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Skincare is vitally important to all of us, especially with the increasing dangers from global warming, pollution and modified and preserved foods. Amalaki is one of those amazing treasures that has remained almost a secret amongst Indian women when it comes to skincare. Thousands of years of natural beauty and good skin have been all thanks to this Himalayan berry.

The amalaki or native Indian gooseberry has been hailed in ancient texts and even by modern holistic experts as a food of the Gods, growing wildly in deciduous areas where there is little pollution to destroy the berries’ goodness. Indian women have known its secrets and are a testament to its super powers over the health of beautiful skin for many generations. However, as science discovers it and the many other things that it is able to do, the amazing skin care qualitities are being studied in full and women all over the world can now enjoy its healing and therapeutic properties.

Nutritionists are finding that the many compounds, amino acids, minerals and vitamins, namely the high amounts of vitamin C are the main reason for its incredible ability to heal, restore and rejuvenate. Using ancient recipes and techniques, anyone can now enjoy young, acne free skin. By working from the inside out, amalaki penetrates the very cells of each layer of the skin. Its goodness travels through the blood, feeding the cells of the dermis and upper dermis with needed nutrients, fighting off bacteria from the root source and reaching deep within pores and hair follicles from the inside out. No acne medication today can achieve what this tiny berry can.

There are many ways in which amalaki can be used for skincare besides taken it internally via juice or supplements. Holistic skin care products are now incorporating amalaki as a main ingredient or active ingredient in things like moisturizers and cleansers. It seems there is nothing that this berry cannot do.

Due to the ascorbic acid concentration, when combined with honey, not only can the hair be softened and rejuvenated, but the skin of the face gets a cleansing, anti-bacterial wash and complete softening. Another ingredient within the berry is the linoleic acid, which is similar to linseed oil, and this combines with the healing properties of honey to create the perfect skin cream and cleanser all rolled into one. The amalaki berry is truly the fountain of youth, something that has been claimed for as long as its wonderful properties have been known.

Although all tattoos bear some significance or other to the bearer, flowers hold special meanings in themselves. With more and more women getting tattoos, it is no wonder that flower designs are becoming evermore popular. Since flowers come in a wide array of colors and styles and meanings, the make an easier choice for someone wanting something original, while remaining mainstream. The most beneficial part of flower tattoos is you can personalize it to mean what you want by choosing your flower and your colorations.

Overall, many people associate flowers with life. We can view their life cycles everyday all around us, from the beginning of growth to the wilting and eventual dying of the blossoms. When we view a flower we envision life. Born of nature, they continue to mature on a day to day basis, forever reminding us that like all other things we are not immortal. As the flower does die, so shall we.

The coloration you choose can mean many things, whether individualized to you or on a more global scale. White is often seen as a symbol of innocence and purity. Clean and crisp just like a fresh snowfall. Red is seen as a burning passion or desire, it can be looked upon as the color of love or the color of rage.

Roses of course are the most common flower, followed by the lotus. Roses like the color red symbolize love and passion. Roses are viewed as a romantic flower, which is why it is very common to send your loved one roses on Valentines Day and other holidays. In western civilizations roses are seen as love and purity whereas in eastern civilizations it is the lotus flower that represents this. A lotus tattoo also holds further meaning. It is meant to impart the bearer with fortune, peace and beauty. Tulips are another popular choice, symbolizing passion and expertise at being a lover. Violets are for the timid and tame girl. The shy girl who takes her time and maintains control. For those of Irish descent the Acacia flower is a popular choice, otherwise known as the Bells of Ireland, they symbolize friendship and love. Those seeking to display virtue and wisdom may choose an Iris. Or a women may chose a Magnolia to symbolize a love of nature.

As you can see the choices are as wide and beautiful as all the flowers in the world. Depending on your cultural background and heritage along with your personal individualized choice, you can find the perfect flower tattoo with the perfect meaning for you.

Perhaps the best things in life are free. Looking back, the best dates I ever went on didn’t cost much or anything at all.

Traditional dating can be expensive; dinner, which can easily cost $40 or more. Follow that with a movie, which can run another $40 if you buy popcorn, drinks and candy. Suddenly you are close to a hundred dollar evening, and before you know it, all of your extra money for the month has been spent on a date.

Yet it doesn’t have to cost so much. The best thing is that often, romance can be free. An afternoon spent hiking. Having a nice quiet picnic at a park or lake, an afternoon stroll through the forest; All wonderful dates, and they only cost you time.

Here are some more ideas:

An evening spent quietly at home. Cook your favorite dish or make it an adventure and try all new recipes. Watch movies, play a board game or a bottle of wine and the starry night sky.

Visit a local festival or art fair. Many towns and communities have local events, especially in the summer. It’s a good opportunity to experience good food, entertainment and the outdoors.

