their database and making contact.

Dating Share is a completely new way to handle online dating. You don’t pay a monthly fee to use our website. Instead, you download a P2P (peer-to-peer) software product that puts you directly in touch with a whole community of singles looking for romance online. P2P is the same technology used for music downloads and file sharing so you know this is the most up-to-date technology the internet has to offer.

• IT’S CHEAPER

Don’t you get tired of those monthly charges to “belong” to an online community to meet other singles for dates? Dating Share has no monthly fees. You download the software and purchase it like any other product. From then on out you use it all you want, as much as you want and for as long as you want with no extra fees. The internet was designed to work like this. Dating Share brings some sanity to the costs of online dating.

• IT’S BETTER

Take your time when you log on to Dating Share and you will be amazed at the variety of features you get when you purchase Dating Share. Dating Share puts YOU in the driver’s seat for your online dating life, delivering a huge internet singles community, instant communications with your contacts and good friends online, and total security, safety and privacy as you go about this area of your life that is so personal: your romantic life.

There is truly a revolution going on in the online dating services industry. And it is one that is far overdue. For years online dating has been provided by websites that provide access to dating profiles, addresses and emails for a monthly fee.

Here is how it worked:

1. The subscriber signs up and pays a monthly fee on his credit card. This is a recurring fee that is charged each month whether or not the user is happy or even uses the service at all.

2. The user sets up his profile, puts out a picture and uses the site’s database of available singles to find someone to talk to in hopes of setting up an online date.

3. The website provides other services like articles and testimonials and of course lots of links to other sites where you can spend money.

Dating Share is a true revolution in how online dating is handled. We have eliminated the monthly fees and a lot of the hassle and worry that online dating sites were known for. We adapted the same kind of service that you use for file sharing and downloading music to the online dating arena and are offering a truly innovative approach to dating online.

With Dating Share the system is much less expensive and provides a lot more service to you.

1. You download the software and try it free for a trial period. If you like it, you buy it one time and that’s it. No monthly recurring fees. You OWN it from now on.

2. Dating Share puts you in contact with online communities so you are in real interaction with others who are looking into online romance. You can have online conversations through Dating Share that are private and unlimited giving you a freedom never before possible with conventional online dating web sites.

3. You get dynamic access to photos and profile information information that is constantly up to date because of the power of the P2P (peer-to-peer) technology, the same technology music download sites use.

Dating Share is guaranteed to work and to provide 10 times the service you ever had before. You get all of this plus up-to-date articles on romance and dating, poems, jokes, advice services and so much more.

With all the websites on the Internet that offer a membership to meet and talk to people that match the criteria that you are looking for, you are bound to find someone worth dating. The question becomes how can you tell if someone is being honest.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be attractive and representing you that way. The way someone presents he or she says a lot about him or her. If you’re browsing through the online personals and see someone that catches your attention, the next step would to be to contact them, and ask for a picture if there is not already one. We all know that the first attraction usually comes from physical attraction. If the picture is not that appealing we have a tendency to continue looking.

Dating is the first step in finding a lifelong mate, so don’t be in a hurry, go ahead and take your time. Make a list of qualities that you want in a future mate. Once you’ve made your list of qualities, memorize or carry them with you. These things will determine the type of person you end up dating. Keep in mind that your list should not be more than one page, as no one is perfect and you don’t want your expectations to be too high. Everyone has negative aspects about him or her and it is up to you to determine if the positive out weigh the negative.

People carry over past relationships to current ones, and this can be a hurtful thing. Therefore, many people are opting not to date. Dating may seem like a game, but we should not be selfish because of our broken hearts and scarred emotions. Dating has the capacity for good and evil, just like anything else.

Dating can be both very positive or a negative experience. Part of what makes us is the relationships we have and the lessons learned from those relationships. We should be more considerate of the lessons learned and carry them in our lifelong commitments. The truth is that we are likely to foul up any dating mould we choose because we are not perfect.

The most important factor we should be looking at is whether or not we can act upon what is right and say no to what is wrong. You should encourage yourself to date; as you will never meet that person you could spend the rest of your life with if you do not.

Relationships do not always end in marriage, and because of this it doesn’t mean we are now less capable of giving someone else just as much honour, love, patience, kindness, trust. If you choose to be sincere, devoted, protecting, trusting, hopeful, persevering, and never failing, I believe your dating years will be incredible years.

Refusing to date tells us that we believe ourselves incapable of having a relationship in that manner that was intended for us. Dating can be a positive experience in your life and help us navigate the waters of maturity and even marriage.

· Dating can be a source of enjoyment and recreation.

· Personal individuality is developed through relationships with other people.

· Men and women need to find out the kinds of roles they find fulfilling in a close relationship.

· Dating involves learning about closeness and serves as an opportunity to institute a unique, meaningful relationship with a person of the opposite sex.

· Dating helps you find the right mate.

· Dating can provide companionship through interaction and shared activities.

· Dating can help prepare you for marriage.

Dating does not have to be frightening, creepy, forced or anything else but enjoyable. What you have to do is make an effort to make the dating years enjoyable. Group dating is a good way to make sure that you abide by the standards that you have set for yourself. Plan outings with friends, church groups, or whatever, just to have more fun.

So the search for the perfect relationship is tuff. You have tried the grocery market, the coffee houses, blind dates, social gatherings and the Barnes & Nobles. Nothing seems to work.

You have heard many successful stories from friends on internet dating. Online internet dating has been featured on TV and the magazine’s. Now, you want to give it a try. But, how do you start online dating without the pain and frustration of trying something new?

The easiest answer is to jump in with both feet. Don’t be afraid. You really cannot make a mistake or embarrass yourself. No one knows who you are until you are ready to tell them. Just remember anonymity is a very powerful tool that should be used wisely, especially if you want to have success with online dating.

Either go to your favorite dating site or do a search on your favorite search engine for online dating, internet dating or internet dating site. You will come up with many possibilities. Some of the largest dating sites are Match.com, eHarmony.com, Lavalife.com, Friendfinder.com and OneandOnly.com. There are many other good date site online. Just visit the site to see if you like it and you are comfortable with the dating site.

Once you have found a site you would like to try go and check out some of the profiles. Almost all the dating sites today allow you to search for free. And, the major sites have free features that allow you to narrow your search to a city or zipcode and customize your search for a type of partner you are looking for.

You searched and found a few prospects that interest you. So, go ahead and register. Add a profile. Definitely add a picture of yourself. Make sure the photo is accurate and up to date. If you think trying to fool a propective date with an old picture because you will win them over with your amazing personality can work, it won’t anymore. So, don’t do it.

Also, try to be accurate with your profile. If you are a smoker are a little overweight or have kids you might as well confess now rather than let someone you have gotten to like discover you lied to them. That is not how to start a successful and passionate relationship. It will always be in the back of their mind that if you lied about the small things then how can you be trusted if the relationship should grow. Lying doesn’t work so don’t start at the beginning.

Once you have gotten the basics down with your first online dating site why not register with one or two more sites. This will increase your chances of finding that perfect someone.

Good luck in your search. There are a lot of great singles out there and the online dating sites are helping to make a difficult task easier.

Millions of people subscribe to Online dating services, but very few of them actually take the time to learn what it takes to be successful on them before signing up. By going into the Online-dating scene uneducated, many people are unsuccessful in their online dating endeavors, and are unable to find people that they are compatible with. By making a few simple changes to the way you online date you can dramatically change your results, and immediately start meeting quality people that you would like to date, and even have them start contacting you.

Step #1 Pick the right dating service

Not all online dating Services were created equally. Before you sign up, first visit a few different sites, and browse through their member profiles to see if you would be interested in dating any of the people you find there. Also look at the types of features that the site offers you, and how much you will have to pay to sign up. Some Online dating services like datingshare will charge you only one time for unlimited use of their service. Other sites like match.com and eHarmony charge by the month. Make sure you know what you are signing up for before you pay for any service.

Step #2 Have a great headline

The headline of your profile is the first thing people read about you, and what you say will often determine whether they open up your profile to learn more, or skip on to the next match. Make sure that you headline is something catchy that captures a bit of your personality.

