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You read all over the internet involving NEGATIVE OPINIONS on how Russian Bride agencies run their business. It almost seems that everyday there is a new conspiracy developing over such-n-such agency and how they DO BUSINESS. That their agency is a scam, the Russian women are fake and the forever thundering echo of “I’ve paid nearly $200 and not one girl has ever written me back!” I’ve even heard men say that almost all of the Russian Bride sites have the same girls, that a truly great agency won’t share their girls, etc. But my friends, there are always TWO SIDES to every story, and perhaps after reading this article, you will think twice BEFORE blasting out your own conspiracy theory….

CONSIDER THIS:

There are many dating sites that contain the same profiles. When I was a member of Match.com so many years ago, I used to see the same girls all the time on other sites as well, such as matchmaker.com, udate and yahoo personals. We all joined multiple sites to spread ourselves out — to have more options. And during that time, I can say that I joined nearly every site imaginable. So would you agree that all of these sites are involved in some kind of conspiracy because they have the same profiles?

A man searching for a Russian bride joins 2-3 sites at once, writes to many ladies, gets his photo in the site catalogue that is presented to Russian women… so that’s 3 site catalogues he is now a member of. The ladies see his photo in 3 different catalogues and begin to wonder… is he involved in a conspiracy then too, simply because he has joined 2-3 different Russian Bride sites?

A man describes himself as being wealthy, good looking and successful… and he sends out 400 emails telling Russian women how he is a God in bed, how women love him and worship the ground he walks upon. How he loves to have cybersex and invites all Russian women to join him in on the fun… yet not one letter was returned. Is this a conspiracy?

BOTTOM LINE:

Business is business — always has been and always will be. Part of the success to any dating site is having a large database to attract new customers. Profiles hardly ever get removed — and while some do remove the old profiles, most do not. My profile is still on many of the other dating sites and I can’t get them to remove it because I forgot the email address I used to sign up with. This was 5 years ago too!

Russian girls are human too — and they spread themselves out too by joining many different marriage agencies. Many of the Russian bride sites use real marriage agencies located in Russia, and many of these agencies are NOT exclusive to just one bride site. They are all in business to make money, so you cannot blame them for spreading themselves out too. And after a while, these same Russian girls forget which marriage agencies they joined up with, lose contact or whatever, and their profiles stay forever in the database. It’s part of the dating business and will always be like that. Nobody’s fault really — but don’t blame a dating agency for not deleting a profile simply because a user has forgotten to contact them and tell them to remove it.

Agencies are not the bad guys nor the good guys. They are a business, plain and simple. They have a list of over 30,000 clients — so do you really expect them to call every single women and ask if their still single? Does match.com do that? For the record, does any dating site do that? Of course not and it’s ludicrous to think that they should.

And what about writing those letters and not getting any responses? Well, what about it?!! Write some more and keep on truckin’! Not everyone is going to think you’re as great as YOU seem to know that you are. That’s life… get used to disappointment. I sent out probably thousands of letters in my 4 years of online dating, and at best, I might have gotten maybe a 15% return rate. In my opinion, that is actually pretty good too. Online dating is not easier, so don’t be a fool and think it is. It only gives you more options to meeting more people — but along side of that also comes more rejections.

So the next time you hear a negative”Opinion” about how Russian dating agencies are handled, just remember one thing… they are in business to make money; and whether or not the practices of certain agencies might be argued as being ILLEGITIMATE, you always still have the choice of NOT JOINING. If you believe a certain agency carries a lousy reputation, then why bother joining it in the first place? Just move on and find another site to join that you feel more comfortable with. Good luck!

To a Man Who Wants To Attract More Women and Get More Dates — But Can’t
Get Started -

First - Learn the Truth About These Myths!

How Often Do You Find Yourself Saying: “I Wish I Knew How To attract the ladies and get more dates”?
If you’re like most of the guys I know, it’s often. More often than you want to admit.

We go out on “dates” with women, hoping that if we PROVE ourselves to them in some way, they’ll be interested in us and attracted to us. And time after time that just never happens. The date ends with a hug or a quick peck on the cheek, as she tells you, “I had a real nice time.”

If you’ve been put on the defense in this dance of romance, you can never really stop worrying, and your attitude will communicate things to a woman that will ultimately drive her away.

What I want to do is take a few minutes here and destroy some myths about women and men and get you started on the right path.

Let’s start right away with:

MYTH 1) Women want what they say they want.

It’s a shame we have to cover this one, but it bears repeating. All you have to do is see the apparent contradiction between what women SAY and what they DO and you’ll understand that they are not the same.

Women have an ideal picture of “romance” programmed into their heads as little girls, primarily from bad fairy tales they read. Then they moved up to the “bodice ripping” romance books. Yes, those cheezy ones you see on bookstore shelves.

Women (and men) don’t understand that they respond to definite behaviors much more than others, and they are behaviors that conform to simple rules. They’d be ashamed to admit them, but they are true.

And the good news for guys is that they can be learned. They’re part of you already; you just have to learn how to demonstrate them.

MYTH 2) Women are hard to understand.

This is a gross example of laziness . Women are extremely EASY to understand. The reason most guys say those cliche phrases like: “Women! Who can understand them.” Or other jokes to that effect is because men don’t think the way women do about certain things. They think emotionally, while you think LOGICALLY.

All it takes is for you to learn how to understand their way of thinking to understand them. You don’t have to BE a pet hamster to understand that he just loves chewing and running on that wheel in his cage. So you give him things to chew on, and give him a nice wheel.

Ba-da-bing. You just made Mr. Hamster happy.

But when it comes to women, guys want them to behave and think like GUYS. And when they discover that they don’t, they get all mad about it instead of learning how women actually think.

Ask yourself this: Are you mad at the weather when it rains? Or do you just figure out how an umbrella works so you can stay dry?

One you can control, the other you can’t.

One belief will leave you CONSTANTLY frustrated and angry. The other will put you back in control. Remember: It’s not what happens to you that’s important, it’s how you RESPOND to what happens to you.

MYTH 3) Right this minute you have all the skills you ever will with women. (Or, you can’t improve your skills beyond where you are right now.)

This one is the belief that follows right after the last myth. Men give up trying to figure out why a woman behaved a certain way, figuring that it’s easier to just run around saying, “Women! Who understands them?” Just like everybody else.

Who could blame us for feeling this way? Guys want a very UNcomplicated lifestyle. We don’t like hassles and drama. (Whereas women seem to feed off this energy.)

The truth is that your skill with women can ONLY increase from here, unless you’re in a rock band or you’re a gorgeous movie star where women are handed to you on a plate.

But make no mistakes - you don’t have to be a rock singer or a movie star to get women interested in you.

All it takes is getting the right information to put you on the right track.

MYTH 4) Women who are attractive are more important and their opinion means more than regular women.

Now, before you take that the wrong way, let me clarify. A guy will tend to treat a good-looking women as if she is a precious commodity, and that she is more valuable than himself.

We live in a society (and a world) that is completely hung up on appearances. We love beauty.

We actually WORSHIP it.

Look at the covers of magazines. Look at actors on television and in the movies. Look at our pop music stars. (Interesting that there are no ‘average’ looking people making good music, huh?) We pay billions and billions of dollars on our vanity. Hair
coloring, makeup, cosmetics, you-name-it.

There is a well-documented psychological fact that we tend to attribute more positive beliefs and attitudes to people who are attractive. We respect them more. We tend to believe that they are more talented and capable because of their appearance.

“Average” people don’t get the same kind of favorable treatment. As we all know, you can’t judge a book by its cover.

Remember that hot women are no different than any other woman, other than the fact that she lucked out in the genetic lottery.

She’s probably been spoiled and unchallenged her whole life because of her looks, which actually makes her EASIER to get than most other women.

MYTH 5) You need to convince, beg, or trick women into getting them to sleep with you.

Oh, dear. This one is where so many good guys go wrong.

Women want to do the nasty just as much as guys do. In fact, they get even more pleasure than we do, so they enjoy it more. The only difference is that women have better control over their desire than guys do. This stems from a time when women had to be VERY careful who she mated with, because she had to be sure she knew he was worth gambling her children’s future - and her own - with. If he couldn’t provide for her, she’d be in an incredibly difficult position.

Probably even fatal.

So she had to choose well. She learned how to read a guy’s status and standing by his actions. (Never his words. Anyone can SAY anything.)

The good news to this evolutionary programming is that it’s not hard to understand, and it’s easy to see through the Matrix and understand how to make it work FOR you. All you have to do is bring out certain behaviors you’ve been hiding for so long.

MYTH 6) You have to be rich, famous, a jerk, or good looking to attract hot women - OR - You can’t be a nice guy and get women.

NOT!

Women aren’t actually attracted to jerks because of their abusive behavior. Or to famous people because of their fame. Or rich guys because of their wealth.

They’re attracted to the potential feelings that these guys can give them.

Jerks give her a CHALLENGE.

Fame is attractive because of the POWER.

Wealth is attractive because of the SECURITY, COMFORT, and POWER.

And all of them are really just indicators about the guy that wields them.

It’s easy to assume because a guy is wealthy, he can keep her in a way that she would find comfortable.

It’s easy to assume that because a guy has fame, he also has the wealth. And he wouldn’t be famous unless a large number of people MADE him popular, right? This is called “social proof,” which I cover in my e-books and audio.

Again, the good news is that these are external indicators that you can simulate with your own behavior.

You don’t have to be rich or famous - or a jerk - to get the women you want.

MYTH 7) Women are better than men.

This one is a lot like #4. A lot of guys run around with the idea that what the media tells you about men is true.