Go camping. Most campgrounds offer free setups for tents. Spend the evening under the stars. Make smores and relax by the fire. Listen to the crickets. Often the best dates are those that you spend a lot of thought on not money. Anyone can spend money on dinner and a movie, and yet it is truly unique for someone to make a date to go to the farmer’s market and pick out fresh produce for dinner.

First dates at times can be a little tense. Exchange the usual first-date feelings with a more relaxed atmosphere. Instead of the same old Friday or Saturday night first date, try instead a Sunday afternoon stroll through the park! Saturday afternoon ball games work just as well. Ask yourself how you can take the formality out of the situation. Always make sure that you look for activities where you can get to know each other — that’s what first dates are all about.

There are an endless amount of possibilities. Once you get to know her, you will find many different inexpensive date ideas. Even married couples can take advantage of frugal dating.

A date is much more than a dinner; it is spending time getting to know her. When you take the time to find unique ways to spend time together, that time becomes special. You could try something new every time with her or do the same thing every weekend. What really matters isn’t the money you spend, it’s the time. Have fun!

Gay rights activists in Connecticut initially pushed lawmakers there to legalize marriage for same-sex couples. But when support for the idea was less than warm, they compromised on a civil unions bill.

On April 20 the state’s Republican governor, M. Jodi Rell, signed the groundbreaking legislation, making Connecticut the second state after Vermont to offer gays and lesbians civil unions–all the fights of marriage but without the name–and the first to do so without court order. (Other states, such as California, offer various rights under domestic-partnership laws.)

“I have said all along that I believe in no discrimination of any kind, and I think that this bill accomplishes that while at the same time preserving the traditional language that a marriage is between a man and a woman,” Rell said.

She referred to an eleventh-hour amendment that added the marriage definition to the bill–a necessary compromise for lawmakers and voters across the country who support the idea of legal protections for same-sex couples but believe marriage should be limited to straight couples. The Connecticut gay rights group Love Makes a Family issued a statement commending state lawmakers while noting that the bill was still a compromise on full equalitY and that they would continue to “work toward the day when there are not two lines at town hall–one for them and one for us.”

A similar story is unfolding in Oregon, where gay rights activists who pushed for marriage were defeated on April 14 when the state supreme court nullified more than 3,000 marriage licenses issued to gay and lesbian couples in Multnomah County last year. The court cited a state constitutional amendment, recently approved by voters, banning marriage for gays, but left open the possibilitY of civil unions.

Indeed, less than 24 hours before the ruling, the state’s Democratic governor, Ted Kulongoski, and a bipartisan group of state senators had introduced a bill to create civil unions. Kulongoski acknowledges that the bill “may be a little ahead of its time,” said his spokeswoman, Holly Armstrong, but the governor also predicts that the speed of social change would soon make legal protection for same-sex relationships a reality in Oregon, if not immediately through marriage.

Women wanting to be beautiful is as old as civilization. At different times in history, women have ingested arsenic to improve their complexions, used warm urine from young boys to remove their freckles and took belladonna to produce dreamy eyes. The beauty business is a $160 billion, a year, global industry. The cosmetic surgery business is a $20 billion business. These industries play on the fear of looking ugly as much as the need to look beautiful and for good reason. Attractive people are perceived to be more intelligent, more successful and better in bed. Although the beauty industry has traditionally marketed to women, the male market is increasing.

Part of the challenge which the beauty industry faces is truth in advertising. Increasingly, consumers have tested products which make grandiose claims, only to be disappointed. The current trend is on well being as well as outer beauty. A healthy individual, in good physical shape, is perceived to be an attractive individual. Here are four factors which can help you to achieve beauty from the inside out.

Water. Water is an essential component of the human body. When we fail to replace lost water we can enter a state of dehydration. If you have ever been thirsty, you have experienced the beginnings of dehydration. A rule of thumb is: check your urine. If your urine is clear to light colored you are adequately hydrated. A lack of water in your system can lead to overeating. Sometimes, when we feel that we are hungry we are actually thirsty. When you feel hunger, have a glass or two of water and wait 15 minutes. If you are still hungry, eat something. I keep a 32 ounce bottle of water with me at all times and sip from it throughout the day. I usually finish two bottles a day.

Oxygen. According to Dr. Spencer Way in the Journal of American Association of Physicians, “ Insufficient oxygen means insufficient biological energy that can result in anything from mild fatigue to life threatening disease.” Sufficient oxygen is necessary for a healthy life. We can exist for up to 40 days without food, 4 days without water but no more than 3 minutes without oxygen. Due to pollution and the thinning ozone layer, oxygen levels in our air are believed to be around 21%. Adequate oxygen levels are very important in that hostile organisms cannot live in an oxygen rich environment.