Step #3 Pleasant profiles

Try to keep your profile positive. Many people fall into the trap of writing negative comments within their profile. Making negative comments about online dating in general, or about yourself and your dating past can immediately turn people off and make them change their mind about contacting you. Try to keep everything in your profile positive and upbeat.

Step #4 Include a picture

People who include pictures along with their profiles are twice as likely to receive responses than those who don’t. Even if you think that the pictures you have are less than flattering, include them anyway. Not including a photo can make people think you have something to hide, or worse, can make people skip right over your profile without even giving you a chance. When you do include pictures try to include several different photographs. Include at least one close up picture of you face, as well as several full body shots and pictures of you along with friends or doing activities that you enjoy. The pictures you select can not only give people an idea of what you look like, but also should give them an insight into your personality as well.

Online dating can be a great way to meet people, and can give you the opportunity to meet people that you are compatible with that you might have not otherwise had the opportunity to meet.

If you are single and you want men to desire your company more and truly cherish you, then here are eleven dating rules you cannot afford to break:

1. Never go to bed with a man on the first date – As much as you would like to ravish the hunk you have a crush on, do not let him feel that you are cheap and easy by going to bed with him on your first date. It does not matter that he is promising that he will respect you in the morning, or that the way he feels about you will never change. If you do it, you run the risk of reducing your value to him. Men are more attracted to women they spend time to get to know, than they are to those they quickly jump into the sack with.

2. Never call him first within the first week of your first date – If your date asks for your phone number and does not call you within the first week, do not call him. If a man is interested in you, he will call you during the first week of taking you out on a date. When you call him during that first week before he calls you, you give him that impression that you are overly anxious. The last thing you want is for this new person to feel that you are a little desperate or forward.

3. Never use obscenities - If you curse like a sailor, it will turn off your date, if you let that part of your personality out on your first date. It is a turnoff for most men. It certainly could ruin the chance of someone getting to know how nice you really are on the inside.

4. Never engage in a conversation about marriage on your first date – No matter how much of a good time you are having with your date, do not bring up the topic of marriage, unless your date asks about how you feel about the subject. When a woman brings it up on a date, it creates the impression that you are on a hunt for a husband. Nothing kills a date like a woman who comes across as obviously interviewing men for marriage – trying to find out if they are ready to make that serious commitment. There is a right time for serious conversations – your first date is not the time. Get to know your date first.

5. Never flirt with other men while you are on a date – The cardinal sin of any first date is to flirt with other men in the presence of your date. Do not do it. If you are trying to get your date to see that you can attract other men, flirting with other men in front of him is not the way to do it. It is disrespectful and conveys that you are shallow and untrustworthy. Your date will feel that if you have the gall to flirt now, when you are supposed to be on your best behavior, what will happen when you get hitched up? Most men wouldn’t want to find out.

6. Never bring up your ex-boyfriend unless he asks you – Let your past remain in the past, unless your date wants to find out why you broke up with your ex-boyfriend. Never compare your ex with your date, nor refer to something someone else did as something that your ex would do. It simply shows that you have not gotten over him.

7. Do not ask your date how much money he makes – This is definitely a no-no. It shows that you could be a gold-digger, and you do not want that label. Once a man sees that you measure the value of a man by the size of his wallet, you can bet that your date will be turned off.

8. Do not let out the skeletons in your closet - Don’t let it be known that you were a drug head or prostitute at one time. Your ugly past, even though you are a new person now, can prevent your date from getting to know who you have become after going through a tough past. Leave the horror stories for when he gets to know you and can easily understand and accept all of you.

9. Don’t go out of your way to be funny, just be yourself – Don’t start clowning around; pretending to be someone you are not. Don’t turn your date into a night of cracking jokes or of proving to your date that you have a fantastic sense of humor. Be yourself and you will do just fine.

10. Do not order the most expensive meal on the menu – Ordering the most expensive thing on the menu at a restaurant shows that you are a potential gold-digger. It also shows that you are greedy. Men love women that are conscious of the cost of things.

11. Do not show him you have a voracious appetite - Just because you are famished does not mean that you should order everything on the menu – super-sized. Most men are turned off by women with huge appetites – men see that as not being feminine and lady-like. Moreover, men feel that if your appetite is this big when he has not gotten to know you, you may swallow a horse when you really get comfortable with each other.

How Your Dating Life Could Affect Your Marriage

If you’ve ever wanted motivation to work on your semi-serious dating relationship, here’s some: Experts say that people who are able to sustain lasting relationships before they marry stay married longer and are more likely to be married for life than those whose pre-marital relationships don’t last very long. That means that by working on your current relationship, even if you don’t end up marrying that person, you are contributing to the success of your future marriage.

Relationships aren’t always easy. In the beginning, the level of passion and excitement you feel for the other person drowns out the things that aren’t so desirable. You are so excited about being around him that you quickly forget about his annoying humming and the fact that he disagrees with you politically. But, as with all relationships, the new eventually wears off and what didn’t bother you before becomes a major annoyance or issue.

The change is due to the ever increasing intimacy between the two of you. The more you are around each other, the more the “little things” began bothering you. This isn’t all bad. It means that you care. When something on TV annoys you, you simply turn the channel because you have no commitment or intimacy to the channel or the person annoying you on the screen. But when you have even small levels of commitment and intimacy you have greater potential to become disturbed by some of the other person’s actions because they are a major part of your life.

Expect it

I’m telling you all this so that you can expect annoyances and issues to make your relationship less effortless and natural than it was in its beginning. That’s not time to quit. Not only does a human being deserve more from you (and you from another), but you need to “practice” the commitment levels that will be necessary in a marriage.

If you break the relationship off at the first sign of conflict you have hurt youself in two ways:

1. You might have married this person if you had whethered the difficult days and come out even closer to each other than before the trouble began.

2. You didn’t allow yourself to learn how to function in a relationship that was experiencing difficulty. When you marry, there will be times of difficulty, arguments, hurt feelings, annoying habits and anger. If you canceled a pre-marriage relationship because it wasn’t all “smooth sailing,” it will be much more difficult on you when you actually marry and experience friction.

Know When to Fold ‘Em

I’m certainly not saying that any relationship should be forced. A person can only stand so much before enough becomes enough. However, I am saying that one of the best indicators of who will make a “good spouse” might be how he or she reacts to conflict in your relationship. If she can’t handle a little conflict before marriage, it will be difficult for her to handle it when you’re married.

If anything else, consider conflict as a personal challenge. Not a reason to call off your relationship, but an opportunity to test your ability to stay committed despite difficult times. Some will handle this better than others. If you notice a constant pattern of conflict, it might help you decide against continuing your relationship. But the bottom line is, don’t give up at the first sign of conflict so that you’ll have some experience when it happens in future relationships and so that you don’t ditch “Mr. (or Mrs.) Right” because you had a few wrong days.

A friend of mine recently exclaimed, “Dating is so complicated!” I thought about it for a moment and realized, “No it’s not!” It’s actually very simple if you follow two principles that will solve 90% of your romantic issues. Let’s begin.

You meet someone. You’re attracted to them. They’re attracted to you. You start dating. Now, I know it’s not always that simple. You may be interested in someone that initially isn’t as interested or vice versa. Maybe you’re already in a relationship and someone else piques your interest or you like someone that is already committed. How you arrive at dating someone doesn’t really matter, as long as you’re both attracted and available.

As I said, you start dating. Here are the two things you must keep in mind:

If: You’re happy, the other person treats you well and your life is better as a result of that person being in it, you stay.

You must have all three. There’s not point in being with someone that treats you well and makes your life better, but for one reason or another you’re unhappy (probably because you’re not compatible). On the other hand:

If: You’re not happy or the other person doesn’t treat you well or your life is not better as a result of that person being in it, you leave.

You only need one of these to be present.

You’re probably saying to yourself, “Yes, that’s obvious.” If it’s so obvious, then why are there so many bad relationships? Think back to your last liason or even to a present one. How many times have you stayed with someone you weren’t happy with? Or, what about the people that didn’t treat you well but you stayed anyway? Why does that happen?