- That we’re dogs
- That we’re only out for s*e -x
- That we’re the rapists, pedophiles, and violent offenders
- That we start all the wars
- That we are just a bunch of grunting animals who only love football and porn
- That we’re just plain BAD.

Watch any of today’s movies or television shows and they portray men as buffoons that can only understand “Three Stooges” episodes, or lounge around on our front lawns in wife-beater t-shirts on “Cops.”

Women have more than their fair share of problems and issues, and if you’ve dated a woman for longer than a few weeks or months, you know I’m telling the truth here. Don’t get me wrong; they’re the most wonderful and complicated creatures, but they’re not BETTER than men.

They’re just women. And they can be understood.

MYTH The more you tell her about you or about how you feel about her, the better your chances to impress her and make her want you.

This one is COMPLETELY the opposite. The more you tell her, the LESS she will feel for you. Especially if it’s about YOUR feelings.

A lot of guys think that if they just tell her how HE feels, she’ll suddenly discover the love within her for him.

Again, another Hollywood lie that is perpetuated because guys don’t take the time to really sit down and think this through.

What is the most important thing to a woman?

HOW SHE FEELS.

If you can make her FEEL the right mixture of curiosity, excitement, and hope, you can get her interested in you.

I’ll show you how to do that.

MYTH 9) Guys must “ask women out” on dates because it’s what women want.

The single most routine and ordinary (BORING) thing to do is ask a woman out.

You have to have more imagination than this. This is the oldest routine, and all women know how it works. By asking a woman out, you force her to think of you in romantic terms.

It’s like you just asked her:

“Do you like me romantically, or don’t you? Or would you just like a free meal and drinks, on me?”

Golly. What a choice, studpuppet.

You should never invest money in a woman that isn’t ALREADY interested in you.

That’s like giving money to an investment that you know NOTHING about. You just saw the advertising pamphlet and it looked really good, so you bought into it.

I’ve got a bunch of ways for you to find out if she is really into you or not.

MYTH 10) Since I’m a “nice guy,” I should be what women want, and therefore I should be getting laid.

Nope.

Sorry.

Negative.

This one belief will probably cripple you for life, as well as turning you into a bitter, angry man.

There are more myths about women and seduction than you would believe. They’re misconceptions that have been pumped into you by years of bad advice, well-meaning friends, and our media and Hollywood programming.

You owe it to yourself to find out what women are REALLY thinking, and what you can change to start GETTING RESULTS with them.

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The ancient Egyptians are considered to be the first to use flowers as symbols of love. What a trend they set… thousands of years later, flowers are still at the top of the charts for gifts of love. Love is a hugely broad category, and fortunately, so are flower varieties. Love can be expressed as friendship, as intense passion, as filial, and any relationship in which respect and care are the foundation. Thus, when choosing flowers to send to whomever your feelings bend to, and in whatever degree of love, there are flowers that are appropriate. Beyond your feelings for the lady or man, consider her or his feelings – the type of person receiving the flowers is more important than the meaning of flowers, as interpretations differ, and while you may be passionately in love with a girl who loves nature, she may prefer simple ivy to red roses. In addition to the personality, flowers can wonderfully complement a lifestyle. Take note of the type of surroundings, colors and style of those you love, and they will be impressed by your sensitivity to what they love. When thought goes into a bouquet, the gift takes on a new meaning, and will be remembered long after the blossoms end blooming.

First on the list in choosing your bouquet is to know what you want to say in giving it. If you are giving the bouquet to one who is cheerful and charming, and your relationship is innocent, chrysanthemums or daisies convey this message. If you are falling in love, but it is still quite playful and the tone is not too serious yet, hyacinth is an option. These bright flowers themselves are playful, with a strong, intoxicating smell. This sums up the first stages of love for many couples! If you intend to give flowers to one who is modest, violets won’t hurt anyone’s modesty. If anything, a tad of modesty may be lost in receiving such a gift of understated elegance. When we are giving flowers for romantic purposes, do not feel limited to red or pink roses. In addition to the gorgeous rose, other romantic contenders include tulips, lilacs, wildflowers, and orchids. If finally, after all the years of motherly love, you wake up one day wanting to acknowledge mum for all that she’s done, pink carnations are an especially interesting choice, as they represent a mother’s undying love. According to legend, carnations stemmed from the tears of Mary as she watched Jesus carry the cross. Thus, in giving carnations to mother, you are recognizing the years of undying love that she has given to you!

While flowers traditionally have their own language and meaning, do not feel limited to flower language when choosing a bouquet. Often far more pertinent to your life is the personality of the person receiving the bouquet. Starting with the eternally beloved drama queens (and kings) in our lives, the flowers they receive should represent their fiery personalities. Best for the dramatic one is a bouquet of bold colors in a sharp, non-traditional vase. Perhaps a metallic square vase is in line here. While pleasing an artist aesthetically may seem a mission impossible, lean towards exotic flowers. Their rarity will please the artistic eye, and if you ask the florist to recommend some flowers of uncommon shapes, this will be even better eye candy for the artist. The free-spirited and natural will love that which reminds them of being outdoors: green and flowering plants, with some spicy smells added to take the imagination away from contemporary life. A classic beauty will like a traditional arrangement of lush and various flowers, while the romantic will enjoy softness in both colors and fragrance, with ribbons decorating the bouquet.

Beyond personality, if you are looking for a more creative way to please, choose the bouquet based on other factors, such as color or home interior. Knowing her favorite color, and giving her a bouquet with that color as the focus will make any flower that much more appreciated. If you are going to an event, be it a ball or an anniversary dinner, figure out the color of her dress beforehand, and order a bouquet that will match or complement the dress. Even if it won’t go out with the two of you, it will look great in any pre-photos. Did grandma buy new curtains that she’s extremely proud of? How touched she will be when you give her a bouquet that complements her beautiful new curtains (no matter what your opinion of them!). The general style of an apartment or house can be considered. Don’t feel you have to buy a huge gushing bouquet if the apartment where the flowers are heading is minimalist and contemporary. Florists are artists, and they can make a bouquet as different as you ask for.

Of course, with all the meaning that flowers can take on, most important, and most pleasing to the recipient, will be the flowers that have personal meaning. If, on your first date strolling through St. James’ Park, you pinched a tulip to impress your girl, this may be the most romantic flower to you as your relationship progresses. Guidelines are always guidelines, but life experience should be what marks and makes our own guidelines. Do remember that whatever the flower, you can always add to its importance by choosing a color she loves. Still, knowing the traditional meanings of flowers helps you decide what message you want to convey in giving flowers. Knowing his or her personality and lifestyle will add to making a bouquet unique to that person. Thus, when choosing flowers, there is no right or wrong, but the more thought you put into the bouquet; the longer it will be cherished and remembered.

What is love? What is attraction? Why do we love someone? Why do we say that we love someone? Why do not we say that we like someone or are getting attracted to someone? This is all because love is becoming a common word to be used for all kinds of attachments and relationships. Have you quizzed yourself about how much looks matter to you in love?

Will you love an ugly looking person even if she/he has every other quality in plenty? Or you will accept somebody better looking but missing in some qualities? What if you are told that the best looking person of the opposite sex has fallen for you and wants love in return? When you develop relationship, you find that person missing in many essential qualities and values that you respect. What will you do?

Quiz yourself about your relationships. Many of the relationships break because we are attracted by looks but as we get closer we find the other person difficult and break the relationship. It happens with most of us. We all go for looks in the beginning. Very rarely, we give points for other qualities in a logical manner. We look at a attractive person and say-I am in love. Quiz yourself and you will realize why many of your relationships broke? We may deny that. But the main attraction is always great looks. Quiz yourself about this and probably you will come to know more about what are your priorities in relationships and love.

Every time I talk to a guy who tells me his dating experience, I discover he’s making the exact same mistakes most guys do, dating mistakes that kill his chances of successfully dating sexy women. Dating can be an absolute nightmare for some people. Whether you have been dating for years, getting back in the game, or just starting out, you could always use a bit of dating advice.

1) Pay attention to her and listen.

Most guys try to impress sexy women by talking all through. Sexy women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she will begin to wonder why you’re not slobbering all over her. She’ll want to discover more about you herself… now you’re a challenge, and sexy women love challenging guys. Why? Because they rarely meet one.

2) Ask questions.

Come up with a list before you leave the house, i.e., How did you get into that line of work? Where did you go to school? Have you seen the new Tom Cruise movie? And so on. If a woman tells you about her weekend at the yoga center, and you know absolutely nothing about yoga, just ask her what she likes about it, how she got into it, etc.

3) Compliment the other person.

Show sincere appreciation, so find something you like and mention it. You may be freaked out by the idea of complimenting a woman on her soulful eyes, so mention her watch, dress, hairstyle, or even her shoes. No need to go overboard: “Nice shoes,” will do it.

4) Be yourself.

Exaggerating or boasting your credentials, successes, etc will only make the woman lose interest. Make the other party feel at home so that she does not feel pressured to impress or lie to you. Sincerity is the best policy. Nobody feels more comfortable around people who are genuine and sincere.

5) Give your date the royal treatment.

Buy her some flowers, buy her dinner and make her feel special. Show her that you value her company. Women loved to be showered with attention and pampered by her man. For the subsequent date, Cook up a meal at home and spend the evening watching movies or some other activity such as a board game. The meal most likely will be better than at a restaurant.

Enjoy dating while you can and live life to the fullest. You’ll attract women who are looking for someone special for a change.

Online dating is one of the fastest growing industries in the UK today. Every day, hundreds of thousands of us log on to one or more of the growing number of sites available; some looking for serious relationships, others for friendship and companions, and still others for casual flings and that extra ‘bit on the side’.