Colostrum and Leptin. Colostrum is a natural food, rich in anti aging and immune factors. Leptin is a small hormone-like protein primarily produced by fat cells. Small fat cells produce more leptin than large fat cells. Leptin is important because it sends out a signal to suppress appetite. Some of the benefits of the colostrum/leptin combination are: inch loss, building of lean muscle, high energy levels, tightening and toning of the skin, better sleep and much more. I believe this to be an essential combination in achieving beauty from the inside out.

Sleep. Adequate sleep is important on more than one level. It is the number one defense against stress. Cortisol, a hormone, is released during stressful events and can, over time, lead to a risk of infection and disease. Sleep is also important in minimizing weight gain. Many Americans that are sleep deprived are also overweight. The amount of sleep suggested for the average person is 8-10 hours. When Sophia Loren, a popular actress and reigning beauty in the sixties and seventies, was asked how she still looked so beautiful at an older age, her answer was that she naps every day.

As a final note: If you are taking vitamin supplements, your urine will be darker for several hours after taking them. There are many companies that advertise products that profess to raise oxygen levels in your system. As always, use due diligence in your choice of products. If you try and follow this guide to beauty, you should see results in the form of looking and feeling younger and healthier.

It’s the classic nature-versus-nurture debate: Is it your genes or your lifestyle that determines how you look as you age? “The rule of thumb in terms of wrinkles is that it’s 10 percent genetics and 90 percent environment and lifestyle,” says Tina Alster, M.D., of the Washington Institute of Dermalogic Laser Surgery, in Washington, D.C. What is genetic: skin thickness (which accounts for how much it sags) and wrinkle patterns.

The good news: The remaining 90 percent gives you a lot of control. To prove it, Darrick Antell, M.D., a plastic surgeon in New York City, studied identical twins and found that if their lifestyles were the same, their faces aged similarly. But if their habits were different, the contrasts were dramatic. Antell found one sister, who was a sun worshipper (and had premature aging) and the other who wasn’t. “Seeing their photos side by side was like looking at plastic surgery before-and-after pictures,” Antell says. So while your DNA may be immutable, what you do with its blueprint is up to you. Here, the lifestyle changes that will help you save face.

Protect yourself from the sun. The experts agree: The sun is, hands down, your skin’s worst enemy. Exposure to the sun’s ultraviolet (UV) radiation causes the skin’s support structures (collagen and elastin) to break down, accelerating the aging process. “There are many habits that can age the skin, but the sun really trumps everything else,” says Nancy Silverberg, M.D., a dermatologist in Newport Beach, Calif. “And even if you’ve already done a lot of damage, it’s never too late to start wearing sunscreen. Daily use has been shown to actually reverse a significant portion of sun damage.” And, it’s not enough just to wear it; you need to wear the right one.

Costco’s no-frills, self-service warehouse facilities that offer members a limited selection of nationally branded and selected private-label products may not be glamorous, but that hasn’t prevented the retailer from staking its claim with the serious beauty shopper.

While Costco may not offer the broad selection of HBA products found at a discount retailer, the low prices, quality brand names and merchandising techniques of products ranging from hair care to teeth whitening strips are in line with consumer expectations and are proving successful for Costco.

At Costco sundries (which include HBA, as well as snacks, tobacco, beverages and cleaning supplies) accounted for 29% of net sales in fiscal 2005–second only to food at 31%.

“What they do well is bring quality products, branded or private label, and offer them at attractive prices,” said Robert Toomey, an analyst with E.K. Riley Advisors, ” … and they really do their homework. They will partner with the best manufacturers to make sure they have top-quality products.”

Such merchandising is evident when in the HBA area, located near the pharmacy. For example, at one New Jersey location visited by DSN Retailing Today, there was the stretch mark/anti-age phenomenon StriVectin-SD priced at $67.99 for a two-pack of 2-ounce tubes, and Elizabeth Arden Visible Difference cream priced at $27.99 for a two-pack of 2.5-ounce bottles.

In comparison, a 6-ounce tube of StriVectin-SD is priced at $135 at online HBA retailer drugstore.com and Ulta sells Elizabeth Arden Visible Difference cream for $49 each.

This summer, Costco made its first foray into cosmetics through a partnership with high-end beauty company Borghese Cosmetics.

The line of private-label, co-branded products, dubbed Kirkland Signature by Borghese, features popular items such as skin care and makeup, and initially was tested in 30 of its stores during the summer.

According to a recent research note by David Schick, an analyst with Legg Mason Wood Walker, the private-label cosmetics are now being rolled as a national program. “The cosmetics, ‘Kirkland Signature by Borghese’ show significant [greater than 50%] discounts to department store pricing,” Schick stated.