I believe that all too often people hand their self worth and self esteem over to their romantic partner. They feel that if someone loves (and I use that term loosely) them, that they are worthwhile. If they don’t have someone in their lives, then they assume they’re not. You may have heard the old saying: You’re nobody till somebody loves you. Yukk! Please don’t ever believe that. How a person treats you speaks to who they are – never to who you are. Let me prove this to you using an extreme example. Let’s say you’re dating someone who’s physically abusive. They say, “You make me so mad! You make me want to hit you.” Now, if this were true, that would mean that everyone you dated would hit you when they became angry. Of course we know this doesn’t happen. Someone else may choose to walk away or to talk to you. You cannot change how a person behaves. If you don’t believe me, think about the times you tried to change yourself. How easy was it? Exactly!

The other excuse for staying with someone that you’re not happy with is because you think the situation will get better. Hope is always the last to die and the person that is nice to you once in a while, keeps you hanging on. How much time are you willing to waste in a bad relationship? Time is a non renewable resource. Once it’s gone, it’s never coming back.

If I’m single today, it’s because I stayed with people that didn’t make me happy, didn’t treat me well and didn’t make my life better. I hope you’ll be wiser.

There is a simple online dating secret that can save you a lot of time and energy!

This will prevent you from losing interest and focus on meeting women online.

This will save you money and heartache…

OK, OK, what is it you ask?

When I first started dating online I made a BIG mistake…I emailed contacts for MONTHS before meeting them.

This was not good.

Why?

Because it’s a waste of time…

Here is the secret;

You MUST meet the lady as soon as possible after contacting them!

I recommend no more than two weeks or four emails from first reply.

This prevents you from losing momentum and building up high expectations of the lady contact.

What’s the point of spending time, energy and focus on someone you haven’t actually met?

Believe me, it can be disappointing meeting someone you imagined was perfect, to find them not suitable for you…after six weeks of emails.

So the key is to meet them QUICKLY, so that you can qualify her and meet again if it’s on…and move on quickly and happily if it’s not.

This enables you to use your time and energy more effectively…meet more contacts…and have more success.

It also increases your odds of meeting someone suitable to get involved with a whole lot quicker.

So never forget dating is a numbers game and you need to be active…

Don’t get caught up in email novels before you meet. Keep it short and funny to create mystic and compel her to want to meet you.

If you’re bored of regular dating or you’ve heard of this thing called online dating and you’re curious to try it out, why not? Similar to dating you can still meet women, make friends and perhaps even more! But online dating is not all fun and games and there are a lot of things that a person has to know about online dating before one gets into the intricacies of it. Online dating may seem to be the simplest thing in the world but it is not. It should be viewed in all earnestness or things could go hay wire. Every game has its rules and unless you know all the rules you just can’t become a good player and eventually a winner.

Online dating is, to put is very simply a free dating service that with the help of a machine namely the computer via the Internet. That in itself makes the idea and the process a very novel one indeed. Hundreds of happy single people across the globe have been successful in finding suitable partners by the means of online dating.

The reason is pretty simple. It is very much the same reason that the internet itself became so popular. The Internet opens up a whole new world of communication and contact. Online dating is fast, you can have as much privacy as you want and it’s cheap!

In order to enjoy it and succeed at online dating there are a few rules to remember and they are:

• If you don’t know where to start internet dating, just hit some chat rooms of your interest. There you’ll be able to meet interesting people who have the same hobbies and preferences.

• You can either write your own personal ad or get a dating service to do it for you. It’s of course better if you can write your own personals to give it your special touch. Feel free to embellish on certain details but as much as possible be honest with what you put in it. It is of course important to remember that people will judge you depending on what you write so you might want to be careful about that.

• After you’ve met someone you think you’re interested in, get to know them better by moving into a private chat room with them. Women also enjoy conversing through email and the quicker she replies the better your chances are of getting a date. Do note though that women hate waiting so its best to return her emails promptly.

• Don’t worry about making mistakes and goofing up when you’re trying out online dating. You are hidden behind the anonymity of the internet and you can erase your mistakes a lot easier than you could if you had goofed up in real life. So just go out there and chat up a storm with anyone who seems remotely interesting.

Top 6 Dating Tips To Help You Date Women And Succeed At It! Read About The Rules Of Dating And How You Can Naturally Attract The Right Women.

Dating women is extremely easy once you know what to do. But if you don’t know where to start that’s fine because here are some dating tips on what you should do on dates and how you can attract women while enjoying yourself at the same time.

Tip 1: Look Good
You may not be the most handsome guy in the world but that doesn’t mean that you can’t look good! Self grooming is extremely important and it doesn’t take a lot of effort to clean up before a date and pull on a clean ironed shirt. If you date women looking like a slob it’s no wonder that they’re not interested in you. Small tips to remember include bathing, smelling good, and trimming away nose hair.

Tip 2: Don’t Lie
Out of all the dating tips, this is probably one of the most important once of them all. I realize that more often than not it is easier to lie about certain things or even embellish on the truth to make your life sound more interesting. However the more you life the harder it is to keep track of the details and after your 4th date with the same woman will you actually remember the lies you’ve told since your first date?

Tip 3: Have A Sense Of Humor
Women love to date men who have a good sense of humor. If you can make her laugh half your battle is already won. This is because by making her laugh she is happy and enjoying herself. Laughing is also good because it creates positive vibes and leaves her with good memories of her date with you. When she remembers how fun this date was she’ll want to go out with you again for sure!

Tip 4: Be Yourself
Most dating tips will tell you that there are expectations that you have to live up to in order to attract and date women. This is not true! Men and even women always forget that pretending to be someone else will not work for long. This goes back to the 2nd tip of not lying because sooner or later the truth will slip out. And besides, wouldn’t you much rather have women date you for who you are rather than someone you are pretending to be?

Tip 5: Be A Mystery
One of the most important dating tips is to make sure that you are never always available. Women are curious and naturally attracted to what they don’t know. So if you project yourself as a bit of a mystery they will naturally want to go out with you more. So when they call you it’s advisable to not always be available at their beck and call. This is one of the most important rules of dating. Be nice but don’t be too nice and you will have women always coming back for more.

Tip 6: Enjoy Dating
The final tip to succeed at dating and women is to actually enjoy your dates. There is no point in dating or trying to find someone if all you do is stress out on your dates on how you can make it perfect or how you sound or look like. Dating women is supposed to be relaxing and enjoyable. If you are not enjoying yourself she will be able to tell and in turn she won’t have a good date either. Don’t expect too much out of a single date and who knows; even if you don’t find your significant other or soulmate, dating women could get you a new best friend.

Surprise the love of your life with an all-day date! This is for those really special times in your life like a significant anniversary, a special birthday, or just to let her know how much you love her. This date takes a bit more planning than most, but will be a day that she remembers for the rest of her life.

Have a theme and oddly enough, leave early in the morning on the day of the date. Plan on being back around 5:00. Leave your first note where she will find it. This note should say something like, “This is going to be a very special day. I want you to start by taking a nice long warm shower. Relax and enjoy yourself.”

Leave the next note near the shower, telling her to open it after her bath. It could say something like, “Go to the laundry room and find your first gift of the day!” After her nice long shower, she will go and find the first gift, maybe a stuffed animal. Underneath it or between the paws there should be the next card that tells her to, “Go to the mall and spend the $50 on something you have been wanting to get yourself! Be back by 1:00.”

Your next clue could say, “Just relax and read a book or watch a movie”. As the next surprise, have flowers delivered at 2:00. Have two cards. One should say, “Open Now” and should tell her how much you love her and that you hope she is enjoying her day. The second should say, “Open at 4:00”. This will continue to build the suspense.

So, it’s 4:00 and she’s ready for her next clue. Tell her to get dressed for an evening at a nice restaurant and give her enough information to know what to wear. You can ruin the whole day by not providing enough information so that she knows how to prepare.

Come home about 5:00 and see how she is coming along. If she has enjoyed the day, which she should have by now, she should be telling you how much fun she is having and how she can’t wait to see what is coming next.

Have a limousine come and pick you up to take you to the restaurant. This will really surprise her and it will make all of her friends jealous.

If the restaurant takes reservations, make them in advance. If you know the restaurant well, visit them ahead of time. Drop off a single rose in a small vase during the day and ask the maître d’ to present it to her when she comes in the door with you. Your date will continue to be surprised in a very nice way as the evening goes on.