Some sites claim to be purely for genuine singles seeking committed, long term relationships, others turn a blind eye to, or even actively encourage, married or cohabiting members who may or may not use the sites with the blessing of their spouse or partner. Of course many people who use online dating sites do so purely for chatting and exchanging messages and never meet face to face; with the steady growth of the Internet as a communication tool since it’s inception, it has become increasingly possible for netizens to conduct deeply involved, real time relationships with people they have never actually met.

So what does this change with regard to the old ways of doing things? When does an online relationship become ‘intimate’? Can you fall in love with an avatar, and can you cheat on someone, or with someone, who is in a different time zone?

A recent study by Dr Martin Graff of the University of Glamorgan showed that our perceptions of what does and does not constitute ‘cheating’ online are affected by a variety of factors – most prominently, and perhaps unsurprisingly, by the level of information dating site users are prepared to disclose about themselves; Dr Graff explains

“From this study, it seems that the greater the level of typed disclosure, then the stronger the perception of infidelity.”

Seemingly, in the absence of the ‘nonverbal cues’ on which face to face interaction relies so strongly, how much we are prepared to give away about ourselves is the primary indicator of how intimate our online relationships are and by extension, the degree of unfaithfulness inherent in the actions of non single site users.

Perhaps more surprisingly, the study also showed that the time of day at which online encounters took place was also a key factor in establishing infidelity, concluding that

“Exchanges later in the evening were perceived to be more infidelitous, than those which might take place in the day or early evening.”

Dr Graff’s study is ongoing and subsequent phases will look at the issues of jealousy and trust in the0020context of online relationships.

Ultimately the jury is still out on exactly what constitutes online infidelity and indeed relationships over the net as a whole. It is doubtful that a firm conclusion will ever be reached as the world of online dating and relationships, as in ‘real life’, will always be immensely subjective due to the differing moral standards and emotional responses of the individuals involved. Studies like Dr Graff’s can however provide a fascinating insight into the human causes and effects of the modern world, and how these are shaped by the direction of our rapidly developing and changing communications technology.

It’s like a jungle sometimes! The Sugar Hill Gang could have been talking about online dating when they penned their greatest hit. Of course, back in the early 1980s the idea of finding a partner via the Internet would have been regarded in the same light as taking a day trip to the moon; twenty plus years on and strolling around Copernicus for the afternoon is still the stuff of fantasy, but finding the perfect match on the Internet is something that more and more of us are doing.

Out there in the online jungle are a great many different creatures, all of whom make their respective ways down to the watering hole with their own aims in mind. Some come merely to socialise, to chew the fat with the other denizens of this fertile environment, rub shoulders with the great and the tiny, hear the latest gossip on the bush telegraph and keep abreast of recent goings on; others come to prowl, surveying the ranks of assorted beasts, picking the choicest morsels to feast their eyes upon (or more)! Still more come in hope of something less tangible, they come seeking companionship from creatures like themselves; a life partner to raise a brood with or share a nest.

So, what kind of dating creature are you? We identified a few of the inhabitants of the dating jungle below:

With their long legs and lurid pink plumage; the flamingos come down to the watering hole to preen, flirt and catch tiny krill. The slightest noise or sudden move and they take to the air, startled. Flamingos in the world of online singles are equally skittish; they upload pictures of themselves so that they can be admired, preening in the water, thriving on compliments they snap up like so much krill. These flamingos will take to the wing at the slightest mention of meeting, or taking things to a more serious level.

Howler monkeys are the jungle’s gossips; rampantly sociable, they come to the water to meet and chatter, to groom and to reinforce their social bonds. Howler monkey dating site users are often looking for friends to chat and gossip with. They tend to use the sites very regularly and sometimes for hours on end, chatting to new friends and adding to their favourites lists. This can be a great way to use dating sites for people who have just moved to a new town or city, or who find it difficult to meet people because of work constraints.

And then the lion – the self-styled King of the Jungle may have a mighty roar but is actually quite a timid creature, shying away from large groups of prey, preferring to circle silently and pick the perfect target. These types of daters will often view your profile six or seven times before sending you a hello; they like to make sure of what they’re getting as lions don’t like to waste energy. Of course when they do make their choice this skilled hunter’s charms can often prove hard to resist!

It depends what your looking for but in general both sites will have something on offer. At the adult sites you can expect to find sex and erotic fantasy, lots of gay, lesbian and bisexual type members as well as swinger couples. At the mainstream sites you can expect to find sex and relationship types. It is less common to find a serious relationship on a full blown adult site but we do see some people looking…

The point is there is cross over from one to the other, I’ve seen women looking for relationships - long term type on adult sites and I just think no way your in the wrong place. Your going to get hammered with replies from guys who are just after a casuald fling every time so you must be kidding yourself. In contrast you do see quite a few girls advertise for guys and making a point of “not looking for anything serious or long term” It’s not uncommon.

The other shift we are seeing is the community nature of the sites coming into play, more and more people are using a website as a hangout rather than getting out to a regualr venue. Not sure how healthy this is but it is happening and as the new generation comes through it will only become more common. We may see a further fragmentation of the “dating industry” into niche groups of people with like minded interests.

So the question is pretty easy to answer - the adult site is going to be more of an adventure ride and the mainstream sites are more community contact find true love and romance. At the end of the day it is yoru choice as long as you go in knowing what to expect from each site. One thing is for sure your going to find lots of grey areas in between.

There are many people in the world that are looking for that special someone to share their life with. In fact, as a counselor, I meet with countless people everyday who are looking for love and are just not sure where to find it. I have learned that people are somewhat desperate to find true love and that they will often go to extreme measures to find someone special. One method that I often suggest to my clients is using a dating service.

If you asked me ten years ago if I would ever suggest that people use a dating service, I would have definitely said no. I would have said that people need to find their special someone on their own and that a dating service is just a phony way that people are using to try to make money. But I have seen multiple clients try a dating service and find great success. They met amazing people and are all settled and married with children.

If you are thinking about using a dating service, then do so with caution. While there are many great dating services out there, there are also a lot of poor services that only seek to get your money and keep you hooked on the hope of finding true love with people that don’t really exist in their dating service. So be careful that you take time and do research to find a great dating service.

Ask your friends or people you know that have used a dating service with success for their suggestions. Proceed with caution in this process and realize that no dating relationship will ever fulfill you until you are fulfilled within yourself. That is one of the biggest misunderstandings people have of relationships is that they will find satisfaction and completeness in a relationship. I always work to teach my clients about taking the time to learn themselves and to learn the things that they are passionate about.

A dating service can be a great way for solid people to meet one another and to begin exploring romantic relationships. Call and research dating services in your area and also do online searches to learn more. Proceed with caution and be sure of your expectations before you begin any experiences with a dating services.

If you are unfulfilled with your current life, than try out a dating service or two and see what can become of your life and your relationships. You have nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain, so check out a dating service today.

Being a man and being labeled a romantic is not always desirable. Or is it? Just because you like pampering your lady doesn’t mean that you are any less a man than any other man. You can spend your day finishing your basement, working on your car, just getting your hands dirty so to speak but at the end of that day there’s nothing quite like the look of love and care on your significant others face when you cook an impromptu dinner for her. And the benefits of what happens after dinner, or even before you get dinner done, far outweigh any negative connotations being labeled a romantic have.

Being a romantic man is not that hard. In most cases it’s the little things that women notice. A glance, a quick touch or brush across her back. Sure, flowers are nice, but haven’t they almost become a cliché. That’s not to say women don’t like flowers because they do, but if that’s all you’ve got then it will only go so far. You have to mix it up, change your style and use your imagination to create romantic moments for the woman you love.

And here’s the most important thing to remember. If you truly know her and what her likes and dislikes are then it’s easy. Think of something built around something she likes to do. Does she like shopping (not something men even like to think about much less do), fine dining, walks on a beach, watching movies and the list goes on. It’s all about doing something she likes with her. And the fringe benefits of doing this are the only reward you will need.

Now here’s a little hint. While it seems like you may be doing something you don’t necessarily like to do that’s not really true. Let’s look at the shopping example. And when I say take her shopping it means shopping for her. Don’t go to the local home remodeling center, you might find yourself sleeping in the dog house for a few nights. Remember, this is romance.

You take a day to go clothes shopping for her. This is about her, but it is also for you because the idea is to go to the more upscale type of shops. Why? Because you are looking for clothes that she looks good in, that she will ask your opinion on as she models it for you. Not only does she feel sexy but you can see that in how she moves and carries herself. And if by some chance you can guide her into a lingerie shop, well you just might be surprised when she lets you pick out something and she wears it that night at home, or if your really on your stuff, back at the hotel room (now there’s an idea: a night away from home).

A romantic man is in a win-win situation. And the best thing is it can be allot of fun for both the man and the woman.

And women, if your reading this. We men like to be romanced to, but then you already knew that!

Ask a woman what the perfect date is and the answer will probably run along the lines of a nice evening out with a leisurely dinner and good conversation. Maybe followed by a nice moonlit walk hand in hand with her handsome man. Stopping for a drink or desert and more conversation/flirting. In other words a slow romantic build up that may or may not lead to something more intimate.

Ask a guy that same question and the answer is pretty obvious, particularly when he’s talking to his friends. Did he get to do the horizontal tango.

Which just goes to show that a man and a woman at the same place and time sharing the same experience are thinking two different things.

So then the question becomes does the perfect date exist exist? Probably only in our minds as we map out how we would like it to go, but reality has a way of screwing with even the best laid plans.

But that doesn’t mean we can’t try to have the perfect date. And it doesn’t have to be a one time thing because lets face it, the whole purpose of a first date (unless things go horribly wrong) is to have a second date and many after that. And while not every date will be perfect or as good as the one before it, with a little planning and advice there’s no reason we can’t shoot for that high a standard every time.