Such savings were evident during DSN Retailing Today L visit to Costco, where Borghese mascara was priced at $19.99 for a two-pack. If a consumer were to purchase Borghese mascara

from Nordstrom’s Web site, for example, it would cost $18 each.

Between juggling family and work, today’s women are busier than ever. Combine that with the beauty aisle at mass brimming with an influx of new products and likely no cosmetician to help her navigate the sea of choices, and it is sure to spell one thing for the beauty shopper: frustration.

Looking to help simplify the shopping experience at mass, manufacturers are increasingly coming up with innovative merchandising and customization to help bolster the beauty basket.

Revlon’s Almay is one key example, with its successful Intense i-Color Collection, which first debuted in January 2005, but will return in early 2006 with even more drama. The collection is segmented by eye color and is expected to be a $50 million business this year, according to Revlon president and chief executive officer Jack Stahl.

For early 2006, the revamped Almay Intense i-Color Play Up Collection features even bolder shades for maximum impact, liquid eve liner for more drama and volumizing mascara for thicker lashes. The products are sold separately for a suggested retail price of $7.49 each.

Meanwhile, Jane & Co. is expected to roll out for January eye shadow kits also segmented by eye color. For example, consumers can buy an eye shadow kit that “magnifies green eyes” or “magnifies gray eyes.”

In general, there is a look-good/feel-good strategy that helps connect health and wellness to beauty care.

Certainly, that comes through in Wal-Mart’s women’s health education program. Several of the educational brochures, which Wal-Mart stocks in a giant, wall-mounted rack directly adjacent to the pharmacy counter, focus on beauty-related topics, with such titles as “Living with Hair Loss,” “Living with Adult Acne,” “Living with a Positive Body Image” and “Living with Beautiful Skin at Any Age.”

And, of Course, beauty care plays a role in Wal-Mart’s ongoing in-store health events. There is generally one major event happening in its stores each month, explained pharmacy merchandise manager Bruce Painter. Perhaps no other beauty care category is more closely connected to health and wellness than skin care, which is a major staple in diabetes care. Soft, supple skin is an important luxury to the average female shopper, but for people with diabetes, male and female alike, it is an absolute necessity. Because people with diabetes tend to have circulatory issues in their extremities, a simple cut or skin crack on the hands or feet can lead to serious medical complications, including amputation. So, skin care is a constant staple of any diabetes-related events Wal-Mart does in its stores.

On a more aesthetic and less remedial level, skin care also plays a role in women’s health events and education. Certainly, it would not be unusual to find a vendor demonstrating or sampling a new anti-age product during an in-store women’s health event, which most likely would be anchored by osteoporosis screenings and other more health care-oriented services being performed in the pharmacy department. The “Beautiful Skin at Any Age” brochure focuses on a four-step recipe for maintaining beautiful skin, including cleansing, exfoliating, moisturizing and experimenting with cosmetics–all clear invitations to shop the beauty aisle. In addition, the advice also includes religious usage of SPF when going out in the sun.

And, while the link between pharmacy and beauty may not beat a straight path to the cosmetics wall, it does help migrate customers toward that end of the store.

Home to pastel-hued Waimea Canyon, the “Grand Canyon of the Pacific,” as well as the emerald folding cliffs of the Napali Coast, one of Hawaii’s great natural wonders, Kauai has always been known for the breathtaking beauty of its aina (land). And there’s no better time to visit this earthly paradise than during the Aloha Festivals, when the awe-inspiring scenery is matched only by the culture of its people–all in celebration of their island home.

During the Garden Island’s ROYAL COURT INVESTITURE (August 27, Kamokila Ancient Hawaiian Village in Wailua), panoramic views of Hawaii’s longest river, lush exotic foliage, mesmerizing hula, and melodious chant set the stage as alii (royalty) receive the reigning symbols of the monarchy.

Or luxuriate in a traditional Hawaiian ahaaina (feast) at the ROYAL LUAU AT THE RADISSON KAUAI BEACH RESORT (Tuesday, September 13, Radisson Kauai Beach Resort), sampling such Hawaiian delicacies as pork laulau (pork wrapped in taro leaves, steamed in an imu, a hot-stone lined underground oven), lomilomi salmon (a salsa of cured salmon mixed with onions and tomatoes), haupia (coconut pudding), and the traditional island staple, poi (ground taro mixed with water). Hawaiian entertainers and traditional dancers round out an evening of traditional Hawaiian revelry.

CALVIN SAYS somewhere that each of us is an actor on a stage and God is the audience. That metaphor has always interested me, because it

makes us artists of our behavior, and the reaction of God to us might bethought of as aesthetic rather than morally judgmental in the ordinary sense.”

This reflection by Pastor John Ames, found in Marilynne Robinson’s novel Gilead, suggests that Protestants should consider beauty just as essential to Christian life and understanding as those other medieval transcendentals, truth and goodness. Roman Catholic theologian Hans Urs von Balthasar has written powerfully on the significance of theological aesthetics, but for Protestants beauty remains a marginal category.