Next, take your girl to the nicest hotel in town, again delivered by limo! This hotel part is where the extra planning needs to take place. The next part is something that few guys will ever do and something that she will remember forever! Pack a small suitcase or duffel bag and deliver it to the hotel a day or two in advance with casual clothes and toiletries. No woman wants to go home the next morning wearing the dress-up clothes that she wore the night before! She will be much more relaxed and relaxation leads to good romantic feelings!

Arrange for breakfast in bed and have the limo pick you up and drive you home!

The daylong date takes some work, but is really a lot of fun. It includes the day-long anticipation of things to come, notes, secrets, and surprises lasting all the way up until the following morning! It doesn’t get much better than that. This is the date that she will always remember, and so will you!

Language is a behavior potentially under our control, and a powerful loop. It’s how we act upon the world, and how the world acts upon us. It’s how we express our thoughts and feelings, and it also influences our thoughts and feelings. This includes what we say to ourselves as well as what others say to us. Barring physical force, language is how we get what we want.

Being able to name something gives power. I’m not talking about naming furniture. I’m talking about the hard stuff. It’s “the nameless dread” that gets to us. We can deal with “I hate asking women out and risking rejection.” (After you read this article, you’ll reframe that as “It’s unpleasant to risk rejection, but I’ll guts it out to get what I want.” If you can name reactions, you can think and plan a strategy. When you realize there’s fear (of losing her) behind your anger (she’s going on a vacation alone), you can avoid doing something stupid. A pounding heart and blind anger are good for telling you what you want, not good for getting it.

A man doesn’t always choose a verbal strategy, but it must be in your repertoire, and it’s women’s #1 strategy.

How do people know you’re shy? Once you show up, they know from your language—verbal and nonverbal. At a party, a shy guy hangs back, walks the edges of the crowd, doesn’t interrupt a formed-group, waits for permission to speak, and says little. Eye contact is brief, gestures small, and posture tense. It’s as if he’s trying to “make small.” Compare this to the mating strategy of most male animals who puff up, bellow, rear on their hind legs to appear taller, extend their arms and beat their chests, and “make big.” The message is, “Look at me. I’ve got it. You want it. Come get it.”

Women who see a shy guy think he’s in distress and they either want to change you (kick your butt), avoid you (dead end), or help you ([s]mother hen).

Do you like those options? I’m not telling you what to do, but if your shyness is keeping you from getting the women you want, you might want to try something different.

1. Manage your self-talk about women.

Locker-room talk with the guys happens, but if that’s how you refer to women in your own head, objectifying them as body parts is going to manifest and you’ll drive the good ones away. Get neutral and positive in your head. Your date isn’t a “babe,” a “dog,” a “ball-buster,” or a “heart-breaker.” She’s a woman, she’s got a name, she’s got traits, qualities, and a personality.

And don’t tell me “men fall in love visually.” That’s like saying “toddlers throw things when they get mad.” We have a 50% divorce rate going on right now, and it isn’t because a man trying to marry a pair of legs is such a great idea.

The divorce rate for second marriages is 60%, and for third, 70%, which means those that didn’t learn the first time, don’t learn again, and that’s the definition of insanity — doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

Marriage is a lesson in learning TO love A REAL HUMAN BEING, not falling IN ove with a turned-up nose, which requires EQ, and if you made a bad call, like choosing a woman whose bra size is bigger than her IQ, it’s one long painful trip to hell that can wreck your health and finances. It’s particularly risky to marry a woman 20 years younger. The odds are against you, heavily, and smart guys play the odds, right? You would have to be at least 40, and the statistics say the older the man at the time of the divorce, the more likely it was the woman who filed. Ergo, she’ll be the one to leave. If the man did it for ego, he has dug his own grave, which is what ego creates.

2. Manage your self-talk about dating.

If you say, “I’m too shy. I always get turned down” that’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. You’re better off counting sheep! Best bet, reframe: “I have what it takes. I’m doing fine.”

3. Manage your language when you’re out.

This takes practice. What you need to do is amp up enough to get noticed, and to get treated right. The best way to do this is with coaching. Also observe a man who’s getting what you want. It’s a set of behaviors, like a tennis serve. It can be learned.

Learn and practice now, not when she’s got your head spinning. We don’t practice punts and passes in a game. We practice before, with a coach.

AS IT HEATS UP, AVOID THESE:

1. Tunnel Vision. Seeing what suits you, not what’s going on. Think straight. Waking up once with a coyote-girl is expected. Finding out you married an addict isn’t.

2. Taking It Out of Context. She emails you that you sure were grumpy last night when you were hungry. You tell your buddy it’s over because she she’s a nag. She said you were grumpy.

3. Arbitrary Inferences. On the third date, don’t look at her in that slinky black dress and infer (1) she sleeps around, or (2) she wants to have your sons. She’s dressing that way because that’s how she dresses.

4. Overgeneralization. Over-reacting to something small. It’s been 3 months, you’re in love, and that night she’s late. Don’t think, “She’s late. She can’t be trusted. She’s irresponsible.”

5. Polarized Thinking. If you start wanting her bad, you don’t have two choices – (1) ask her to marry you now, or (2) dump her so you don’t have to go through the pain. You have 100 options. Every time. That’s EQ.

6. Magnification. You go on your first vacation together and she spends money like a drunk sailor. You think, “I can’t marry this woman. She ’ll bankrupt me.” Likewise don’t “awfulize” it. Yes you can stand that out-of-control feeling you get when you’re with her. It’s love, cowboy. It’s supposed to feel good. (Like bull-riding feels good, right?)

7. Biased Explanations/Negative Labeling. She’s testy with the waiter one night, and you make an isolated incident based on fatigue into a character flaw. She lets another guy kiss her on the cheek. You label her the “s” word and suddenly she’s evil.

8. Personalizing. Sensitive Shy Guy, there are reasons why people do things that have nothing to do with “Yo”. She’s quiet tonight because she has a cold.

9. Mind Reading. It’s a good way to get your heart broken. One girl’s “I love you” means forever after. Another’s means “Great party and you’re cute.”

10. Divine Right. The feeling is strong, it’s yours, so it’s justified and immutable. Not. If you’re mad, you can get unmad. And it isn’t someone else’s fault. True you wouldn’t be mad if she hadn’t lost her keys, but someone else wouldn’t be mad because she lost her keys. (Honest!)

What does an Internet dating service have to offer?

Can you really fall in love online?

What is an Internet dating service?

If you’re reading this article then you already know that an Internet dating service is a chat room or message board where like-minded people can meet and chat. Meeting people through an Internet dating service could well lead to a romantic encounter and differs quite considerably from meeting people in the real world. By using an Internet dating service you are giving yourself the all important chance to meet and get to know any potential partners before taking the plunge and meeting them in person.

By using an Internet dating service we can take all of the chance out of meeting people and make sure that they really are what they say they are. How often have you met someone and thought they were amazing only to find out they are completely different people after a couple of dates? Using an Internet dating service lets you screen potential partners before it goes this far.

Chalk and cheese don’t always match.

While the old saying goes that opposites attract it’s always nice to have at least one thing in common and a fleeting glance of a person’s profile on an Internet dating service can tell you whether this is the case or not. Perhaps you’re allergic to cats; you don’t have to talk to anyone that mentions the house full of feline friends in their profile. In real life it could take a couple of dates before you get to meet their extended family and realize that you’ve made the wrong decision.

Which is my best profile?

You don’t even need to check the profiles to learn about people, just ask them a few questions; that’s why you’re both there and neither of you should mind answering a couple of thinly veiled screeners. I wouldn’t advise a seven page check list laid out next to your PC that every applicant needs to fill in before you will talk to them again, but you know what really matters to you and it should only take a couple of minutes of chatting to be able to steer a conversation in the right direction to find out any information you feel is vital.

An Internet dating service acts as a sort of chaperone in this manner, you can always fall back on the hundreds of other people you’ve already met if you feel you need to get away from someone or you can simply turn your PC off and wait for them to move on to the next person.