There are a whole lot of guides to dating and dating ideas out there. And that’s a good thing, particularly for men. Because you men know how hard it is to come up with original ideas, and that in and of itself is what makes a perfect date. ORIGINAL IDEAS! You have to change it up, you can’t be doing the same thing, going to the same place every time. That’s not a date, that’s repetition. And nothing sets off the boring meter better than repetition.

One other thing to remember is you don’t have to use any dating ideas word for word. In other words, don’t try to copy exactly what the date guru has put forth. Take that idea and give it your own personal twist. What that is is up to you, but your date wants you to be you. So get your date ideas, even if they aren’t yours originally adding your own personality to the idea will make it yours and that makes it as close to perfect as you can get.

Foolish! But that is just my opinion and I would like to take the next several lines of this inspiring article to tell you why. Many people will disagree with me and I will welcome their criticisms as long as they write to me on internet dating and not on how foolish I look or why I am a dummy because I am an American with all sorts of weird beliefs.

So why do I think that internet dating is foolish and not fun? Well lets just say that I think that blind dating in general is foolish and that dating over the internet is taking that foolishness and multiplying it by a factor of 50. Why is blind dating foolish? Well because it means that you aren’t able to meet people on your own in your sphere and that when you hook up with someone else who cannot meet people either you have a combination that is completely set up for failure. Right?

The internet and internet dating take this fiasco to a whole new extreme and then add in the fact that seeing or reading or hearing is not believing on the internet. There are a lot of “21” year olds that are prowling around the internet for their next victim and when that victim sees that this “21” year old is actually 55, bald, and out of prison just 3 months ago for some sort of sex crime they are going to wish that they had never signed up.

So what do these people do? Well… in my opinion they either just accept the fact that they don’t really want to meet people as much as they think they do or their fears would be overcome, or take some medicine for anxiety and seek out cognitive behavioral therapy, or just buck up and try meeting people in your sphere that share things in common with you and that will have something to talk with you about and to do for fun.

You say, well my sphere doesn’t contain anybody like that and that is why I turned to internet dating. I say, GET A NEW SPHERE! You say my sphere is the internet. I say, Well don’t say that I didn’t warn you because you might be surprised in a bad way someday. I guess just don’t say that you haven’t been warned. People can lie about themselves in person and lead people astray but this ability is infinite on the internet.

Years ago, the grocery store was the best place to meet a potential new love interest. Today, online dating is quickly becoming the singles hot spot with individuals around the world looking to meet someone new. Photo profiles that detail personal information is becoming the norm in online dating and gives individuals an opportunity to see what a potential mate looks like on paper before taking the next step.

If you are considering online dating, there are a few tips that can help make the experience a more enjoyable and successful one.

Online Dating Tip # 1
Find someone who shares your common interest, life goals and family preferences. It is important to share some of the same hopes in order for a relationship to be worthwhile.

Online Dating Tip # 2
Use caution when giving out personal information, including your full name, address or telephone number. At first, provide nothing more than an e-mail address.

Online Dating Tip # 3
During casual conversations, look for possible warning signs of control, jealousy or tempers.

Online Dating Tip # 4
If an individual seems to be extremely needy or needs to talk to you every minute, this may be a sign of possessive behavior and should be recognized early. If you notice this happening, move on and find another possible online dating match.

Online Dating Tip # 5
Don’t be afraid to ask questions. It’s perfectly normal to inquire about marital status, children, hopes, dreams, etc. If someone is uncomfortable with these questions, it’s a good indication they have something to hide.

Online Dating Tip # 6
Don’t rush. Take the time to get to know someone before you decide that you are comfortable enough to meet them. A relationship takes time to build and there is no reason to rush into anything.

Online Dating Tip # 7
If you learn that someone hasn’t been honest about his/her profile or other detail, end the dating potential immediately. Dishonesty is no way to begin a relationship and it makes you question anything else that he/she may be hiding.

Online Dating Tip # 8
With honesty in mind, it is important that you be honest in your profile and with anyone whom you are having an online dating relationship with. If and when the relationship is ready to move to the next level, it will be too late to correct anything that wasn’t truthful and the chance of a relationship will likely be lost.

Online Dating Tip # 9
If you plan to meet someone in person, do so in a public place. Preferably, the meeting time would be early in the day or the afternoon. It is never a good idea to meet a perfect stranger at dark or in a secluded area.

Online Dating Tip # 10
Be yourself. Don’t pretend to like something or be someone that you are not just to please the other person. If they are the right one for you, there will not be a reason to pretend.

Without a doubt, a first date kiss is an important time for a woman. Most women love kissing and if they can find the perfect kiss, that is even better. Some women do not kiss on the first date, which is perfectly fine. However, if you do not mind kissing on the first date, you dream of something great and memorable!

French Kiss

The French kiss is sensual and exciting. Such a kiss can make your love and desire catch fire. French kissing has as much powerful effect as striking a match on the prairie covered with straw, in the summer heat, when the sunset sets the sky ablaze.

French kiss definition: an explosive surge in a fire occurring when 2 pairs of lips are suddenly mixed with a combustible desire.

How to be sensual and the best in the most intimate kiss…

· Get a sensual mouth. Brush and floss your teeth. Drink water. A fresh and healthy kiss is the most erotic French kiss.
· Clean hair and body. Shave, after-shave. Shower and shampoo.
· Look at your partner innocently or dominantly
· Get closer and kiss softly
· Begin gently licking your lover on the lips
· Feel the responding satin tongue roaming your mouth
· Visit your partner’s mouth, slowly.
· Time after time, get deeper and more intimate.
· The best French kiss takes time.
· Push your tongue into your partner’s mouth, or let you lead
· Don’t give your mouth all of a sudden.
· Don’t take over your partner’s mouth immediately. Let the fire spread slowly.
· Show resistance, to get more desire.
· Close your eyes and let you blown away in the wind of passion
· Bite your partner’s lip with your teeth. Gently.
· Look at your partner lovingly.

How to fan the flames…

· When you stop to breathe in, let your breath caresses your partner’s face in a murmur like the embers caressed by the wind
· Close down the kiss shortly to provoke frustration and get an immediate back-draft
· Play with your hands. Press your bust, your body against your lover’s
· Sensual sounds. Intimate moans. Press your body closer.
· Arouse desire. Increase your breathe, and share your excitement.
· Passionate French kiss. Take and give everything immediately, and spread like a sensual explosion.
· Let your hands wander away, run your fingers through your lover’s hair, caress shoulder, back, breast..
· Feel the skin on the forearm, the inside is more sensitive · Go under the shirt without being invited, travel on the back and front, and get as intimate as you can.
· Press your body against your lover’s and let the fire break out inside…

A first date kiss should be something simple yet special. When a woman steps out on that first date, typically in the back of her mind, she is wondering if a kiss will end the date. There is nothing wrong with a first date kiss although it should not be something over the top. Generally, a woman does not mind a soft, gentle kiss to end the night. Even for the woman who does not generally kiss on the first date, if the kiss is something soft, gentle, and simple, she does not mind.

Are you having trouble figuring out where to meet Christian singles? You might want to meet other Christian singles for dating or you might just want to find Christian singles for friendship and support. More than eighty percent of Americans consider themselves to be Christian and yet a large percentage of Christian singles don’t know how to meet other Christian singles. Some people try to meet Christian singles only through church, which can be limiting. On the other hand, some people are trying to meet Christian singles everywhere they go and finding that many people are turned off by approaching a new relationship from a religious standpoint. The way to meet Christian singles is to find a balance between these two ends of the spectrum.

In order to find Christian singles, you have to be open to meeting them in a range of appropriate places. If you are only trying to meet other Christian singles at church, you are limiting yourself to the small, select pool of people who attend your church and the even smaller number of people who attend church social activities. Many people who attend church are in committed relationships and church is a family activity for them. You might be able to make friends with other Christian singles here but the likelihood of meeting other Christian singles here is slim.

At the same time, you are not likely to meet Christian singles at the local bar, the latest rave party or the nude beach. Many Christians associate with a wide range of people and enjoy a number of different activities and end up getting swept into modern traditional forms of dating. Often, this type of dating involves alcohol and overt sexuality. Even if you are able to find Christian singles in such an environment, you may find that your religious foundation is a turn-off and they will back away. You may also find that if you see Christian singles in such places, your relationship may be rocky as a result of conflicting moral values held by both parties.

In order to mingle with Christian singles that share your faith but aren’t just hanging out at church all day, you need to expose yourself to a variety of situations in which you will bump into Christian singles. One way to meet Christian singles is to vary your church attendance. You will still want to participate actively in your church but you might want to regularly attend services at a second church. Additionally, you can encourage your church groups to plan mingling and volunteer events with other churches so Christian singles can talk with other Christian singles while contributing to the community.

You should also be open to the opportunity to meet Christian singles in other areas of your life. You can find Christian singles at the local library, sporting events, coffee shops, poetry readings, theater events and shopping malls. In order to locate Christian singles in such places, you need to be willing to put yourself out there, starting up conversations with people in public places. You don’t need to share right away that you are seeking Christian singles, nor do you need to place emphasis on your faith, as this might hinder conversation initially. Instead, start with general conversation and use social clues to include religion into the conversation at appropriate times. In this way, you will meet Christian singles with a variety of interests, forming friendships and relationships easier than ever before.

Not too sure how to go about dating online? Does it feel like you shouldn’t have to do this?

Well, too bad. Online dating is one of the most effective ways to date these days. It’s cost efficient, you can reach many more people, you can change your ad as many times as you want, and you can browse others who are looking.

So, how about a few tips to get you started online, particularly for the Jewish dating sites.