That is our loss, especially as we suffer from enough moral judgmentalism from both the right and the left to last several lifetimes. What might it mean to live as if God’s reactions were aesthetic rather than morally judgmental? How might this shape our own reactions?

John Ames gives us several dues. One of those clues is the significance of having eyes to see the beauty of God and God’s world. In his younger days Ames preached a Pentecost sermon and said that “the gray ember of Creation” occasionally turns to radiance before receding back into itself. Later in his life Ames reflects on that sermon: “The Lord is more constant and far more extravagant than it seems to imply. Wherever you turn your eyes the world can shine like transfiguration. You don’t have to bring a thing to it except a little willingness to see. Only, who could have the courage to see it?”

Wal-Mart’s pharmacy and health and beauty care executives joined suppliers last month for a reception sponsored by Drug Store News. The event was held at the Embassy Suites in connection with the publication’s recent special issue devoted to Wal-Mart Pharmacy: Connection to the Community. Drug Store News is published by Lebhar-Friedman, parent company of Connecting Northwest Arkansas.

(L to R) Tony Lisanti, Drug Store News, Ron Chomiuk and Art Alderson, Wal-Mart, and John Kenlon, Drug Store News.

Wal-Mart’s Ron Chomiuk, center, is flanked by (l to r) Brian Bradley, Doug Kavulich, Tom Johnson and John Cawlfield with Del Pharmaceuticals.

(L to R) Bob Chan, Prince of Peace Enterprises, with Chuck Fehlig, Wal-Mart.

(L to R) Wal-Mart’s Bob Dufour with Natalie Baker and Jim Liebman from AstraZeneca.

(L to R) Julie Trendowicz and Renee Kenney with Par Pharmaceuticals, and JoLynn Coleman and Bruce Painter, Wal-Mart.

“Clarity in the service of what is easy to say isn’t of interest to me,” Stephen Dunn has remarked. “Clarity in the service of complexity is.” This striving for clarity in the service of complexity has long been a hallmark of Dunn’s poetry; however, in his latest collection of poems, The Insistence of Beauty, what Dunn refers to as his “hard-won clarity” reveals the voice of a poet transformed, a voice unafraid of its own clarity and complexity and of the mysterious nexus where the two intersect.

One can’t accurately call The Insistence of Beauty a departure for Dunn, since each of his latest books has seemed a departure from the last. The poems in this collection are neither sublimely elegiac as in his Pulitzer Prize-winning Different Hours nor heavily conceit-driven as in his last book, Local Visitations. These poems may be more accurately described as “post-elegiac,” the poems of a writer who has learned that although the fear of death may be omnipresent, it need not become omnipotent. Here, Dunn’s poems are extremely personal without falling into the trap of solipsism which he has cautioned against both as a writer and a teacher. Consider these lines from “Juarez”:

Or maybe you knew that a story
always belongs to its teller,
that nothing you could have said--
once it was told in my voicewould--
much matter. Perhaps.
But, after all, it's my story too.

Here, Dunn demonstrates the voice of the fictionist central to so many of his poems, the seductive voice that makes us believe–as we should–that in these poems, Dunn will navigate us through the straits of grief and loss to deeper waters where a heart can still survive.

Dunn’s content here cycles among the subjects of life in the age of terrorism, the dissolution of a marriage, and the revivifying reclamation of monogamy after that adultery-plagued marriage. This latter is best exemplified in the poem “Monogamy”:

After all, there's the suddenly desirable
mono in monogamy to celebrate,
the new freedom of wanting
only one person. Start again,
but admit you won't advocate this
for anyone save yourself.

They’re the windows to the soul. So why shouldn’t they look wide open and wonderful? With the help of today’s fresh and clean see-through eye color, everyone can be a bright-eyed beauty

let your makeup wake up your eyes

1. LINE EYES with a flesh-colored pencil. “A black pencil automatically closes up the eyes,” says celebrity makeup artist Joe J. Simon, who created the gorgeous makeup in this story. For those who love to wear liner inside the lash line, flesh tones are a softer, eye-defining alternative. We like Lorac Eye Pencil #1 or Cargo Eye Pencil in Wood.

2. GO FOR SEE-THROUGH COLOR. The best eye brighteners include shadows or creams with a touch of shimmer that isn’t too dense or opaque. Metallic color, especially soft coppers and warm golds, brushed on the entire lid, is a great choice for brown skin.
3. PLAY UP YOUR LASHES. “Women can open up their eyes instantly by using a lash curler,” says Simon. His favorite: the Shu Uemura Black Nickel Eyelash Curler. After you pump up your lashes with the curler, top them off with two coats of mascara.