People in long-term relationships, whether they are married or dating, often complain about getting into a rut. Your relationship may have started off with the great burst of passion and excitement but perhaps it began to wane because life is busy and work can where you out by the end of the day.

If you’re in a dating relationship that seems to be in a rut, or wonder why you can’t keep a long term relationship exciting anymore, perhaps you need to go back to the beginning. That doesn’t mean you need to break up with your current partner and find someone new, it means you need to refresh the relationship with exciting and spontaneous activities.

When you look back on a period of your life, what is it that you remember? Is it the average day-in, day-out activities? Not likely. It is more likely those fun and spur-of-the-moment times when you did things that were hilarious or scary or new. That’s what it means to go back to the beginning of a relationship, when everything you do is spontaneous and new.

Next time you and your girlfriend or boyfriend are deciding to do something on Friday, don’t settle for dinner-and-a-movie. Do something different! Here are some ideas:

Play paintball
Rent a classic car
Go skydiving
Have a picnic

Or surprise your date with something spontaneous:

Start a water fight
Go for a romantic boat ride and tip the boat
Blindfold your date and take them somewhere they never been
Surprise your date at work just as they’re finishing up for the day

Relationships fail for many reasons. One of the saddest reasons is that people simply drift apart because the other person doesn’t excite them anymore. It doesn’t have to be that you’re your relationship, whether dating or married, can thrive when it is filled with adventures that the two of you share as you build memories together.

You’ll look back on your time together with fondness as you consider the many fun and spontaneous things you did together. But doing those things is a choice. Choose to return to the beginning of your relationship and have fun again!

So you’ve decided to start searching for Mr. or Ms. Right online. Good for you! So now what? What should you consider first? Well, first and foremost, decide on what you want to get out of this experience. Do you merely want to find a movie buddy? Or maybe you’re interested in finding someone to date on special occasions such as family gatherings, or a wedding date? Are you looking for a long-term relationship? Maybe you’re interested in “Holy Matrimony”? A boyfriend/girlfriend? A sex buddy? Online dating can be fun and exciting, but before you “jump into the pool” so to speak, it really is a good idea to think about exactly what type of person it is that you’d like to get out of this experience. You want to make sure that the person that you end up with, wants the same things with regard to being in a relationship that you do.

The first secret (and it’s more of a common sense thing than a secret) of online dating would be, “Decide EXACTLY what it is that you want to get out of this experience.” It really will help guide you as you make your way through the online dating maze.

As technology becomes more ingrained in our everyday lives, more people are turning to the Internet for social purposes. And over the past few years, this has become a more accepted form of communication. Friendships are formed and relationships made online.

But just how much trouble is it to join the online dating sites? And is it safe?

A few years ago, there was significant attention placed on those who turned to online dating. Consumers were warned that the sites were unsafe, used by predators who were looking for victims. But increased attention to security and awareness on the part of those using the services has made an incredible difference.

Many of the dating sites are now offering members ways to talk anonymously at first, then allowed to meet via web cam in private chat rooms. With the web cam options, it’s more difficult to hide things like age.

Some sites also screen members personally. While the sites make no claims that they’ve gone so far as to perform background checks, they do often verify addresses and other information. Again, this isn’t a full-fledged safety net, just one more precaution toward making online dating safer.

As more people are becoming completely comfortable with online communication and more people have access to Internet at home and at work, online dating sites have flourished. There are many sites that have very short sign-up processes and others that require you to answer lots of questions.

You’ll typically be allowed to register for free, though you have to pay dues in order to gain access to other members’ contact information. This is how the sites are able to boast that they have thousands of profiles available. Since it’s free to sign up and post your information and photo, many people take that step with no intentions of going further.

If you’re considering joining an online dating service, check out the membership requirements first. If security is important, take time to read what steps the dating service has taken to ensure the safety of its members.

Above all, take time to protect yourself. Remember that not everyone is honest. Just as you could meet a person on a park bench that offers lies about his or her life, you’ll meet some people at online dating sites that are also untruthful. But you may also meet the love you’ve been looking for.

Want to increase the number of responses that your dating profile is getting?

There are more than few ways to beef up the attention that your online dating profile is getting. One stands out above the rest. You can easily increase the amount of attention that you’re getting online.

Think about it. When you’re browsing online for a potential date or partner, what’s the first thing that you look for? Do you spend any time at all, willy nilly reading profiles, merely looking at the oh-so-creative nicknames for some idea as to just who or what type of person this could be? Or are you one of the literal millions of people whose attention is drawn to a picture first?

Let’s face it, we’re a “based in the physical, ‘gotta see it first” society, like it or not. The first thing we’re drawn to as human beings are looks. No two ways about it. There are those who criticize it, but it’s a fact of life. That doesn’t mean that one has to be drop dead gorgeous to get any attention, but if you don’t want the opposite sex to see what you look like, why should they want to make the first move in getting to know you?

Adding a picture of yourself to your online dating profile is THE best way to increase the attention that your online profile is getting. It doesn’t have to be an airbrushed, glossy photograph, suitable for Vogue or Cosmo magazine. Just find, or have a friend take a picture of you the way that you normally look. Don’t go out and have photos taken in a studio just for your online profile. Studio photos are generally fairly deceiving. Posting a picture that makes you look like a supermodel, when you look nothing like it on a regular basis is deceptive. Be real.

Unless you’re some celebrity, posting a picture with your profile shouldn’t be that big a deal. Take a chance. Live a little. What do you have to lose?

Come on people…if you’re gonna do it, do it right and upload the picture!

Here’s to happy dating!

The personal profile that you post onto an online dating site is the key to attracting and meeting the right person.

However writing about yourself can be a daunting task, especially when faced with a blank computer screen. You want to appear confident but not arrogant, independent but caring, adventurous but sensitive and above all someone who on paper represents the true you. It can be very difficult.

A good way to start your profile writing is to take a few minutes out to scribble down some thoughts about yourself on a piece of paper.

For example answer the following questions about yourself:

What am I like physically? How old am I, how tall am I, what colour hair and eyes do I have?

What is my current personal situation? Where do I live, what is my marital status, do I have kids, am I working?

What do I like? Do I like being at home or down the pub, am I a sports nut or do I prefer other interests, what food do I like and when was the last time that I had a really good night out?

What am I looking for? Am I searching for someone to marry, to have kids with or simply to meet up with now and again for drinks and something to eat.

What makes me special? What can I offer someone else, what do my friends and family like about me, what have I achieved in life or what am I aiming for?

What are my little querks? Do I like Brown sauce with everything, am I addicted to Eastenders, does politics make my blood boil, do I like red or white wine?

What do I love in life?Is it cuddles on a cold night, the Sunday Papers in Bed, football on Saturday with the lads, walking the dog?

All of these things make up the bits and pieces that ensure that you are special, individual and a one-off. And these will be the tit-bits of information that attract a like minded soul to your profile and hopefully into your life.

Once you have complied your list and given it some thought sit yourself down and write your first draft remembering the following five golden rules:

Be Honest!

Imagine turning up to meet a six foot two professional polo player and instead meeting a five foot one dog trainer. The key to all relationships is honesty and if you are dishonest to start with you are on a hiding to nothing. Be yourself and be proud of who you are, not who you may wish to be or feel that you have to be.

A Picture Paints A Thousand Words!

If you want more responses, add a great picture to your profile. Try to find one that accurately represents the way you look in normal life. Think about how you present yourself and your dress. Stuffing your rugby socks down your Speedos and posing semi-nude to show off your once a fortnight gym muscles and tattoos saying “I Love My Mum” may at the time be a good idea but they are unlikely to attract anyone who your mum would actually approve off. Similarly showing off your well washed and slightly off-white Marks and Spencers Bra, G-string and Stocking Combo set will attract a certain sort on interest in your profile. Interest that may be unwelcome. Think carefully about how you want to portray yourself and dress accordingly.

Read All About It!

Think of a snappy headline. “Boy Seeks Girl” isn’t going to attract a lot of attention. Be creative but do not stray too far from the truth. “Brad look-a-like seeks his Angelie - Jennifers need not apply,” will catch people’s attention but you may fall down with regard to your photo!

Get Real!

Reveal a little of the true you. What have you been through in your life, how has it shaped you, what do you believe in? The more personal the profile the better the response. Just do not reveal any personal contact details.