Free sites are OK to browse, but not for serious shoppers.

You get what you pay for. Free is free. Any bozo can log on and sign up for a free account. Want to find quality dates? Pay for it. Look at it this way: the cost of a monthly fee is about the cost of a dinner out. To me, this is a no-brainer.

Upload a photo of you. Really.

First of all, you must have a photo. Would you buy a car online without a photo? I’m sure you wouldn’t buy something off ebay without a photo. Why should dating be any different? In fact, its even more important to include your photo-this is your life we are talking about. Most people search online by photos. And don’t even think of putting a picture of Tom Cruise up there saying it is you. Forget it.

Go online-often.

One of the worst things you can do is sign up for a membership, post your profile, then forget it. Suppose you get the girl of your dreams responding to you, but you aren’t online to say hi. If she left you a text or voicemail, you’d answer right? Go online, be active, chat with folks. Think of it as mingling. You can’t do too much of this.

Be yourself.

I’ve seen too many people go online and become something they are not. Fine, if you want to spend your whole life online. But if you actually plan on meeting somebody in person, you better be yourself. We don’t want surprises on either end. If you are expecting Julia Roberts and she doesn’t show up, you’d be pissed.

Enjoy the process.

Sure, this is serious business. But, it should be fun. If you’re stressed out, how can you be yourself? Try and look at the bigger picture here. If you’re posting and chatting online, its better than sucking down another beer in front of the tube.

Decide how important religion is to you.

This is a personal decision. Online, you will discover the entire range of how “Jewish” somebody really is. Decide what your real priorities are. How important is it that the person is as religious as you? Or not? Make a decision before going online, so you can search for those who are as religious as you prefer.

To your success,

The wealth of articles available on the Internet tell you that there are millions of people looking for advice about dating. This is true of teenagers, those in their twenties and thirties and for those in their senior years. Everyone needs companionship, but not everyone knows how to go about getting it the right way. At first dating is just a way of getting to know one another and it may or may not lead to romance. For some people who have been married for years, getting back into the dating scene is just as traumatic as a teenager going on his/her first date.

No matter what age one is, males and females have the same fears about dating mingled with a feeling of excitement. They are excited at the prospect of possibly meeting that special person, yet fearful they will be hurt in some way. Dating is different from what it once was, yet some facets of it remain the same. The first part of getting a date is doing the asking and being fearful of rejection. Then there is the ultimate question of where to go on the first date, how to act and how to dress.

For divorced or widowed men and women with children, there is the question of dealing with the children when it comes to their reaction about a parent starting to date again. This depends on the circumstances and the age of the children, but most parents tread very carefully when telling their children about a date or introducing the date to the children. There is also the anxiety of how the date will react to the children and this has to play an important part in whether there will be a second or third date. However, the children cannot be the only guiding force in dating and you have to keep your own happiness in mind.

Although you can get advice from many people about dating, the best advice is that which comes from within. You do have to use your own common sense about where, when and whom you date and how far you let it advance.

Such consumer oriented labeling as “Warning: this date may be hazardous to your emotional health” or “Lifetime unconditional love guarantee” should be easily visible on all new dates. Unfortunately the only labeling you may find on your next date may be a patch of material that says “Polo” or “Dockers.” This, however, is insufficient data and fails to give even the slightest clue regarding:

* what they are made of,
* if exposed to hot water whether they will shrink or need one, or
* if they will wrinkle, fade or run from commitment.

So how do you know what you are getting into or if your potential partner will even fit your needs? How do you know if your relationship is destined for the recycle shop or if it is durable enough to weather many seasons of the heart? Although you can never take all the risk out of relationships, what you can do is attempt to put the odds of success more in your favor. Potential mates don’t come with adequate product safety labeling but there are recognizable signs, “stop signs” and “warning signs”, that can let you know if the “Joe Camel” you are going out with is potentially dangerous to your emotional health. These signs and signals can alert you to potential problems that can lead the unaware down the road to relationship ruin. Some of the possible “stop signs” and the potential relationship problems that they may be warning you of include:

STOP SIGN or WARNING SIGN and POTENTIAL PROBLEM

- Your date becomes very angry over little things. His anger seems disproportionate to the event. He may be a rageaholic. He may have stored lots of past anger that he will eventually aim at you.

- He is extremely critical toward himself, puts himself down. He seems to be an extreme perfectionist. In time that criticism will be directed toward you too. He may expect the unreasonable.

- He bounces checks, has credit problems, unpaid parking tickets, is always late, and makes commitments then breaks them. You’re not dealing with a grown-up. You may be signing up to be his Mommy. You can’t fix him!

- Your date can’t have fun without drinking. He structures his social activities and free time around bars. He’s a potential alcoholic and he may also be addicted to other substances.

- Your date frequently flirts with other women. He makes suggestive comments to your friends and likes “men’s clubs”. He may be a sex addict. You’ll never feel secure. He could be unfaithful and unavailable emotionally.

- He has no long-term friends, few acquaintances and no long-term relationships. Forget the excuses, this is someone who is unable to bond with others. You won’t last long either.

- He is an emotional wreck. He seems to desperately need someone to heal his broken heart and help him get his life back on track. When you’ve exhausted yourself nursing him back to health, he won’t be there for you. That’s not his role. He’s the victim.

- Your date avoids talking about his past, especially his childhood. He says “what’s over is over” and “I just don’t think about it.” He could be hiding major unresolved emotional problems from childhood. Those problems will surface with anyone with whom he gets close.

- He has just ended a several year relationship. He says he is over her and ready to start dating again. Rebound alert! He may want to be ready to date but probably isn’t. He may yet go back to his ex- partner.

- Your date is uncomfortable with the idea of marriage counseling. He insists that the two of you can handle any problem that might come up. If a major problem does emerge, he won’t be open to help. He may be unable to face problems or even talk about serious issues. Look out!

Ignoring these “stop signs” and the warnings that they signal can create huge relationship problems. Denying, minimizing, rationalizing, or in some other way making excuses for the other person is usually a form of self-deception. This is a way that people often set themselves up for some very painful consequence.

It is not always easy shopping for the love of your life. The product safety labeling isn’t prominently displayed. But there are warning signs, stop signs and behavioral tags that tell the truth about what they are made of.

To begin with, allow me to do my part in dissipating an axiom that’s time has come and gone. Discussing politics, religion, and sex is no longer the faux pas it once was. This is not to say that you should zero in on these subjects for your discussion fodder, but you don’t have to be afraid to delve into any one of them.

Discussing politics, in case you haven’t noticed, is pretty depressing. Perhaps reason enough to approach this conversation topic gingerly. Religion? While there are many great conversations to be had in this vein, there are not many people who are willing to discuss the material objectively and with an open mind. And finally, unless you have a specific issue within the sex realm, such as the prurient content of the Internet or television, it’s not a good ‘casual’ topic.

We live in the age of global human communications. You can have a pen pal in London, and converse (in writing) almost in real-time over the Internet. Just a few years ago, it took days for a letter to get to London. Phone calls to Brazil cost a fraction of what they did a few years ago – and you can make such a call from anywhere – using your cell phone! In spite of this communications boon, we humans are becoming less proficient at actually communicating – both in writing and in conversation.

Here are some great topics to get some really interesting conversations started with people you meet at the office, socially, or when dating. Start a genuinely interesting conversation and watch people gather around.

There are two rules for casual conversation: 1) Never get personal, and 2) make sure of any facts.

Topic #1 - Misinformation
Some misinformation lasts a brief time, such as news stories that get fouled up, and broadcast before the facts are verified. Some is carried on over time by legend or habit. And some is perpetuated simply by repetition.

An excellent example of repetition (and faulty news reporting) can be seen in the case of Robert Fulton (November 14, 1765 – February 24, 1815). Mr. Fulton did NOT invent the steam engine, nor did he sail down any river on a boat called the Clermont. The name of the vessel Fulton rode on was called the North River Steamboat, and Clermont was the name of a town on the riverway to the Hudson. When the North River Steamboat stopped in Clermont, a reporter apparently wired the story of Fulton’s progress to his New York newspaper, where editors made errors that are now replete throughout literature and solid reference materials, including encyclopedias.

An example of myth or legend perpetuating misinformation is found in our daily use of the expressions “The sun is coming up” and “the sun is going down.” This was said when people believed the Earth was the center of the universe, and the sun went around the Earth. We’ve known for hundreds of years that this is not what actually happens, and yet we continue to say it the same way.

Topic #2 – Illusion of Numbers
We can’t really understand numbers, per se. In order for us poor humans to understand things, we have to be able to ‘wrap our brains around them.’ If I say any numbers 7 or below, you’ve got a good chance of ‘understanding’ what I mean. You can actually ’see’ 6 things in your mind. Certainly you can see 2 or 3. But what about 30? Or 172? And what about more serious numbers, like the cost of a house: 250,000 dollars? How much is that?

The above phenomenon is why we all like it so much when numbers are expressed in ways we can better grasp. Ross Perot did a superb job of breaking numbers down to where people had a better chance of understanding them. When I say that the annual interest on the national debt is 75,000,000,000 dollars ($75-billion) – you haven’t a prayer of understanding it. If I say it is enough money for every man and woman living west of the Mississippi to get a brand new car, you get a slightly improved grasp, even if you don’t fully fathom it.

The fact is, while numbers are absolute, we can’t really identify with them beyond the ones under ten. Once we reach a certain point, we start to use other words to describe things. The interest on the national debt, for example, might simply be called “huge” or “giganticamundo!” Giganticamundo is about as effective at conveying the number 75,000,000,000 as 75-billion is. In neither instance will the listener actually understand the number used.

