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Online Dating

June 2, 2008

Online Dating Is Becoming More And More Popular

As everyone is aware, today Internet has been growing at an incredible speed. There are many reasons for this fast growth. This is mainly on account of science and globalization which has been developing like anything. So on account of this, everything is getting advanced. Through internet, people from any part of the world can meet each other or talk to each other or become friends.

Online Dating is a Net Dating Service which allows individuals to meet together online. This could either be friendship or a serious friendship or romance or just for fun. It could also result into match making.

Many would like to know why Online Dating is so popular. The answer would be that Online Dating is very much safe and provides enough time to find out about a person before actually meeting him or her. Internet has made it very easy for people to date and that too from the comfort of their homes.

Generally when a person visits such sites, one has to provide their personal information for registration. Search for individuals according to ones choice. Choice could be race, gender, age, location. It could be said as according to ones likes and dislikes. There are many who display their photographs in such sites. Profiles with Photograph generally catches ones attention.

There have been lot of developments in such sites like webcam chatting, which has become of late more popular. People tend to chat through this source for hours and it is just like a face to face chatting. There are sites which offer online dating along with online games. There are sites which offer free memberships and at the same time there are sites which charge fees for memberships.

There are lot of advantages as well as disadvantages to Online Dating. Dating is fast, one can have as much personal space as one wants and its cheap also. Online Dating gives significant information about a persons likes and dislikes. Through this, one can get a fair idea about the type of person he or she is going to meet. Through this source, one could share their specific interests when they encounter for the first time online, share their thoughts or opinions about their future, get enough time to know each other before entering into any relationship or friendship and also learn to handle each other effectively. Also Online Dating will never divulge persons personal information. Disadvantage could be something like registering a false information. So one has to be very honest and straightforward while submitting ones profile. One has to be quite positive in ones approach while dating. Before dating anyone, one has to look from various angles, take a good look, decide upon what is the requirement.

Online Dating can be made interesting and fun making activity when one sends greeting cards, shares digital photo albums and funny video clips. It is more or less similar to Offline Dating. It is no different from Offline Dating. The important thing to be taken care is to respect each others privacy.

There are lot of sites which offer online dating services like MatchMaker.com, eHarmony, FriendFinder, True.com, AmericanSingles, LavaLife, PerfectMatch.com and many more.

Today because of Internet, Online Dating Sites have become very popular and nowadays even marriages also take place through Online Dating. Dating is fun but no doubt at the same time it is challenging also. Online Dating definitely helps to develop a deep and platonic relationship. It can be an interesting and an exciting journey to finding romance

Midlife Dating Tip - Accept Your Changing Body And Reject Midlife Crisis

Middle age can be a challenging time for dating and yet at the same time you may feel exhilarated to get out there and meet people. Unfortunately the media wants to snuff out your excitement because you no longer look 20 years old. Next time you turn on your television you are likely to see ads telling you that in order for you to be seen as attractive you must be young or at least looking younger than you actually are. These advertisers have products that will magically change a 55 year-old face to look like a 20 year-old face. I know you are not going to want to hear this but the truth is no creams or gels are going to stop the aging process, you know this anyway. If that’s true, why do so many middle-aged people keep buying these products and spending so much money on trying to look young? Hey, what’s wrong with looking your age anyway?

During middle age men and women begin to feel a loss of control over their physical appearance. They still feel the same on the inside while their outer body is changing. Unfortunately these physical changes can negatively impact your self-esteem.

To understand what you are feeling inside, keep in mind our culture worships youth and beauty and is even obsessed with it. The youth obsessed culture hits women’s self-esteem much harder than men. Did you ever notice how many television shows have the older distinguished looking man hooking up with a beautiful woman much younger than he is? At the same time derogatory jokes are told about the middle-aged woman’s body and supposed lack of attractiveness to men. Consider how women are bombarded by these messages everyday. It makes a woman want to through the television right out the window!

So what do you do about it? For starters stand up for yourself and consciously reject the messages. Don’t let the media interfere with way you view yourself. Remember they are just trying to sell you creams and cosmetics. Why feel ashamed over an aging body. We cannot control the aging process and it is important to remember no one escapes the process. This is a natural part of the human life cycle.