Lighten up those lips

Think you can’t live without colorful lipstick? Think again. Naked lip color is equally sensuous and looks gorgeous on brown skin. The “uncolors” of today, whether sheer or satin, are clean, sophisticated and polished.

how to go nude

1. CHOOSE A WARM, NEUTRAL HUE. “On brown skin, nude lip color should be grounded in rich, earthy tones,” Simon advises. Otherwise this finish might appear too chalky.

2. THINK PENCIL, NOT LINER. A lip pencil can serve as a base color for the entire lip, which is especially helpful if your natural lip color is more than one shade. Even up your natural lip color with a nude pencil before applying your “naked” lipstick, stain or gloss. One great find: Nars Lipliner Pencil in African Queen.

3. WORK IT BOTH DAY AND NIGHT. A nude pout goes easily from the job to the dance floor and all places in between. Keep yours neutral, and when you need it, add drama to the rest of your makeup, especially around the eyes.

boost your brows

Skinny, overplucked brows are so yesterday. Arm yourself with the right tools and a few simple tricks, and lush brows are literally at your fingertips

Animal lovers in particular will be enthralled by this exciting horse racing story, set in England, of two misfits: an unhappy girl encased in a prickly shell of defiance and a big, ugly, clumsy thoroughbred horse. When Tessa is only three, she bonds with Shina, a blind mare, and never forgets that love. Her Irish horsebreeder father is such a feckless alcoholic, however, that her parents divorce, and her mother moves to England, where she marries Maurice, a rich but cruel and grasping racehorse owner whose only concern is how much money he can amass by betting. Tessa despises him and hates her life as his stepdaughter, so much so that she spins out of control emotionally. After she has been expelled from every private school to which she is sent Maurice banishes her to work in a training stable. From then on her whole life turns around.

Buffoon, an ungainly, unpromising horse, is sent there to be trained, and Tessa is drawn to him so deeply that the experience for both of them is almost mystical. Only later does she discover that he is Shina’s son. The plot centers on their mutual love and her determination to prove his worth, all the way to the Grand National, the peak of the British racing season. But she must overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles, the worst of which is her own frightful temper, to come to terms with life and to realize her dreams.

Reader Pauli’s semi-voiced narration is perfect. Her voice is beautifully pitched and modulated in the narrative sections and then so flexible that every character achieves a convincing reality. Without over dramatizing she maintains a gripping pace throughout. Although the author obviously loves and understands horses, the crux of the novel is Tessa’s slow and painful progress toward maturity, as she changes from a fierce and isolated 12-year-old into “someone who is beginning to understand that love and loyalty can extend to human beings as well as to horses.”

In the fantasy kingdom of Ran, a young princess has worked to degrade her natural beauty in order to keep her mother’s affection. At 16, Tatiana Anatolia (Ana) has fed herself on pastries to gain shapelessness; she hacks her dirty hair ragged, and dresses in unsuitable and drab clothes. Her mother, Queen Veda, rarely seems to notice her, so Ana is surprised to receive an invitation to a new academy when the queen designates some of the village girls as candidates. The academy’s students all seem far more beautiful than Ana now appears. The academy is overseen by a sinister headmaster; even Ana’s best friend falls under his spell. Soon, the most beautiful girls seem to be sickening; Ana is quick to figure out exactly why. Meanwhile, Queen Veda consults obsessively with the royal Beauty Consultant, a character whom readers will quickly recognize as a personification of the “mirror, mirror on the wall” from the Snow White tale.

This is a simple but elegant reworking of the fairy tale about beauty and jealousy. Although the prose is easy, the images are crisply evoked. The wicked queen and the churlish headmaster provide tension without much suspense, but readers in search of a quick moral story will snack on this light morsel without coming to aesthetic harm.

The members of both the Belsey and Kipps families are stalwart theorists. Their individual and collected perceptions of things “beautiful,” both aesthetically and physically, academically and morally–to some extent–are held close and expressed with convincing conviction. It’s the vivacity of these characters that Zadie Smith brings to On Beauty and lends to the book’s much-deserved attention.

On Beauty was short-listed for the Man Booker Prize in the United Kingdom in 2005, and as with her debut novel, White Teeth (Random House, 2000), Smith has created a modern-day tale in which the complexities that encompass the combination of race, class, faith and personal politics take center stage.

Howard Belsey, a white British professor of art history at Wellington College, and Kiki, his African American wife who works at a hospital, and their three teenage children have settled into their New England lives, but not all too comfortably. Howard and Kiki are trying to make the best of their 30-year marriage after it is discovered that Howard has had an affair. Jerome, Zora and Levi, on the other hand, are struggling to articulate their independence with their own beliefs and ideals on the religious, academic and racial fronts. These are difficult endeavors for each of them, but the intimacy and humor of the family dynamics are winning.