Topic #3 – Ethical Broadcast Standards
What should people be allowed to say or show on television? Just recently, the FCC fines for showing something objectionable were increased by ten times! But what, considering our rights of free speech, should be considered ‘objectionable?’ This is a great conversation topic, and one that can generate hours of interesting discussion.

In the 1960’s there was a very popular TV show called I Dream of Jeannie. It was about an Air Force officer who finds a bottle with a lovely Genie in it. One of the two stars of the show, Barbara Eden, frequently wore her Genie outfit. Network officials were careful to ensure that the then sexy outfit covered Miss Eden’s belly button. Today, on any morning of the week, you can turn the television on to watch a workout show and see several VERY scantily-clad girls freely perspiring as they gyrate on the beach. And many swimwear competitions in beauty contests would have been banned thirty years ago.

The point is, what’s suitable, objectionable, and acceptable? Times change, as do people and the morality of cultures. Are we really still at a point where we should slowly release things to the media for their discretionary use? Haven’t we evolved far enough along to decide, as individuals, whether we want to see or hear something? Should it be the right of government to control broadcast standards, or should it be ours?

These three topics should make starting conversations much easier for you, and should also make your conversations eminently more interesting and popular than discussing the weather or sports scores. Look for more great topics in Part II. And remember, interesting conversations attract positive attention.

Dating has been the oldest form of meeting singles. However, the ways did change with passage of time. In the beginning era of newspapers and magazines, people used to search other singles or they some time publish their own ads, showing willingness to meet someone. Once the telephone became popular as great mode of communication, phone dating took place.

Invention of Internet is, perhaps one of the greatest one in late twentieth century. Internet has connected people of any part of the world together. Now, online dating has over-taken all previous means of dating. Needless to say, you can find thousands, even millions of singles of same age, location, language who are equally eager to find mates.

Speed dating is nothing but the fastest way of meeting many available singles in person quickly in one time. In Speed Date event, singles get together at the reserved place such as restaurant, bar, hall and spend fixed time to spend for “speed dating” with someone before moving to meet the next.

Speed dating is getting very popular among singles for many reasons. The great advantage of Speed Dating is it is fast, it is fun. By spending few minutes with someone you can know if you can get along with whom you are chatting. Speed dating provides lots of opportunity to meet various singles at one time, hence choice is tremendous. You can sit and chat with the person you like and find out if your chemistry matches or not. Meeting someone face to face makes lots of difference in your dating life. Speed dating reduces the chances of trials as all singles who come to attend Speed Date even have already decided to meet you.

Speed dating, in fact, is a great fun for daters. This is also useful for people having less or no time to meet singles otherwise. There is nothing better opportunity of meeting singles than attending such speed dating events. Even one meeting could bring the love in your life you are looking for so many years. Many online dating services occasionally arrange Speed Dating events for their members. It is a great opportunity for singles to become members and reap the benefit of attending Speed Dating, whenever it occurs.

First Date: Do’s and Don’ts

Remember that you only get one chance to make the first impression.

1) Ensure that you are listening as well as speaking.
2) Smile
3) Maintain eye contact, but don’t stare - this is an agressive act.
4) Don’t spend the entire date talking about yourself. Ask questions about his job, family, friends, goals, pets, hobbies and interests. You will get all the information you need to know if you ask questions and then listen.
5) Don’t ask yourself is the man I want to marry on your first date. Don’t look at her as if she has no clothes on.
6) Be safe. Use your good judgement. Always remain in public and take your cell phone.
7) Make sure you tell a friend where you are going.
8) Don’t get drunk. You will more likely to make bad judgements.
9) Look your best.
10) Don’t give away too much personal information.
11) Don’t talk about your ex. This is the fastest way NOT to get a second date.
12) Don’t be late
13) Be yourself.
14) Don’t act desperate, even if you are.
15) Pay attention. Listen for inconsistencies in the conversation. Watch for bad behaviour. Ie drinks too much, aggressive or confrontational.
16) Don’t talk about your weight and dieting.
17) Don’t talk about your girlfriends.
18) Turn your mobile phone off, or have it on vibrate, but DO NOT answer it.
19) Keep your first meeting short.
20) Be confident. This is an attractive characteristic.

Make the Right Moves
The finer points of social intercourse………..

The art of flirting is not only the preserve of the rich, beautiful and exceptionally confident, nor do you have to be a wanton women or lecherous Casanova to participate. With a little bit of practice and some sound advise, flirting is available to everyone – best of all, it can be a powerful social weapon when used for good instead of evil. Did we mention it’s great fun, builds confidence, can win you lots of friends and is a playful yet sure-fire way to test the waters when it comes to romance?

But enough of this shameless teasing, come hither and we whisper some tips in your ear that will ensure you’re not, in fact, flirting with disaster.

New social situations fill most people with fear and while some of us are adept at bluffing it out, the greater portion of the room will usually prefer to stick with the people they know, or hide in the shadows praying that someone will talk to them – in extreme cases, praying that they won’t. Taking the dreaded first step is always a tough one, requiring great reserves of mental strength – or at least a tall glass of Dutch courage. But according to the experts it’s all in the way you approach it.

When people grasp the concept that to be a great flirt you pay attention to the other

Person rather than drawing attention to yourself, it becomes more appealing, especially to people who are not particularly socially confident.

Shift your attention to making somebody else feel good, you’ll be pleasantly surprised that when you make somebody else feel good, they will often return the favour.

Sounds simple, huh? Take your glass of wine, stand next to someone and smile encouragingly at him or her as they talk about themselves. Eventually they’ll run out of things to say and start being nice to you instead. But without using camouflage and sidling up to someone like a Russian spy, how do you put yourself in the right position for that conversation?

Breaking the ice is undoubtedly the hardest part of meeting someone new, so what do you actually say to get the ball rolling – presumably, “Remember my name, you’ll be screaming it later” is not a great opener?

“Start with hello, then go out on a limb, you should tell that story, the one that makes you look like a dodo. Once you reveal yourself as human you’ll help others feel relaxed.”

Good flirts make other people feel special and enjoy doing it. “Flirts love people and notice what makes them tick.” They also have a great attitude, one that is relaxed, fearless and outward looking”. Treat it like a game, to win you just need to get then to smile back.” According to the experts, coaxing yourself into the kind of relaxed and playful state of mind you need for successful flirting needn’t require a personality transplant if you’re not usually the gregarious type. All you have to do is change your attitude by being conscious of your negative thoughts and changing them to positive ones. Most of us don’t approach others because we fear rejection, but flirting reduces this risk, as you’re simply putting out feelers to see what response you get before you put your heart on the line. Getting in the right frame of mind will definitely make it easier to get out there and say hi.

To be playful you just have to think playful. Maybe there’s a song that energises you, or a memory that makes you feel good. Conjure them up in your head and you’ll be surprised at that little kick of energy and enthusiasm you get. Our advise is not to use fake plastic bre3asts or a false moustache as your props – way too much room for error. But certainly having a few tunes that will build your confidence is ideal given the normal social conditions most of us operate in.

When most people think about flirting they concentrate on romantic context. However at it’s heart, flirting is simply about making people feel valued, and in return for this you’ll be remembered and liked; an ideal scenario for the workplace and everyday social interaction.

Flirting is useful in business, when you flirt with someone you pay them a compliment and compliments can grease the wheels of industry. Don’t confuse this with browning or being overly effusive of course, but it is good noticing other people and being interested in them. Sincere, rather than saucy. As your mother probably told you ,”it does’nt hurt to say something nice.”

It’s important to keep in mind that you need to be careful when flirting, particularly in the workplace – signals can be misunderstood if you aren’t clear. “Never cross the line or be sleazy,” This is particularly true of email flirting; you must be careful not to be lewd or overtly suggestive they may come back to haunt you. Sending colleagues a digital image of you wearing just a big smile, for instance, is probably a tad too much.

Flirting is not all about achieving a romantic goal, flirting when done well is natural communication where you focus your attention on the other person. It makes people notice you – not for you’re your great feats and accomplishments, but because you come across as a genuine and intelligent human being. Everyone wants someone to listen to them and to remember who they are – it’s one of the greatest compliments there is.

When flirting is great for testing the water of romance or for planting yourself favourably at work, it can also help keep the fires burning in a long-term relationshop.

Flirting keeps relationships – new and old fresh and alive….

So what’s the best advice for getting out there? “Nothing ventured nothing gained”, it costs nothing to smile or pay someone a compliment.

Gift Buying Mistakes
These tips should prevent you from making a faux pas.

1. Dont buy house hold gifts/white goods. Women like to feel like princesses.
2. If she tells you she doesn’t want or need a present, don’t listen.
3. Don’t buy gifts in the wrong size.
4. Don’t buy something that you wanted for yourself and offer it as a gift.
5. Don’t ask her what she wants, if she wants something in particular she will let you know.
6. Don’t buy her something you have already given her in the past. Be inventive and don’t repeat your gifts.
7. Present your gift with style. It’s all in the delivery, the presentation. Its not the what, it’s the how.
8. You don’t need to send a fortune. Just because it costs a bomb, doesn’t mean she will love your gift.

Don’t buy household gifts
Even if she asks you for a new toaster, make sure you buy something personal as well. We don’t really just want the new appliance for our birthday.

If she tells you she doesn’t want or need a present, don’t listen.
Don’t listen or you’ll get caught out. We don’t really mean that we don’t want anything. Surprise us, we deserve it.

Don’t buy gifts in the wrong size.
There is nothing worse than having to take back something because it doesn’t fit. Check to see your partner’s size or ask her girlfriend to help you.
Don’t buy something too big, this is worse than too small.

Don’t buy something that you wanted for yourself. No home theatres, new speakers, surround sound etc. Think on a more personal level. What are your partner’s interests, hobbies, favourite places, favourite fragrance.