The second step is to look inside yourself and admire the beautiful qualities you have. Focus on the inner person you are. Middle age can be a good time to clarify for yourself just what your values are. Look at all of the talents you have developed and the wisdom you have acquired during your life. Remember you bring this rich body of experiences and wisdom to your relationships.

In middle age we are never going to be able to meet the standards of beauty as defined by the media and our youth obsessed culture. So let’s nourish and love our selves and our bodies and deepen our individual self -respect. Once we feel good about who we are we will feel more confident when dating and we will attract someone who shares our values and view of the world.

August 31, 2006

How dating online could be improved by video email and video chat.

The world has become a smaller place with the advent of the internet. With the telephone, one could only talk to a person far away; however, with video communication, one can both see and talk to a loved one living far away. Moreover, with the various video communication media available like video email and video chat, there is a lower chance of any misunderstandings occurring here than when one communicates through the telephone.

Nowadays you can not only communicate with your loved ones, but those singles out there can also make and get to know partners through the numerous dating websites found on the internet. This form of socializing is one of the best ways a person too busy with their career to find a partner, possibly a life partner! When looking for a partner on the internet, you usually meet the person with similar interests as all your basic information has to be given to the dating service. This is the greatest advantage of internet dating; instead of getting hooked on someone because of love at first sight, with internet dating, you get to learn about the temperaments and nature of the person before actually meeting. With internet dating, there is no need of waiting for one to make the first move. There is no nervousness to hide and you can seem cool and collected to your partner, no matter how nervous you may actually be! However it is very important that you provide honest information about yourself to the online dating site so that you will get the perfect match for you. Inaccurate information only leads to an inaccurate match!

Once you find your partner through the internet, it is important for you to meet to get to see each other. There have been occasions where on meeting; you find that this is not the person I had envisioned through our online dating! Now that you have met, and you are happy with each other, you have to develop a perfect love relationship to confirm a long time relationship. Loving someone when dating is rather easy; however to become a serious couple, you have to have a serious love relationship that may prove to be an uphill task.

Make sure you are compatible with the person you date; having the same taste of food and pets does not promise a long-term love relationship. There is more to life than this! You have to have the capacity of forgiving each other for certain mistakes while also have your say on some manners you are not happy with. You have to basically ask the right questions at the right time to get to know each other better.

It is very important that you remain honest, understanding and committed to your partner during the span of your relationship. Remember, both of you have the same rights of giving and accepting opinions about your relationship!

You could perhaps add some romance to your lives by springing some nice surprises on each other, when life gets dull. You could shower some gifts on your partner, go for a romantic, candlelit evening diner or even send flowers to brighten your partner’s day! So with some romance in the air, a good understanding of each other’s nature and temperament will help in creating a long, lifetime love relationship for both of you!

The Online Dating Jungle - What Kind of Creature Are You?

It’s like a jungle sometimes! The Sugar Hill Gang could have been talking about online dating when they penned their greatest hit. Of course, back in the early 1980s the idea of finding a partner via the Internet would have been regarded in the same light as taking a day trip to the moon; twenty plus years on and strolling around Copernicus for the afternoon is still the stuff of fantasy, but finding the perfect match on the Internet is something that more and more of us are doing.

Out there in the online jungle are a great many different creatures, all of whom make their respective ways down to the watering hole with their own aims in mind. Some come merely to socialise, to chew the fat with the other denizens of this fertile environment, rub shoulders with the great and the tiny, hear the latest gossip on the bush telegraph and keep abreast of recent goings on; others come to prowl, surveying the ranks of assorted beasts, picking the choicest morsels to feast their eyes upon (or more)! Still more come in hope of something less tangible, they come seeking companionship from creatures like themselves; a life partner to raise a brood with or share a nest.

So, what kind of dating creature are you? We identified a few of the inhabitants of the dating jungle below:

With their long legs and lurid pink plumage; the flamingos come down to the watering hole to preen, flirt and catch tiny krill. The slightest noise or sudden move and they take to the air, startled. Flamingos in the world of online singles are equally skittish; they upload pictures of themselves so that they can be admired, preening in the water, thriving on compliments they snap up like so much krill. These flamingos will take to the wing at the slightest mention of meeting, or taking things to a more serious level.