Make Spell Check Your Friend

First impressions count and you do not want your first impression to be negative due to bad spelling or grammar. Check your profile over and over again and if you can get someone else to check it.

One Final Tip From Us

When choosing your site user name avoid phrases such as bunny boiler, mad stalker, nasty cow or nutcase. They instantly bring to mind negative connotations and will possibly turn off that one person whom you were destined to meet.

In his book “The Bridge Across Forever,” Richard Bach asks the question,

“Have you ever felt alone in a world of strangers, missing someone you have never met?”

The book goes on to describe his search for a partner in life, what he calls a “soul mate.”

I believe that all of us have a profound desire to find someone with whom to have a deep and abiding, intimate relationship.

This search springs from a longing inside each of us to find completion and wholeness with another person.

We fear what I we want most

Let’s take a look at some of the obstacles to finding this kind of relationship.

Fear of intimacy

We human beings are fairly complicated. Many people deeply fear the very thing they most want. Striking a healthy balance between a fear of and a desire for an intimate relationship can be very difficult. When a fear of intimacy takes over, people can become experts at relationship sabotage.

Faulty relationship radar. Some people continually make the same poor choices of partner. It’s as if each of us had an “internal radar” that picks up “our kind” of person. Whether your radar scans for healthy or unhealthy choices depends on how it is set. How your internal radar, is set depends on three factors:

1) your self-esteem,

2) the model of relationships set by the family in which you grew up and

3) your own relationship experience.

Movies, literature and music have given us the notion that “somewhere out there” is the one perfect person for each of us. I’ll probably get some letters about this, but I don’t think this matches reality. If you just look around, you’ll notice that many “perfect matches” are divorced within a few years.

In one episode of the 1-V show “M•A•S•H” is a scene in which Hawkeye and Margaret are sitting at a bar commiserating about their relationships, which have just ended. One says to the other, “Our problem is that we keep looking I for a perfect, tailored fit in an offthe-rack world.”.

This is where a great many people get stuck. It’s my belief that in fact there are many people out there who have the potential to be a “good fit” as a soul mate.

Chain relationships. In much the same way that chain smokers will smoke one cigarette after another, some people move out of one relationship and then immediately into another’. These people are typically running from something and have very little knowledge or sense of self when they are not in, relationships.

Concentrate on yourself

Now that we have looked at a few of the obstacles to finding a soul mate, let’s consider a few tips that might aid in the search.

Becoming the right person vs. looking for the right person This means at least two things:

1) developing yourself to the point that you become eligible to be someone’s right person and

2) adjusting your own relationship radar so that you bring yourself into contact with suitable potential partners.

The truth of this has been borne out in my interviews with hundreds of couples. When I ask the question “How did you two find each other?” countless people say that, when they stopped looking and focused on something else in their lives, their current partners just showed up.

It’s an interesting paradox - finding by not looking.

Know what you are looking for

I was on a radio program recently when a man phoned in to say that going to singles meetings looking for a partner is like going to a used-car lot to find a nice car. I bet he gets lots of dates.

That aside, a different car analogy is useful here. When we go shopping for a car, we usually have a mental list of things we must have in a car as well as things we would like to have. Sometimes, we find one with many things we would like to have, but without one of the must-haves. It would still drive OK, but it’s just not for us.

Looking for a soul mate, it’s important to know what you would like to have and what you must have. That’s a list worth developing.

Have you seen the junk that is being advertised on the web as “free dating tips” and the like? I just can’t believe it. Oh, I suppose I can, but really. Are people that desperate? I don’t mean that we shouldn’t learn something about dating and how to be successful with the opposite gender. I’m all for that. But the dreck that passes for advice just floors me.

You’ll find everything from love potions to hypnosis to advice. There are sites like one where some guy named Payton Kane claims he can teach you to walk, speak and act in a way that will get you into bed with any woman you meet within 15 minutes. Why would you want to go to bed with someone you’ve only known for 15 minutes, anyway? I ask you. Get a grip!

There is obviously a market for this junk. But let’s talk about something that might really work. How about being yourself? How about being honest and getting to know someone for a while? I assure you that you stand a better chance of finding what you really want that way.

Relationship author David Deida, hit the nail on the head when he said that what men really want from women is their responsiveness and what women really want from men is their full presence. Skip those manipulative seduction techniques and learn something real. His book, “Finding God Through Sex” is a really radical new way of looking at both love and sex!

There are a lot of good books and workshops out there on relationships. Be picky. Talk to others who have been to these workshops before you pay your money. Sure, you can probably find all the one-night stands you want, but really, that’s not what you really want, is it? Try “Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment” by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks or “Loving Relationships” by Sondra Ray or “A Conscious Person’s Guide to Relationships” by Ken Keyes.

These, along with practice and persistence, will take you much farther than any love potions or seduction schemes!

If you’re single and in sunny southern California, the climate for seeking a serious relationship (beyond casual dating & sex) is pretty dismal. Of course, you always have the option of carrying on meaningless conversation at any one of a hundred Happy Hours (disguised as Yoga Classes or a Sushi Gathering) with any one of a hundred casual potential dates. Meanwhile back at the ranch, your girlfriends are getting toasted in the corner. Placing you right back to, Square One. Option #2: You’re on the internet scrolling thru the myriad of dating service sites. Onto your last ditch effort. Option #3: The local rag personal ads. Quickly running out of options here. If luck is on your side and you’ve recently hit it big in the lottery or the casinos, maybe today is your lucky day! Or Not.

Face it, the world is making a lot of money on women’s and for that matter men’s lack of knowledge in the dating dance. Ah, yes…to actually ‘know’ how to select a mate that you find physically attractive, can carry on an intelligent conversation with, is considerate, honorable. I know, I know. Impossible. Right? Or is it? “ The Ancient Wisdom of Matchmaking is essentially a lost science or language rather than a system”, states Zannah Hackett, an author and relationship expert. The following is an in depth look at one of the most common sense approaches to finding your soul mate. I had the privilege of interviewing Zannah at her lovely home in San Diego, California.

L.H. When I hear the word ‘MatchMaking’, the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. Explain how your system is different from the proverbial ‘matchmaking or dating agencies?

Z.H. “ It provides a means of understanding by subscribing to the notion that everyone arrives here in their said “vehicle” without an owner’s manual. This body of knowledge, referred to as the Knowledge of Y.O.U., affords one the opportunity to understand themselves. It hands them their owners’ manual as well as the one that belongs to their potential mate. They become their own expert, their own matchmaker. Instead of handing that delicate responsibility to some other company or individual, I suggest they acquire this vital understanding before visiting any dating sites or agencies. They will make far less mistakes by going in informed. Without this knowledge it’s like going outside in a rain storm without an umbrella. Your chances of getting wet, cold and ill will be minimized. We are all here to connect, to enhance and to rise to our full potential… but not alone”.

L.H. We’ve all heard there’s no such thing as the “perfect relationship” or “perfect mate”. Looking at it from a Vedic view point is this true or not?

Z.H. “Actually, there is something called a “Maximum Polarity Pull”. Once you are able to recognize what your perfect mate looks like on sight with more than just your own intuition or “love at first sight”, you can increase your odds of achieving a maximum attractive relationship. This is a huge benefit and definitely an advantage before entering the dating scene. The current popular profiling mechanisms available are wonderful but all too often services are pushed into the need to homogenize for tracking purposes and convenience sake. This knowledge will empower you and make you the expert. With the dating agency being at your service instead of the other way around.

L.H. So what do you recommend?

Z.H. I recommend that those seeking the perfect relationship be open to dismissing propaganda’s perception of “perfect” and come to understand what is absolutely perfect for them. I repeatedly recommend that everyone get informed before spending hours filling out profiling questionnaires, taking coffee dates, or handing over thousands of dollars to services that specialize in collecting pools of people. These are important but to go in unarmed is just foolish. This is your life we are talking about! And even more importantly, your decisions impact another human being… positively or negatively; depending on how much you know about your vehicle and theirs. This knowledge is not subjective. It’s not astrology. It has nothing to do with what day we were born, what our sign is, where we grew up, what color our aura is, or how much money we make. That would be like judging a car by the date it was manufactured and the city in which its factory originated. The ancient knowledge that I teach is best described as a physical science versus a traditional typing system. I continuously encourage every woman get this knowledge before ever engaging in a committed relationship. It will increase her chances of creating an environment in which both she and her mate can rise to their full potential effortlessly.