Don’t ask her what she wants. Show her that you know her. Gift giving should be mysterious and maybe even a little sensual if you are giving to your partner. (Not tacky). The element of surprise is your friend.

Dont repeat gifts. Don’t make the mistake of giving her what you gave her last year. This will show you have given no thought to the occasion. If you are not sure what to get, sit quietly and think about your partner. Think about their likes and dislikes, think about hints or suggestions they may have made throughout the year. Think about places they said they would like to visit, restaurants they would like to go to.

Present your gift with style. Presentation is everything. You only get one chance to make the first impression. Use lots of beautiful ribbons and bows and choose a beautiful paper. Go the extra mile, you have thought about your gift, now make it look great on the outside.
You could even create a unique way to present the gift, by leaving it somewhere special, taking her to a special place and presenting it, sending it to work by special delivery, a message in a bottle etc.

You don’t need to spend a fortune. It’s not about the money. It’s about the way you make a girl feel. You might have spent a fortune on a gift that she doesn’t really want or like. Find something that will be delivered to the heart.

Quote ” I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”

Writing a good online Dating Profile takes a little time and effort and done properly can bring a continuous stream of potential quality dates. It is important to pay attention to the details when writing your profile and avoid the following 4 pitfalls at all costs, as these can often make the difference to your dating experience and to the quality of responses you get.

1. The Copycat Pitfall.

I’m sure that you will agree when I say that this is one of the most common pitfalls that hundreds have fallen into. How many hundreds of profiles sound the same? Some are almost identical. Why? Could it be because people don’t know what to say? Or could it be that some dating sites who give profile writing advice tell their members to look at other profiles before they write their own? Has this unintentionally resulted in the copycat effect? Who knows?

Whatever the reason, it is important for you to be as unique as you can. There is only one you. No two people are the same, which means your personal ads shouldn’t be the same either. You should avoid being stereotyped at all costs. This way, you make a unique claim on your ad. And you make your individuality a lot more visible.

2. The Personal Adjective Pitfall.

Some people in order to describe themselves use the same old personal adjectives that don’t really say anything; you know the same old generic stuff that could apply to half the population: “I am an honest, creative, funny person”

When describing yourself, where possible show your unique qualities by emphasizing them in the way you write your ad. For example, instead of writing: “I am a funny witty person.” Write your ad using your own humorous style.

People are funny in different ways; you need to decide how to show your sense of humor in a way that is your own. You must differentiate yourself from the others.

If you are a person that is able to make witty comments about themselves, go for it - it always acts as a turn on. You know the best part about humor. It always works. It sells like a billion dollars.

If you are a creative person then write creatively and the reader will see your creativity. Don’t write “I am intelligent” Just write your ad correctly, make sure it reads well, and it has no grammatical errors. Don’t tell them. Show them. Listen, I”m not telling you never to use personal adjectives in your profile, I”m just saying use them wisely and sparingly. Use action words where applicable.

The other point I want to make is using nothing but “I’s” in your profile: writing too many “I like”, ” I am”, “I want” and “I don’ts” may portray you as a selfish person, someone who only focuses on themselves; this is not attractive and certainly not good selling point.

Remember the reader is not just interested in you. They want to know why they should contact you. Give them a reason. Don’t just talk about yourself, involve them.

3. The Negativity Pitfall.

Take a look at the following sentences and see which one is more attractive and appealing to you:

“I’ve been dreading this for ages. To tell the truth, I am fed up with people and dating sites. ” Or “I’ve found out that there are some awesome people online, and I’m really excited to meet them.”

The first one is written by someone who obviously has a negative attitude! Would you want to date this person? Negativity is a major turn-off. Avoid anything negative. People don’t respond well to negativity.

Don’t include anything negative in your profile, even though at times it seems easier to think about what you don’t want or don’t like. Just rephrase it to into a positive. Transform your weaknesses into fine points. Or better yet, make your weak points very subtle. Focus more on your finer qualities.

So instead of using phrases like: “I’m mostly a loner, with only a few friends and I absolutely hate the noisy overcrowded bar scene” Say “I’m a true individual with unique genuine qualities, whose social interests vary from gathering intimately with a small group of friends to quiet nights in with my favorite author”

The idea is to take your fearful negative thoughts and change them into optimistic and positive ones. Be upbeat, positive and have fun writing your profile, others are much more likely to have fun reading it.

4. The Writing For Everyone Pitfall.

One misconception about writing a personal ad is that you should write for an audience. This is silly, I mean ask yourself: Do I really want to date the audience? If you do, go for it. But most likely, you just want to meet the ‘one’. You know, your ideal partner.

You need to write like you are talking to the one person you want to meet. Make it personal to them. Write in such a way that makes them feel that you are really talking to him/her. Remember that you are NOT looking to achieve hundreds of responses; you are looking to get quality responses from those that you are interested in and would be attracted to.

You will want to write your profile differently depending on whether you’re looking for a casual or serious relationship. Obviously, in a casual relationship you’re just looking for some fun. Go ahead, there’s nothing wrong with that, as long as your profile makes it clear where you’re coming from. You don’t want to mislead people.

There could be trouble when one person is in for something more serious and the other is into sheer hedonism and fun! So you should absolutely make your intentions clear from the start. Doing this automatically weeds out those that don’t fit the bill for you, therefore saving you hours of time which enables you to focus your efforts on those that do interest you.

Your dating success can be achieved by paying attention to the details. This can make all the difference. Good Luck and have fun!

Forming relationships with members of the opposite sex is hard enough for many fluent people. Just think for a few moments about how difficult it is for people who suffer with the speech impediment known as stammering to have the confidence to form a long lasting relationship with a man/woman.

I am Stephen Hill and I had a stammer up until the age of twenty-two, at this point I managed to overcome the problem after a lot of hard work. Stammering badly affected my confidence and self-esteem. For many years I wondered if I would ever meet a girl who would be willing to be my girlfriend. I used to think in a very negative way and would often ask myself questions such as, why would any girl want to go out with me? What kind of girl is going to want to date somebody who has a lack of confidence and a stammer?

At the age of sixteen I started going out with my friends to pubs and clubs. My friends seemed to find it quite easy to form relationships with girls where as I did not have any confidence in my ability to talk to them.

I used to think things like:

If I meet a girl I will have to buy her a drink. No problem you might think, however I found it very hard to order drinks at the bar.

If I meet a girl I will be expected to phone her at least once a day. The phone was my worst area of speech and something I only used if I had to.

If I meet a girl I will have to meet her friends and family. I used to dread meeting new people as they always seemed to ask so many direct questions such as where do you work? I wanted to have a shirt printed with all of the answers to the most popular questions as I would normally stammer under the pressure. It would be so much easier just to point to the answer or to say number one for example.

I met my first ever girlfriend when I was eighteen, what a stud! I have to say she was superb and did not seem to care that I had a stammer. She was even happy to order my drinks and food for me and was basically a very nice girl. For whatever reason I did not believe that I was good enough for her and constantly worried that she would dump me. As you can see I was a very positive person. How would I cope if she left me? How long would it take me to meet somebody else who would be willing to date somebody with a stammer?

This girl did leave me but I did date her for fourteen months. I did cope despite my reservations and was surprised to find that most girls/women that I met after this did not care that I had a stammer. I still found the whole dating process very difficult especially at the outset.

This is definitely one of the most talked about and written about dating topics of today, considering the increasing threat to genuine date seekers.

You could avoid being trapped and abused by a fake online date if you use the following basics when you search for a date next time. You may think you have already read enough of it. But just read on ‘cos you might catch something new!

· Start with a good dating service - To start with, use a reputed dating service provided by a known website. Their reputation itself makes it necessary for them to be more careful when allowing online dates.

· Longer the better - Subscribe for a reasonably paid online dating service of your choice. Do not select free or cheap dating sites. Always try to pay for at least 3 months period. You have to pay only the amount you’d spend on a two or three cheap dinners! Try to find out suitable dating or matchmaking site depending on your requirement (religious, black, ethnic, fun etc).

· Look for dating service reviews - If you are worried about your money being wasted on something of no use to you, make use of online dating services review sites where you can search and learn about dating services around the world. They provide expert guidance for you to find a dating site to suit your requirements.

One thing I must emphasis is that there are many internet dating review sites which are out of date. They have reviewed the dating services two or three years back. Always select reputed review sites that are up to date.

· Read the profiles carefully - Always look for descriptions which sound truthful. Avoid contacting too many. Limit your contacts to a few. See who is continuing for a long time. They may be the genuine ones who really want a date with you.

· Avoid superstars J - Avoid personals which sound too good to be true with photographs of handsome dudes/lovely chicks! Specially avoid overseas personals of similar kind who are all too interested in you.

· Avoid Scams - Carefully see whether you receive any pleads for financial help. If yes, first thing you should do is to avoid them at all costs. (avoid sending money for visas, air tickets etc) This is a popular scamming technique. Don’t fall in to that trap.

· Don’t give any numbers - If you are considering a more personal relationship with the online date of your interest, get his/her contact number. If they are reluctant to give a number, be careful. If they gave you a number, try ringing it then and there without telling him/her and see who is picking the line, always use a public phone and don’t use your mobile phone by any means.

· Things about personal details - If you are confident that you have carried on long enough to confide in each other see whether he/she is willing to give out personal details. If he/she is totally unwilling to give out any information, it is better to back off.

· Be honest - Finally, be honest yourself. If you are not being truthful, you cannot expect another to be honest with you. However, always be careful of what you should reveal to a person you have not yet met personally.