Howler monkeys are the jungle’s gossips; rampantly sociable, they come to the water to meet and chatter, to groom and to reinforce their social bonds. Howler monkey dating site users are often looking for friends to chat and gossip with. They tend to use the sites very regularly and sometimes for hours on end, chatting to new friends and adding to their favourites lists. This can be a great way to use dating sites for people who have just moved to a new town or city, or who find it difficult to meet people because of work constraints.

And then the lion – the self-styled King of the Jungle may have a mighty roar but is actually quite a timid creature, shying away from large groups of prey, preferring to circle silently and pick the perfect target. These types of daters will often view your profile six or seven times before sending you a hello; they like to make sure of what they’re getting as lions don’t like to waste energy. Of course when they do make their choice this skilled hunter’s charms can often prove hard to resist!

Double Your Adult Personal Dating

POWER AND RELATIONSHIPS

One of my favorite books is Gerry Spence’s book “How To Argue And Win Every Time” (I’ve listened to the audio tape version many, many times as well, and recommend it highly). In that book, he talks about the concept of personal power, and how most people give away their power to others.

Here’s one way I generalize male/female relationships.

Variables: 1 Power 2 No Power 3 You 4 Her

Possible Combinations:

1. You have no power, she has no power

This is the attitude characterized by guys saying “You probably won’t like me, and there’s nothing that either of us can do about it.” When people have very low self esteem, combined with learned helplessness they often use these kinds of words. This is the situation when a guy thinks for whatever reason that he’s not valuable as a person, and that no woman COULD want him.

2. You have no power, she has the power

Characterized by “I don’t know what to do. I really like this girl, but I don’t think she likes me. I want her to like me really bad. I think about it all the time. I have to figure out how to get her attention and impress her.” These are the kinds of thoughts of most guys who I come into contact with.

3. You have power, she has power

Characterized by “I like myself and believe that I’m a great choice for her, and I think that she’s a desirable woman. I’m going to give her the opportunity to take advantage of being with me. If she accepts, great… if she chooses not to, that’s fine because I can always find another woman.” This is probably the healthiest mindset, but there are a few problems here. Namely, that most women AND men have a whole truckload of personal issues, neurosis, and inner-children-needing-a¬hug, so it doesn’t come down this way often.

You have power, she has no power

Characterized by “I am the best thing that every happened to you. I take what I want, and you’ll enjoy it. If I want your opinion, I’ll give it to you. If you are too stupid to see the opportunity that is in front of you (me) then you’re an idiot, and nothing can be done to help you… later.” Clifford and I were talking on the telephone a few days ago about the new Motley Crue book. You may have read my newsletter a few weeks ago about that book and what those guys are like. Clifford and I agree that these guys act like complete animals, and yet they bang ALL of the world’s hottest chicks… from groupies to super-models. These guys are the undisputed champs of moral bankruptcy in my book. But they sure get laid a lot. lol… they also spend a lot of time in jail and rehab, so think twice about modeling them! Even though these guys aren’t the best models for children, I think that some useful lessons can be learned from them. More later.

Internet dating safety precaution tips

Online dating can lead to off-line friendship, love and even marriage. Exchanging written correspondence, is a great way to build loving, trusting relationships.

However, you could expose yourself to the risk of physical harm if you proceed without caution. You wouldn’t give a stranger on the street your name, address and telephone number.. don’t do it online! Protect yourself with the following common sense guidelines, and enjoy the start of what might become a very beautiful friendship.

Remain Anonymous - Don’t give anyone online your real email address, last name, phone number, address or place of work during your early correspondence. Stop communicating with anyone who tries to pressure you into giving this information. Check with your ISP server and make sure that your Online Profile does not give out more personal information than you are comfortable with.

Use email redirection services - Listed below are free email providers and forwarding services. Use these services to keep your main email address anonymous.HotMail,Google,Yahoo

Don’t make the mistake when you started using online personal ads! Many of us use multiple signature lines for our personal and business email correspondence which include our phone numbers and addresses. Don’t sent ’strangers’ personal information by including ‘personal’ signature line in email to them. Please Don’t take that chance.

Nicknames - Call yourself ‘Pretty Woman’ Protect yourself against unwanted advances and use a gender-neutral nickname in chat rooms, discussion groups and on message boards. As you can see, common sense is the key to staying safe during your online search for love.

Meeting offline for the first time - Don’t allow yourself to be pressured into meeting anyone. If they threaten to terminate online correspondence if you don’t meet them within a certain time frame, end your online connection. Nice people don’t make threats or put pressure on people they care about.