Montague Kipps is a dapper, conservative Trinidadian scholar from London who is invited to Wellington as a guest lecturer for a semester. He’s also an old rival of Howard’s; and once he arrives on campus, Monty is all set to challenge the liberal-minded Howard on the subjects of Rembrandt and affirmative action. Monty, his ailing wife, Carlene, and their two children are also outspoken. Yet the encounters between the members of the two families take different turns: Kiki and Carlene strike up a true friendship, while encounters between Howard and Monty, and those that involve the opinionated teenagers are filled with enough tension to alter room temperatures. Add a charming young rapper named Carl to the drama and the interactions become more contentious, more realistic.

DAVID BENTLEY HART is a convert to Eastern Orthodoxy with a recent Ph.D. in theology from the University of Virginia. This volume, his first book, is a much-revised form of his dissertation. Given the scope of its references and sheer intellectual flair, I can think of no more brilliant work by an American theologian in the past ten years–a remarkable beginning for a theological career. But be forewarned–this is tough going, distinctly not the book to take to the beach.

Three thinkers seem Hart’s most important influences: John Milbank, Gregory of Nyssa and Hans Urs yon Balthasar. Let me use the occasion of this review to try to explain aspects of the work of three very complex theologians and then talk about how Hart ties them together.

Milbank, an English philosophical theologian about to move back to Britain after several years of teaching at me university of Virginia, stands at the center of a self-conscious theological movement called “radical orthodoxy” (its adherents have their own book series, their own Web site and a passion for self-promotion). In his 1990 book Theology and Social Theory (also brilliant, also difficult) Milbank offered a new account of how to make a ease for Christianity in a postmodern world.

The Enlightenment, he argued, is over and done with. Starting around the 17th century, many philosophers, scientists, political theorists and even theologians dreamt of proving their conclusions so decisively that no reasonable person could ever doubt them again. Lots of intellectuals these days no longer think that’s possible. This conclusion need not imply radical relativism. Truth–the truth–can still be out there. But all our arguments for what we believe the truth to be (even in science or math) rest inevitably on some set of assumptions, some perspective, with which other reasonable folk might not agree. Our arguments therefore need to involve persuasion and rhetorical strategy; we can’t prove we’re right. Accepting that turn to the rhetorical is one definition of what it means to be post-Enlightenment or postmodern.

What if we could eat anything we wanted, ignore the scale and still look as fabulous as a supermodel? That’s the strange new world Andrea Rains Waggener creates in her first novel, Alternate Beauty (Bantam Books, 2005).

About to get fired from her job at a plus-size clothing store for being too fat, Ronnie Tremayne goes on a late-night eating binge only to wake up in a parallel universe where fat is beautiful and thin is no longer in. But she soon learns that the outer trappings of her new life–handsome men, glamorous parties, her mother’s approval–don’t lead to paradise. Waggener reflected on her own struggles with body image in a recent interview with Shape.

Shape What inspired you to write this novel?

Waggener I had all of this upheaval in my life, and so I went back to my coping mechanism: I ate. One day I woke up and weighed 275 pounds. It seemed instantaneous. I’d go out and I was almost invisible. I thought, Wouldn’t it be incredible to live in a world where the way I look now is not only acceptable but beautiful?

S Achieving the perfect body is a moving target in this book. Does that insight come from experience?

W I’d gain 5-10 pounds and would want to lose 15 to be even more perfect. I’d try different diets and exercise, but I never got a body I was happy with. I’m trying to encourage people, in my own way, to love the body you have and make it as healthy as you can.

S What can readers learn from Ronnie’s journey?

W It’s not just about the weight. She didn’t find her happiness in the alternate universe. She found it in herself.

S You lost 100 pounds after writing the book. How did you do it?

W When you start from a place of being acceptable, of ‘I want to feel healthy and have muscle tone and this has nothing to do with appearance,’ then it’s a lot easier to stay motivated. At least it was for me.

Would you rather renew your vows or get a bigger rock? Cheat on your guy or be cheated on? More than 1,000 married women weighed in on these and other hot topics in a Redbookmag.com poll. See how your answers stack up and hear how women on each side explain their decision. Would you rather…

Get an hour-long massage from your husband or a professional masseuse?

A masseuse:

59%
My husband: 41%

“I’d prefer a professional. My husband rubs me like he’s attacking a side of beef.”
–Andra Lahr, Texas, married five years

“A massage from my husband would be sensual and relaxing — and just the beginning of a whole night of fun.”
–Kelly Moran, Pennsylvania, married two years

Your husband were bald or had a beer belly?