Every time I talk to a guy who tells me his dating experience, I discover he’s making the exact same mistakes most guys do, dating mistakes that kill his chances of successfully dating sexy women. Dating can be an absolute nightmare for some people. Whether you have been dating for years, getting back in the game, or just starting out, you could always use a bit of dating advice.

1) Pay attention to her and listen.

Most guys try to impress sexy women by talking all through. Sexy women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she will begin to wonder why you’re not slobbering all over her. She’ll want to discover more about you herself… now you’re a challenge, and sexy women love challenging guys. Why? Because they rarely meet one.

2) Ask questions.

Come up with a list before you leave the house, i.e., How did you get into that line of work? Where did you go to school? Have you seen the new Tom Cruise movie? And so on. If a woman tells you about her weekend at the yoga center, and you know absolutely nothing about yoga, just ask her what she likes about it, how she got into it, etc.

3) Compliment the other person.

Show sincere appreciation, so find something you like and mention it. You may be freaked out by the idea of complimenting a woman on her soulful eyes, so mention her watch, dress, hairstyle, or even her shoes. No need to go overboard: “Nice shoes,” will do it.

4) Be yourself.

Exaggerating or boasting your credentials, successes, etc will only make the woman lose interest. Make the other party feel at home so that she does not feel pressured to impress or lie to you. Sincerity is the best policy. Nobody feels more comfortable around people who are genuine and sincere.

5) Give your date the royal treatment.

Buy her some flowers, buy her dinner and make her feel special. Show her that you value her company. Women loved to be showered with attention and pampered by her man. For the subsequent date, Cook up a meal at home and spend the evening watching movies or some other activity such as a board game. The meal most likely will be better than at a restaurant.

Enjoy dating while you can and live life to the fullest. You’ll attract women who are looking for someone special for a change.

Dating can be stressful and nerve wracking. You might feel like you are under a microscope and all your failures and faults are exposed in the open. But you can make things easier on yourself by boosting your confidence. You’ll be much more attractive to any date when you exude self confidence plus you’ll be able to enjoy yourself more and get much more out of the dating experience.

Since the whole point of dating is getting to know someone better, most people are nervous about making a good impression. Self doubts can creep in - are you smart enough? Attractive enough? Successful enough? That coupled with the threat of rejection is enough to make anyone’s confidence go south.

So how can you increase your confidence for your next date?

First off, don’t blow the date all out of proportion. It is just a date - one afternoon or evening. The rest of your life does not depend on it, although of course, you could be meeting your future spouse! Whether you are just looking for a fun night out or desperately trying to find Mr or Mrs right, it is best to just focus on the date itself. Take it for what it is and don’t put a lot of pressure on the event. Enjoy the person you are on the date with and the meal, movie or whatever - don’t have any great expectations other than a fun date.

Go into the date thinking of yourself as a person that has a lot of confidence. We’ve all seen them, the person that sweeps into the room and turns heads even when they might not be the most attractive or best dressed. If you picture yourself as confident then you will act this way - even when you don’t really feel it.

You’ve heard it before but the best way to have confidence on a date is to be yourself. Don’t try to impress your date by acting like someone you are not because you will not have the confidence to pull it off. If you hit it off with your date, you’ll be glad you weren’t pretending to be someone else as it will only be exposed later and could really much things up for you. Plus it just takes too much effort to pretend to be someone else and you won’t be able to enjoy yourself as much. And anyway, why wouldn’t your date like you for who you are?

If you feel insecure about yourself, focus on the other person. Become interested in their hobbies, likes dislikes and really think about what they have to say. When you put them in the spotlight it takes the spotlight off of you, plus you get to learn a lot about them. Ask questions and really hear the answers then ask more questions about the answers. Of course, you want to do this in a conversational way and not make your date feel like you are grilling them! While you don’t want to talk just about yourself the whole time you also don’t want to make it seem like you are avoiding answering their questions. When you do talk about yourself highlight your positive points.

Another way to take some of the pressure out of a date is to do something different instead of sitting at dinner and feeling insecure about coming up with 3 hours of conversation with someone you don’t know. Find a common interest, perhaps hiking or bird watching and make that date to do that. This way you can talk about your experiences related to t his interest and it will take a lot of the pressure off as well as boost your self confidence as you will be talking about something you know a lot about!

The main thing when dating is to remember that you are a valuable and special person. Don’t feel inferior to anyone and be confident - this will help win you many friends and, maybe even that someone special!

The most common idea of dating online is two weird people pretending to be something that they are not, but this isn’t always the case. Online dating services offer a lot to adults and allow them to connect with other people looking for that special someone. Now, when you think of teen dating you may realize all the dangers that are involved. Although you think of all the dangers, there are also some good things that can come out of teen dating online.

The dangers in teenage dating online are very clear. Although teens may thing that they are safe online and behind a computer, they are not. Millions of people have access to information in your computer if they know how to access the system. When you log onto your computer and the internet, it is an open portal for many people to get into. Teen dating sites are also an open door to these thieves and sexual predators. When a teen is on an online dating service you should monitor the information they give out, like where they live and numbers etc.

Before registering on a online dating site you should research the site and make sure there aren’t a lot of reports of identity theft or online stalkers. If there are, you should find a different site to register at. You should also not give out any information on where you live, your phone number, pictures or even event you are going attend. Stalkers will feed off this information and try their hardest to get it. Be wary of what you say. Be aware that profiles can easily be hacked into and imitated, so make sure you know that you are talking to the person you know before you give out any information. You should also talk to your parents before entering the world of online dating. It may seem like a hassle or a bore but you should make sure you have their approval before you access these sites. They may want to know the pros and cons before allowing you access to it, and you should make sure you know what not to do on an online dating site.

Online dating is one of the fastest growing industries in the UK today. Every day, hundreds of thousands of us log on to one or more of the growing number of sites available; some looking for serious relationships, others for friendship and companions, and still others for casual flings and that extra ‘bit on the side’.

Some sites claim to be purely for genuine singles seeking committed, long term relationships, others turn a blind eye to, or even actively encourage, married or cohabiting members who may or may not use the sites with the blessing of their spouse or partner. Of course many people who use online dating sites do so purely for chatting and exchanging messages and never meet face to face; with the steady growth of the Internet as a communication tool since it’s inception, it has become increasingly possible for netizens to conduct deeply involved, real time relationships with people they have never actually met.

So what does this change with regard to the old ways of doing things? When does an online relationship become ‘intimate’? Can you fall in love with an avatar, and can you cheat on someone, or with someone, who is in a different time zone?

A recent study by Dr Martin Graff of the University of Glamorgan showed that our perceptions of what does and does not constitute ‘cheating’ online are affected by a variety of factors – most prominently, and perhaps unsurprisingly, by the level of information dating site users are prepared to disclose about themselves; Dr Graff explains

“From this study, it seems that the greater the level of typed disclosure, then the stronger the perception of infidelity.”

Seemingly, in the absence of the ‘nonverbal cues’ on which face to face interaction relies so strongly, how much we are prepared to give away about ourselves is the primary indicator of how intimate our online relationships are and by extension, the degree of unfaithfulness inherent in the actions of non single site users.

Perhaps more surprisingly, the study also showed that the time of day at which online encounters took place was also a key factor in establishing infidelity, concluding that

“Exchanges later in the evening were perceived to be more infidelitous, than those which might take place in the day or early evening.”

Dr Graff’s study is ongoing and subsequent phases will look at the issues of jealousy and trust in the0020context of online relationships.

Ultimately the jury is still out on exactly what constitutes online infidelity and indeed relationships over the net as a whole. It is doubtful that a firm conclusion will ever be reached as the world of online dating and relationships, as in ‘real life’, will always be immensely subjective due to the differing moral standards and emotional responses of the individuals involved. Studies like Dr Graff’s can however provide a fascinating insight into the human causes and effects of the modern world, and how these are shaped by the direction of our rapidly developing and changing communications technology.

It’s like a jungle sometimes! The Sugar Hill Gang could have been talking about online dating when they penned their greatest hit. Of course, back in the early 1980s the idea of finding a partner via the Internet would have been regarded in the same light as taking a day trip to the moon; twenty plus years on and strolling around Copernicus for the afternoon is still the stuff of fantasy, but finding the perfect match on the Internet is something that more and more of us are doing.

Out there in the online jungle are a great many different creatures, all of whom make their respective ways down to the watering hole with their own aims in mind. Some come merely to socialise, to chew the fat with the other denizens of this fertile environment, rub shoulders with the great and the tiny, hear the latest gossip on the bush telegraph and keep abreast of recent goings on; others come to prowl, surveying the ranks of assorted beasts, picking the choicest morsels to feast their eyes upon (or more)! Still more come in hope of something less tangible, they come seeking companionship from creatures like themselves; a life partner to raise a brood with or share a nest.

So, what kind of dating creature are you? We identified a few of the inhabitants of the dating jungle below:

With their long legs and lurid pink plumage; the flamingos come down to the watering hole to preen, flirt and catch tiny krill. The slightest noise or sudden move and they take to the air, startled. Flamingos in the world of online singles are equally skittish; they upload pictures of themselves so that they can be admired, preening in the water, thriving on compliments they snap up like so much krill. These flamingos will take to the wing at the slightest mention of meeting, or taking things to a more serious level.

Howler monkeys are the jungle’s gossips; rampantly sociable, they come to the water to meet and chatter, to groom and to reinforce their social bonds. Howler monkey dating site users are often looking for friends to chat and gossip with. They tend to use the sites very regularly and sometimes for hours on end, chatting to new friends and adding to their favourites lists. This can be a great way to use dating sites for people who have just moved to a new town or city, or who find it difficult to meet people because of work constraints.

And then the lion – the self-styled King of the Jungle may have a mighty roar but is actually quite a timid creature, shying away fro