When you do decide to meet someone whose company you enjoy online, meet in a public place and bring your friends. Your online friend will understand and accommodate your wishes if they are honest about their intentions towards you. If during the date, you decide to go somewhere else, use your own car.

Don’t agree to hiking dates or meetings in remote areas until you know someone very well. Plan a short initial meeting. If, on meeting, you know you won’t be seeing this person again, sharing coffee and a little polite chat won’t be as painful as spending a long day together.

Keep the date light-hearted and fun and leave as originally scheduled. Answer honestly if asked whether you’d like to get together again. Tell your friends and family where you are going, with whom, and arrange to check in with them at a specified time during the date and again when you arrive home.

If you travel to meet your online love, make your own hotel and car reservations and don’t give out the name of your hotel. Drive yourself to the hotel,or take a taxi. Follow all of the recommendations above about meeting someone for the first time. Provide your family or friends with necessary contact information.

Getting out of Trouble - If you start feeling unsure or uncomfortable about your date, politely extricate yourself from the situation. Excuse yourself and leave by the back door if necessary. Do not hesitate to ask for help from persons nearby, call your family, friends or the police if you feel the situation warrants. Trust your judgement and don’t be afraid of potential embarrassment. Better to be embarrassed than physically hurt.

If you follow all of the previous recommendations, you will feel safe and enjoy your online dating experience to the fullest! Be happy, find love!

Tips For Online Dating Photos

Would you buy a car, sight unseen? How about a diamond ring? I don’t know about you, but I want to see what I am buying.

Unbelievably, many people are dating online and not posting photos of themselves. What a waste of time. I just read a statistic that said 95% of people on dating sites only search for other members who have posted a picture of themselves.

What’s the point of spending money to join, spending time to write a profile, spending time answering a questionairre, only to eliminate yourself from 95% of those searching for you?

I wonder if people lack confidence in themselves or feel unattractive. Look, you are who you are. Period. Put your best out there and you will find somebody.

Many people that do upload photos are making mistakes. Here are common mistakes I’ve seen in photos. I’m sure you can add to this list.

1. Blurry.

2. Old picture.

3. Group shots.

4. Out of focus.

5. Kids in the shot.

6. People drinking or toasting.

7. Sexually suggestive photos.

8. People cut off.

9. Photos with a mysterious arm around the subject (but they aren’t in view).

10. Too far away.

11. Way too close, like the camera is hitting them in the head.

12. Not smiling.

13. Washed out, so person looks white as a ghost.

14. Photos that include guys (if you are female) or vice versa.

15. Photos showing a “bad attitude.”

16. The ‘deer in the headlights’ photo.

17. Wearing unattractive or non-flattering clothing.

18. Ultra formal pictures.

OK, I could go on, but you get the point.

Wait, bad haircuts. Couldn’t resist throwing in one more for you.

Now, here are some tips for great photos.

First, get your picture done by a professional. This is your life and love life we are talking about. Take it seriously and do it right.

Second, smile. Simple. You look better and will attract more people to you.

Third, use a current photo, or nothing more than one year old. Can’t tell you how often I was expecting a date for coffee and they were ten years older in real life than their picture showed.

Fourth, post multiple photos if the site allows. One shot is good, two shots better, three shots great.

Fifth, no group photos. Look, if I’m browsing, I’m not looking to date you and your friends or family (that’s a different issue). I’m just looking at you.

Sixth, make yourself look like a fun, inviting person. I can’t say what to do here specifically, but I know it when I see it. People are browsing, and probably browsing fast. Your picture registers in their brain for a split second. It must register a message that says something like: “wait…slow down…this person looks interesting.” If your picture doesn’t communicate that, you are done for.

So, avoid the mistakes and follow the tips. Easy as “1-2-3 cheese.” (Boy, that was totally cheesy, but I couldn’t resist).

To Your Dating Success,

Pregnancy Dating: Making Sense of the Medical Terminology

Despite all the breakthroughs of science and modern medicine the ability to pinpoint the beginning and end of a pregnancy is still not well understood. Most people, for example, are shocked to find out that a human pregnancy is not actually 40 weeks in duration. Here are some common terms and abbreviations that you may run into during pregnancy along with their definitions.