Bald: 59%
Beer belly: 41%

“Bald doesn’t bother me at all. Look at Bruce Willis or Montel — they’re hot!”
–Laura Grimmer, Texas, married four years

“My father-in-law is bald and does the dreaded comb-over. I’d hate to see my husband doing that!”
–Jennifer B., Washington, DC, married eight years

Move in with your parents or his?

My parents: 65%
His parents: 35%

“The evil you know is less scary than the one you don’t.”
–Mari Farthing, Oklahoma, married 12 years

“My in-laws are better housekeepers, and they always cook.”
–Michelle Rosario, Ohio, married 10 years

Your husband wash or fold?

Wash: 72%
Fold: 28%

“He clumps and balls rather than folds, so I’d rather he wash.”
–Brooke Duree, Texas, married four years

“[I prefer he folds.] My husband won’t sort laundry. Then he complains that he has pink underwear.”
–Vanessa Helfrich, Idaho, married nine years

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True love is the rarest of things in my experience, it’s because few people can navigate the dating scene successfully enough to find it.

The truth of the matter is that most people settle, it’s that simple.

It’s a basic law of human nature for people to seek the path of least resistance, translated it means that most people will take the first person that basically meets their standards.

That’s the reason why the majority are with someone by default, “he” or “she” was better than a lot of the other people the person in question may have dated, so, they will settle on that person.

Now what happens when the right person comes along? They will see that you are with someone and move along, it happens all the time.

Let me ask you a question. How many times have you met someone outside of your relationship, say, a social gathering, through a friend, wherever, and were really attracted to them?

They seemed so right, but you were in a relationship.

Many people will know exactly what I am talking about. I’ve had it happen to me and talked to many other people that related to that question.

God, nature, designs men and women to be together, we have a kind of beacon in our DNA that makes us want to be in a relationship, to procreate.

There is a lot more to a relationship than procreating though so we need to put a lot more thought into finding that “Special Someone”.

Most people don’t put a lot of thought into the process though, they simply react, that signal in their DNA is what is in control, not their intellect.

A large majority of people are just plain needy too. They are the worst off in the long run. They spend a lot of their life in and out of relationships just because they are scared to be alone, and unless they deal with their core, self esteem issues they will always follow the same pattern.

Then there are the people who are attracted to a certain “type”, usually negative in nature, bad boys, or bad girls. These are the people that are always whining about their boyfriend being a jerk, or for guys, being totally obsessed with their girlfriend, her whereabouts, who she talks to, stalking her.

Once again, if these people don’t deal with their core self esteem issues they have little if any chance of finding true love.

True love has a price, a price most people are not willing to pay, therefore, they will never have it. It does exist, there are numerous examples from history, true love stories, it’s out there, it’s real, but it costs.

Each person sets their own standard, only those with the highest standards when it comes to finding the right partner will find them.

I’m not talking about being picky or concieted, I’m talking about being honest with oneself. If the person you are currently with does not meet your needs today, they will never meet your needs.

People don’t change who and what they are to suit each other, so don’t sell yourself short, find the right person. It will take some time and selection, some navigating. Be honest with yourself in regards to that person, are they really everything you always wanted? If not, they won’t be later on either.

There’s a new women staring back in the mirror, she’s got a glow, new hair cut and color, a fresh attitude and a new found freedom. You’ve got the art of flirting down to a “t” and you’ve practiced a very seductive smile that is genuine and natural…. Bravo!!! And keep up the work that you’ve done as it will only empower and enable you to be “the best you can be” and now you are about to get back into the dating scene.

Consider the following before going online and putting an ad or putting a profile on your local “singles” line.

Chemistry is crucial, it’s hormones raging, lustful thoughts that are unconsciously there within the first 7 minutes of meeting a new person.

If you are seeking a long term relationship, you seek romance, and roses, you won’t respond to an ad that says, “looking for a casual friend” You will be a lot happier in the long run and save yourself the heartache of trying to understand why the guy said so many wonderful things (that one night) and then just disappeared.

Chemistry for the most part can lead us into relationships that at best should just be seen as “moments”, “interludes” and “escapades”. And yet too many fall into intensely passionate, but short-lived relationships that have broken their hearts and been highly disappointing.

Don’t get me wrong. Attraction is a critical element for any budding romance, but try this food for thought, instead of relying on sexual attraction alone, think about all the qualities that will make for a loving partnership.

If you meet a great guy who appears to have many of the qualities you desire, but falls short on chemistry, get to know him better so you can appreciate who he really is and discover the kind of attraction that builds with time.

For a lasting loving partnership, start assessing prospects based on a wider range of characteristics that have more meaning for the something long term.

Things to consider:

• shared interests
• social compatibility and friendship
• intellectual compatibility
• ability to communicate
• shared values, attitude and beliefs
• level of maturity
• personal and family goals

Love, respect and admire yourself first…then and only then can love grow in your heart for another.

Love is the burning embers of the fire deep in the hearth!

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