L.H. Let’s say I want to get informed in the Knowledge of Y.O.U.. Is this a system both men and women can use?

Z.H. Absolutely. However, up until late, I have been giving it only to women. I have my reasons of which I reveal to both men and women in private sessions & seminars. Each session allows you to come in contact with your own strengths and weaknesses. Oddly enough, sometimes this is very comforting. People come to know that it is okay to be the way they are. I teach them that they have a very distinct purpose and that they don’t have to subscribe to what someone else professes to be the a ‘right’ way to be or act. It’s a common sense approach to Reality Training for Relationships.

Do you recommend seminars or sessions?

I have found that private sessions work best for those that are trying to really get serious about finding a mate and want quick results. Seminars (LOVING Y.O.U. Workshops) often serve as a means of introducing many to the knowledge but to really integrate it into your personal life, you just can’t surpass a private session. Private Sessions are more expensive but all of your questions (and you will have many) are answered without interruption and your risk of being rushed is minimized as the sessions run 3 hours in length. I also assist clients in selecting agencies and online dating venues if it seems appropriate for them.

Are you the only one doing this or is there another source?

Yes I am. I am currently trying to clone myself by creating certification workshops for practitioners. It’s vital that the knowledge maintain integrity and I am a stickler about how the material is presented. However, for those clients that can’t make it to a seminar or session, I just recently published an ebook entitled The Ancient Wisdom of Matchmaking.
How much does it cost?

The fee for a private session is $150 at my office as opposed to a group seminar that runs upwards of $375. The seminar fee varies depending on the host and the trimmings. I also travel to other cities for privates but the fee is adjusted accordingly. I like doing different venues and especially love it when a group of women come together for a FUN REVIEW. This is where many private clients come together and share how the knowledge is working. It also gives them an opportunity to use it with other women that have it as well. It’s a lot like being in a foreign country where English is not spoken and you get the opportunity to congregate with a dozen or more Americans for an evening of total understanding.

Have you ever used this knowledge in any other areas?

Yes, quite frequently companies will enlist my services in helping them to create harmonious work environments. I also get a lot of life coaches, personal trainers, dating specialists and psychotherapists that are seeking additional methods of meeting their clients needs, especially with family and marriage counseling. The knowledge is priceless when it comes to meeting these needs and truly expedites a positive outcome.

Is there anything that sets your presentation of matchmaking apart from other classes devoted to creating harmonious relationships?

Yes. There are some dynamics between the male and female union that are governed by ancient physical laws. These laws I share in this presentation of LOVING Y.O.U. The union between a man and woman carries with it a great responsibility, not only to the parties involved but also to the betterment of mankind. We as a species, have forgotten how to respond naturally as our attention has become over stimulated with too much designer information. Thus, we can’t even recognize ourselves much less the love of our life. The Knowledge of Y.O.U. refreshes your memory.

Using an online dating service to find dates was once frowned upon and even considered scary. However, times have changed and so have the amount of people who not only approve of using an online dating service but the amount of people actually using an online dating service! Amazingly, the invention of the online dating service has gotten people out and about and dating again. If you are looking for a date, but still are a bit skeptical about using an online dating service, consider the following benefits an online dating service can provide.

Online Dating Service Benefit #1 Anonymity

You can upload a picture to your online dating service if you want, but it is not required. You will get more responses from other members of your online dating service, though, if you provide a picture. However, you will never be required to divulge your address, e-mail or phone number to any other user of the online dating service unless you desire to do so. Because of this, you can surf the available singles on the online dating service completely anonymous.

Online Dating Service Benefit #2 Choices

There are an unbelievable amount of singles that use an online dating service. Because of this, you get to review all of the available singles at your leisure and evaluating the information provided. This gives you significant information about a person’s likes and dislikes and whether you might hit it off or definitely not. By reviewing this information you are significantly ahead of the game as compared to simply meeting someone on the street or in a bar. With the online dating service you know what a person is about before you ever contact them.

Online Dating Service Benefit #3 Secure

Your online dating service will never divulge your personal information and you will have the security of blocking any user that is bothering you. If for instance a particular online dating service user sends you threatening e-mails or makes you feel uncomfortable you can simply report them and have their account revoked and at the very least block them from contacting you. This type of security is not available in real life, unfortunately, but it is through your online dating service.

So, let me ask you a quick question.

Who do you think is the world’s BEST dating teacher?

No, I’m not talking about myself, but thanks for thinking so…

I think the answer might surprise you.

The world’s best dating teacher is a WOMAN.

But not just any woman.

I’m talking about a woman who is “attractive and she knows it”.

You know the one.

I’m sure you’ve met her many times in your life.

You’ve probably had several “crushes” on her over the last several years.

And what did these “Super Babes” do when they realized that you “liked” them?

Exactly.

They did things that made your crush even MORE INTENSE… while at the same time NOT RETURNING the same level of interest.

I’m going to suggest to you that we can BOTH learn a lot about dating by paying attention to what BEAUTIFUL WOMEN do when a man shows interest.

Stay with me. This is about to get FASCINATING.

A few years back, a couple of women got together and wrote a book called “The Rules”. You’ve probably heard of it.

It’s the notorious book for women about how to get a man to commit to you and ultimately marry you.

It’s quite a book. You should read it.

In this book, the authors suggest all kinds of “unorthodox” techniques, like not calling men and rarely returning their calls, never approaching men, and generally playing “hard to get”.

Why did this book and other sequel books go on to sell MILLIONS of copies?

RIGHT! Because the techniques WORK to attract men and get them HOOKED.

More on this particular topic later.

AN INTERESTING PERSPECTIVE

I want to ask you to think about something for a minute.

Have you ever been dating a girl, and had her do something that made you feel nervous, jealous, insecure, or otherwise emotionally FREAKED?

Maybe you were out with her, and she started talking to another guy… and while she was talking to him you could tell that she was enjoying herself just a little bit too much.

Know what that feels like?

You WANT to believe that it’s all in your imagination… and that she’s just having a friendly conversation with someone… but your GUT IS TWISTING while you watch it happening.

Or maybe you have plans with a woman, but at the last minute (or even after the last minute) she calls and says “I don’t think I’m going to be able to make it tonight… I had something come up… OK, I’ll call you later”.

She doesn’t say exactly WHAT came up, or WHY she can’t make it, or WHY she chose to call you thirty seconds before she was supposed to actually arrive at your house.

And the worst part is that you say back to her, “Oh, don’t worry about it, it’s OK”, and then KICK YOURSELF afterwards…

Ever been there?

Or here’s one of my PERSONAL favorites…

You meet a girl, call her on the phone and talk to her, and everything seems to be going GREAT.

She tells you to call her later in the week and maybe she’ll be available.

You think about her for the next three days… but when you try to call her, she never answers the phone… and never returns any of your calls.

Yeah, it sucks.

All of these types of situations SUCK.

But the reality is that they all happen to most guys A LOT.

THE FASCINATING PART

Now I want to explain why I gave these particular examples.

I want you to stop for a minute and think about something.

I want you to ask yourself the following question, then answer it HONESTLY:

DID THESE THINGS MAKE YOU THINK ABOUT AND WANT THE WOMAN WHO DID THEM MORE OR LESS?

Be honest now.

If you’re like most guys, then these particular things and others like them, made you think about the girl MORE.

They made you wonder what she was doing and what her INTENTIONS were.

And most of all, they made you WANT HER even more.

Strange as it may seem, these things, which SHOULD make you RUN AWAY, actually make you WANT HER.

What’s the deal?

Well, just like WOMEN aren’t logical, MEN aren’t logical either.

And if you’re honest about it, you’ll admit that you sometimes respond in STRANGE AND UNUSUAL WAYS to a woman’s flighty and manipulative behaviors.

Some of these types of crazy things that women do drive men WILD with desire and even jealousy… and often lead to OBSESSION.