Gestation: From Latin, this refers to the period of development in the uterus from conception until birth.

Gestational Age (GA): The duration of pregnancy starting from the first day of the last menstrual period (LMP). GA pregnancy dating is based on the assumption that the average pregnancy is 40 weeks from the first day of the last menstrual period. GA pregnancy dating is widely used, but is frequently inaccurate for the simple reason that a woman is not pregnant on the LMP. Fetal age pregnancy dating is much more accurate.

Fetal Age (FA): The fetal age is the duration of a pregnancy starting from the time of conception. It is much more accurate to calculate the date of delivery if the estimated time of conception (ETC) is known. FA pregnancy dating assumes that a pregnancy will be approximately 38 weeks from the time of conception, until the time of birth.

Last Menstrual Period (LMP): The first day of the last menstrual period.

Estimated Time of Conception (ETC): The date by which conception is thought to have occurred.

Estimated Time of Arrival (ETA): The date on which it is expected that the baby is due to be born. The term ETA is actually identical to the “estimated date of confinement” (below), but is typically used when pregnancy dating proceeds from a fairly well known estimation of the time of conception (ETC).

Formula: ETA = ETC – 7 days + 9 months

Estimated Date of Confinement (EDC): The EDC is the date on which it is expected that the baby is due to be born. The term EDC is actually identical to the “estimated time of conception” (ETC). The EDC is the most common term used to indicate the “due date” for a pregnancy. It is typically used when the date of the last menstrual period (LMP) is known, but the estimated time of conception (ETC) is not known.

Formula: EDC = LMP + 7 days + 9 months (Naegele’s Rule)

Hopefully, this short article has clarified the correct use of terminology related to pregnancy dating. Unfortunately, our understanding of the the events of the menstrual cycle and pregnancy will probably continue to be influenced by some very unscientific thinking. Addressing the mythology of the 28 day menstrual cycle and the 40 week pregnancy, Dr. Bruno Walter, back in 1977 most excellently noted that:

“From archaic experience, women know that their ‘monthlies’ recur in approximately four-weekly intervals. Philosophers and physician, however, translated ‘four-weeks’ into 28 days. By this legitimate trick, woman’s reproductive physiology got assorted with the cabala of numbers, 4 times 7 for the menstrual cycle and 10 times 28 for the duration of the pregnancy. To the physician, the 28-day menstrual cycle, as well as the 280 days’ duration of pregnancy became the static, orthodox diagnostic criteria of woman’s health and physical normalcy. For the philosopher, the 28 days was the bridge to the mythology of the moon. The comparison of the observed occurrence of high tides and the resolution of woman’s plethora in menstruation with the phases of the moon, produced the first rational theory of the mystic process of periodic vaginal bleeding in women” (Walter, 1977, p. 1).

…and so it has been ever since.

9 Stupid Mistakes to Avoid While Dating Online - For Guys

Internet online dating takes patience and practice. Just because you are seated at your own computer doesn’t mean that people will come to chat with you for no reason. Even in this medium of Internet dating, you must take the initiative and actively seek to contact those you like.

But even if you contact some people or they contact you, there are some incredibly stupid things guys are doing on Internet dating and singles sites ad than complain that all women are ignoring them.

Women are searching men which know to make them feel good and have great time with. They are looking for someone intelligent, someone who listens, a man with a good sense of humor, a well-rounded person with a positive attitude.

If you want to get some responses and even get to know closely women by online dating you have to stop doing the mistakes that are chasing all the women away. So:

1. Women browse profiles to find their match just like you do. Post a good recent picture of yourself, a nice picture that shows your sense of humor or style. Do not send women pictures of your “privates”. They will ask if they want to see that.

2. Make sure your profile contains proper spelling and grammar. Women like an intelligent person. Do not ruin your chances with simple mistakes in your profile. Take some time to get it right guys and you will get a response.

3. Women usually like men with some class, so don’t choose a nickname that has a sexual innuendo (unless you are on an adult dating site). You don’t want to give the impression that you’re just searching for a one night stand.

4. Don’t use negative words in your profile. Women are much more likely to be attracted to a positive person.

5. Send individual emails and put some thought into contacting women on these dating sites. Women get 100 emails a day from all sorts of guys. If you copy and paste 10 exactly same emails and send them off you just go over-looked.

6. Show women that you are a caring person. Get to know the woman. Ask questions to learn about whom she is, what she does, etc. Don’t talk only about yourself.

7. Do not pretend that you are willing to fly half way round the world to meet someone you have been chatting to when using online dating sites if you are not really serious. It’s not fair on anyone including you. It’s easy to get carried away with a lovely person seven thousand miles away, but are you really going to get out of that chair and go and meet them? If you are, you have our utmost support and respect. If you are really only looking for someone in your state or close to home then stick with that and make it clear.

8. If you are married don’t lie, tell from the very beginning. Women can feel this and it gets you nowhere. If you are sincere maybe you find someone who is willing to spend some good time with you.

9. If a woman tells you that she is not interested in you do not keep sending her messages. You are losing your time and she can complain that you are harassing her. Be patient, it takes time to find someone special when using online dating sites and dating services, like anywhere else for that matter.

Online Adult dating web site help your Dating?

Online adult dating sites are quickly becoming a large meeting spot for couples and singles from all over the globe and from all walks of life. Due to fast paced society coupled with growing number of Internet users, online adult dating offers an inexpensive logical and convenient way for people desiring to interact, chat or meet.
Growing numbers of adult sites are confusing online adult friend finders. One should search an adult site according to his or her personality, his category and what kind of personal that person would like to meet. Adult dating sites provides you unlimited match making scenarios for friendship, love, dating, romance and soul mates.
Basically all group and category of people browse adult dating sites but single people are the group that use online dating services the most. For some people it’s a little tough reaching out to other people physically; online dating services offer them favorable chance to meet right person just with the help of online correspondence. Being a regular adult dating site surfer, I know one of them which I can recommend you i.e. http://www.adultxdating.com.au
One of the most crucial phases of adult dating is profile creating and how to arrange date with your friend. Before submitting your profile you should take simple precautions.
1. First safety measure you should take while creating online dating profile is do not mention your real name, street, address and cell number in your profile for everyone to see. First few weeks you should chat with your alias. First of all try to know a little about other person, only then reveal yourself. Disclose your true identity, once you feel you know someone pretty enough.
2. Except your personal information you can mention each and everything what you want to open for other viewers such as your category, weight, body type, height, likes, dislikes, an introduction about you and what kind of person you want to search as your adult friend. For first week, avoid submitting your snap.
3. Once you have arranged a date with an online friend, always try to avoid coming over to your home on the first date itself.
4. If you want to go for outing, don’t go alone. Pick one of your friends and have double date.
5. Arrange your first online date at any public place like restaurant, café, park etc. So that if something goes wrong you can call people for help. Don’t use their vehicle, drive your own vehicle or call someone to take you there.
6. Truly speaking first date is not a time to enjoy. It is the time to know each other. Thus, try not to drink alcohol on first date.
7. Before leaving for date, tell your friends where you are going. So that in any unfortunate circumstances they can call you.
I am sure that with these suggestions and online adult dating tips, you can make your dating successful.

Online Dating A Billion Dollar Global Industry In Decline?

It’s been estimated that the online dating industry revenue has declined as much as 20% - 30% over the last 12 months. Customer acquisition costs have gone up and revenue has gone down  Where are the people going and are we seeing the end of the subscription based dating service? This revenue slide in the online dating  industry can be attributed to several easily identifiable factors. Quality and user experience is first and foremost for any dating site, the issue that sites face is getting a balance of members and a ratio of men to women on mainstream and adult dating sites that will in turn deliver value to paying members. Keeping this balance in check can be a challenge for any dating site to make money online you don’t need many female members in your database but to deliver a good user experience you do. Men far out number women on most dating sites and for the first time paying member this all looks fine but if they don’t get any satisfaction on the first upgrade they may not renew a second time. If a user has a bad experience on a dating site and feels they have lost money chances are they will not recommend the service to their friends. Reputable dating sites will monitor their database carefully and often have some type of profile verification system in place to help ensure a quality experience. Often members uploading information about themselves are at best very bad when it comes to marketing themselves online, this can also lead to less then satisfactory results. Industry fragmentation - The mainstream players are established and the online dating  industry is heavily saturated, the industry is now fragmenting into niche markets with  free dating and social networking  sites where people can interact and make contact without getting out their credit card. The free business model has clear revenue  alternatives to subscription based to an advertising based revenue model such as PPC that does not burden the users with ongoing charges and can often help the “viral effect” of the site. Paid sites can expect to loose about 30% of their base on a monthly basis depending on their market sector. With a free social networking site members can enter and exit at will without charge and recruit friends without the stigma of being on a dedicated “dating site” Users can maintain a membership over a much longer time frame even if they are in a relationship. Speed dating  has also become very popular and gives users another hands on alternative to subscription based dating sites.  Paid dating services won’t vanish overnight but the big free community based sites are on the rise.