It’s a crazy world, huh?

WHY I’M TELLING YOU ALL THIS

I say these things not because I want to piss you off.

No.

I say them because I want you to start thinking about these types of things in a DIFFERENT WAY.

I want you to realize that the simple fact that a particular woman that you’re interested in doesn’t NEED you… and does things that clearly demonstrate it… often make her even MORE ATTRACTIVE to you.

Well guess what?

THE SAME GOES when it comes to making WOMEN feel ATTRACTION for YOU.

In other words, instead of getting UPSET with women for doing these things, LEARN FROM THEM.

And then use what you learn to create that magical emotion called ATTRACTION inside of women you’re interested in.

IS THIS MANIPULATION?

I can hear it now.

The first response I often hear when I start talking this way, and recommending that men use what they learn to actually CAUSE women to feel ATTRACTION, usually goes something like this:

“But David, if I consciously do things to make women feel attracted to me, aren’t I manipulating them?”

Most of us guys want to be “good guys”.

We don’t like to lie, cheat, and steal.

And we don’t like to do sneaky things that don’t FEEL RIGHT.

I get it.

But here’s the BIG DIFFERENCE.

When I recommend a technique, for instance:

“Don’t act like a Wussy.”

“Give her the gift of missing you.”

“Tease and bust her balls.”

“Date other women.”

“You be the one to end calls, dates, and other interactions… and do it a little too soon… on an up note.”

…I’m NOT recommending that you do secret, deceptive things to “trick her into liking you”.

NOOOOOO.

Instead, I’m teaching you the principals of ATTRACTION.

I’m teaching you examples of things to do that communicate a FAR MORE IMPORTANT IDEA…

THAT YOU’RE NOT A NEEDY WUSS.

The more you actually DO these things, the more you begin to “get it”, and become the type of guy that women are naturally drawn to.

BACK TO WHERE WE STARTED

At the beginning of this newsletter I told you that an ATTRACTIVE WOMAN is the best dating teacher there is…because she does things that ALMOST NATURALLY AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that men feel for her.

One of the KEYS to this natural ability is communicating that she doesn’t NEED the particular guy that she’s with.

When she does these little things to communicate that she doesn’t NEED a particular guy, those things tend to AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that the guy feels.

We’ve all had it happen to us many times, so I know that you know exactly what I’m talking about.

So from now on, instead of getting UPSET at women for calling at the last minute to cancel plans, getting annoyed when they talk to other guys, etc., LEARN FROM IT.

Use it to understand how YOU should approach an ATTRACTIVE WOMAN… and how to behave so that YOU are the one who creates and amplifies the attraction in HER.

When contemplating this question, it might occur to you eventually that dating could actually be both. After all, teenagers and those in their adult years have gone through this rite of passage called dating, and this is a natural activity, just as social interaction is part of every person’s life.

While all our actions go through the cause and effect wheel, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t enjoy a good date as much as your next-door neighbor.

There are probably a lot of questions in your mind -should you be a first-timer teen, or someone who’s gone back to the dating pool -regarding dating. But don’t fret! Here are some basic pointers on how to go about dating the hassle-free way:

Contemplate your reasons.
Just why are you deciding to whirl into the world of dating? It could be that you are looking for that special someone, make new friends and acquaintances, get intimate with someone, or simply experience what it’s like to date. You could even be doing it for more complicated reasons -to try to forget your ex, find someone to marry, to hook up with that person you’ve been attracted to for years. Whatever the reason is, just make sure that it still borders on the healthy and positive. Date for the right reasons, reasons that will enrich your life and let you have fun. Most all, do it for yourself, and not just because you are being pressured into doing it.

Find your prospects.
If you’ve already gone through the first tip, then we’re already in business! The good news is, this dating step is relatively easier. The advent of the world wide web has ensured that you can go online and sign up for dating and matching services in a matter of minutes. You’ll find that there are quite a lot of people out there who are also looking for people to meet, date and have fun with.

Prep up your online profile and advertise, advertise, and advertise some more! Chances are, after wading through all the email from your prospective dates, you’ll have quite a handful that you will want to meet up with. And if you’re not an internet fan, you could also try the old-fashioned way of having your friends set you up with common friends. This has the added advantage of meeting up with someone who’s not actually a total stranger -and if you have any awkward moments during the date, you could always start off the conversation by talking about your mutual friends.

The big “D”.
It’s finally time for what you have started to refer to as “The Date” -and you find that you’re actually nervous. Don’t panic. Things are about to get more exciting. But first, some practical dating concerns:

1. It would be best to set the date in a place considered common ground. This way, you have the security of being able to get away in case something goes wrong. His or her pad may be totally romantic, but make sure to make safety your first priority. There are still a lot of odd characters out there, after all.

2. It’s also the best time to make sure you’re clean and presentable. Even if you don’t have the funds to splurge on that fabulous outfit, nothing beats over-all, good hygiene. Fashionable shoes can only do so much if you didn’t even bother to brush your teeth. Dress as the occasion calls for. After all, getting ushered out of that fancy bistro for not following the dress code bombs out your date before it even begins.

3. Even before you start being charming to your date, make sure you extend the most gracious gesture of all, which is to arrive on time. This is one of the most basic dating etiquette you must adhere to. Not only does this ensure that you don’t end up with a grumpy date, you’ll also be able to let your date know that you put in some effort by being there on time.

4. All you need to be successful in dating is to be as courteous to your date as you, yourself, wish to be treated. From here on and after, matters would already depend on how you interact and, more importantly, if you two have any chemistry. But for now, best relax and try to have as much fun as you can.

Dating strategies are sought out by every single person on this planet.

While some people dating might seem to know it all, underneath they are searching for what steps they can take to make their dating life more fruitful.

And other daters, who are more lonely, are ardently seeking dating strategies that can help them meet their soul mates.

When it comes to the need for dating strategies, no age group is spared.

In the past most single individuals relied on match makers, friends, and family introductions.

But with today’s fast paced, and sometimes isolated lifestyles, single people need to develop dating strategies that will help them meet someone on their own.

Here are some of the dating strategies that I have seen work for long time daters. While they are not guaranteed, I have seen many single people get married after using these dating strategies.

1. Constant networking. Networking is not just a business strategy, it’s also a dating strategy. Your soul mate might be friends with the new acquaintance you just met while taking a writing course.

2. Attend single events. While single events might ring up bad memories for some, you at least now that everyone there is looking to meet someone.

3. Get busy. The busier your life is the more opportunities you will have to interact with people. You never know where you will meet that special person.

4. Develop a hobby. Pick a hobby that you really enjoy and throw yourself into it. Chances are you will find like minded people who share the same love for the hobby. One of these people might be your soul mate.

5. Always stay positive. Yes, that’s my favorite dating strategy. People want to be around positive people. Keep a positive attitude and you will attract more people into your life.

When most people think of going on a date, they’re thinking okay maybe I will take her to a dinner and a movie. The entire framework or context for dating in our 50-50 society, is essentially the ‘courtship’ procedure.

Yes, you can go to dinner and a movie and actually have a chance of getting physical with the woman when your reality is strong enough, but otherwise what you are doing when you go on a traditional date is that you are in a societally defined traditional metaframe (or context) of a more serious relationship with a lot of unspoken words and high expectations.

When you go on dates it is this context or frame in which certain behavior patterns are expected. For a woman this means withholding sex, you buying her things for her attention and hoping to win her affection. These are all characteristics of a man who is courting and ‘wooing’ a woman for a very serious relationship.

This is a lot of pressure on a woman in that she feels obliged to give something back to you for buying her all of these things and will usually made just let you kissed her hand, will you are left on the porch feeling confused and unfulfilled. It is up to you as the man to set the frame of the relationship right at the very beginning on how it is going to be. You can keep her guessing and she will be ‘interested’ in you.

If you start doing what the rest of society is doing, you will probably not be successful with her as far as really being comfortable, having fun, getting to know her and accelerate in the relationship to a physical level for both of you. On the other hand, you can give women more of what they want and less of the expectation and high level of forced obligation, if you can just set up a different frame from the get-go.

This will be a relief to women if they choose to go with you because then they can really just be themselves and have fun. You could call this as the ‘red