Anyone faced with the challenge of starting a new paid dating site under current market conditions will need to understand considerable investment would be required in order to gain market share, viral marketing will be difficult due to the industry saturation factor unless there is something very unique about the site or application. The large established market leaders have money to burn and established affiliate networks in place that deliver low cost customer acquisition, add this to reoccurring revenue and new comers to the paid dating industry are facing an uphill battle as the industry competes more aggressively for customers. Small companies with minimal staff and overheads have proven they can compete for traffic in the big league and offer the users exactly what they want without charging, these companies can provide a free fully featured service and make a very generous income  at the same time. The advertising based business model has little downside and a big future.

Dating - What most men do wrong online - time after time

Answer - just about everything. I will expand on this. Just because it’s an online dating world does not mean you have to throw every ounce of class out the window. WE see guys get it all wrong every day. Acting like idiots in chat rooms, bad taste photos in their ads. Bad descriptions in their ads. Contacting members when they don’t fit the profile requirements. The list goes on - the fact is guys will not get the best results unless they learn how to play the online game. This means using some basic skills most of should know from functioning in society on a daily basis. When you meat a girl in the street you don’t walk up and drop your pants, show her your privates and give her your number. Women like to see faces, nice body shots, maybe Mr privates can be included but that should be in a private gallery or exchanged by email on request. Guys need to play the game a little even online. Make contact, be polite, respond to what the women are looking for in their profiles. Women get hit by so many replies to their ads that they are only going to respond to the ones that stand out and address their needs. Online dating is an easy skill - you want results improve your skills. Just like the off line dating scene some men are much better at it than others. This is not to say you can’t learn the art form! Common or uncommon sense is one of the big things, you can learn it or fake it.

Respect for the opposite sex is paramount here, do to others as you would have them do to you. Girls are going to behave differently depending on what they are expecting so you have to take a good close look at the information they post in their profile and adjust your approach. If a girl says she wants a one night stand or a three some then you can be a bit more risqué with your initial approach. If there is an indication that your prospect wants a relationship then you would be advised to start slowly or consider what your after and not start at all. In effect women post profiles online and wait for the emails to come flooding in - that’s how it goes. Guys don’t get contacted at any where near the same rate so they need to consider that when they respond to an ad they like that they are one of many and are entering a very competitive situation. Many online advances will go straight into the trash can. Get involved, contact some women and see how you go - online dating is a great way to make contact with compatible partners. Try some variation in your approach and stick to what works for you. Thousands of people are meeting every day online using chat rooms, webcam chat and email. Do’s - Use your manners - Ask intelligent questions - Look at and respond to members profiles - Respond to ads where you meet the profile requirements - Give a little information about yourself and what your looking for - Use a good picture or series of pictures - Get a professional photo taken - Be patient - be genuine Don’t - Be rude - be short - use graphic sex shots - don’t rush - Don’t respond to ads outside of their asking requirements - Don’t act like a sex starved idiot (even if you are) Don’t lie about your age or anything else!

How To Write Headlines that Get Your Dating Profile Noticed.

In order for you to get other online daters to stop and read your profile you need to create an attention grabbing opening line, often referred to as a tagline or headline.

Do not underestimate the importance of having a headline. Besides your photo, it is one of the main factors in determining whether another dater will give your profile a second look.

Studies show that if online daters don’t find anything to attract their attention in around 10 seconds or less, they move on to something else.

You probably do the same, we all do. Just think about this for a minute: When you read the newspaper or magazine, what draws your attention to a particular article or feature? Yes it’s the headline. Its the headline that causes you to either keep reading or move on to another story or article.

Now you may not be consciously aware of this, but your mind filters out information that’s not relevant to you, and at the same time you are drawn into information that is relevant and appealing. You are actually drawn in or away by the headline.

Which means your headline has just one job: To stop your reader in their tracks, and force them to read the second sentence of your ad.

There are two ways to apply this simple principle to your profile headline:

1. Using Self Interest Headlines - This type of Headline focuses on benefits that will interest the reader. It telegraphs the benefits that they will receive if they stick around. It is also very effective.

Online daters tend to scan through profile headlines and are only drawn to the ones that offer them a benefit of some sort. Understand that one of the things going through the readers mind is: “what in it for me?” If you can answer that question for them in your headline you will have grabbed their interest. So offer benefits, appeal to your readers desires and emotions and offer to fulfill their needs in your headline.

By doing this you will be able to bypass their mental filtering systems and get their full attention!

2. Using Curiosity Headlines – This type of headline arouses the readers’ curiosity so they are compelled to read further. Asking intriguing questions is a great way for you to achieve this and draw them in. Curiosity is one of the strongest emotive incentives. You should use it, and use it wisely.

When you arouse your readers curiosity, they will be compelled to read further into your profile. If you write with passion and emotion your readers will feel it to. Try to create the exact energy of what you want.

A great headline is not always about you. Remember this; your readers won’t really give a damn about exactly what you are looking for or how tall or blonde you are unless it gratifies them to do so. You want to give them instant gratification. Give it to them with your headline.

A powerful headline takes advantage of your readers curiosity. Appeal to their emotions and watch your responses grow.

Here are a few guidelines on what to avoid.

1. Avoid anything with sexual connotations or innuendos like “sex goddess” or ” great in bed”

2. Avoid obvious statements like “looking for true love” or “looking for soul-mate”

3. Avoid anything un-imaginative like “hi, I’m Gemma” or “hello, my name is Wayne”

4. Avoid pleading headlines like “please read my profile” or “please don’t ignore me”

5. Avoid anything negative like “losers don’t apply” or “no liars please”

When you take the above guidelines into consideration you will greatly increase the chances of your profile actually getting read!

An Introduction To Free Dating Services

It is difficult to classify a genre like social networking. Although, apparently, all dating sites are about social networking at some level, some sites (e.g., MySpace.com) allow users to interact with friends, and provide access to music and games. This enables users to chat with their friends, besides finding compatible mates. Also, social networking sites, by and large, do not charge anything. According to research analysts, this is sure to give traditional online dating sites a run for their money. Free online dating services help people meet their dream mate through the use of the Internet. “SocialGrid” (a decentralized social networking community that uses Internet search engines like Google and Yahoo) and “SearchYourLove” (offers internal messaging service) are two popular free online dating service providers.

By becoming a member of one of these sites, it is possible to extend the user’s social network by searching the Net for people with similar interests, goals, desirable traits, and characteristics. The service providers let their members do this for free. The catch, however, is that most services will be free until they reach a certain size; after that they start charging for their services. Once they start charging, the membership growth slows down, and thereafter these services have to advertise to acquire new members in order to survive. The longer a company can hold out without charging membership fees, the larger its membership base will be, which in turn results in an increase in the number of quality matches.

Free dating sites usually mean “free to join” or “free to register.” However, the user is charged for services such as contacting a member, using a detailed search, or searching outside the social network. A dating service that is just launched may offer everything for free until it reaches a few thousand or million members; that is when it starts charging. However, there are some online dating service sites also that remain free always. With such sites, the users can join for free, contact a member for free, use detailed searches for free, and search the entire membership base for free. Some sites also publish materials containing web dating, relationship and flirting tips, and advice on how to behave in different situations.

Couples Dating and Singles in Houston, Texas go for Online Dating Sites

You’ve probably heard the adage “familiarity breeds contempt” several times already but are you aware that it is also applicable for dating? If you live in a relatively small neighborhood, you tend to be sick and tired of seeing the same people day after day. It is no surprise that couples dating and singles in Houston, Texas are trying out their luck in online social networking sites. In fact, when you browse one of these sites, there’s a big possibility you’re going to come across hot and attractive women and men from all corners of the world. Couples dating and singles in Houston, Texas are fun-loving individuals who are out to meet exciting people in virtual dating sites.

If you’re after befriending a cool chick from Houston, you can log on to AmericanSingles.com, which boasts of being “the best Houston dating site on the net.” Since it’s free, one doesn’t have to worry about shelling out bucks for membership or registration fees. On the other hand, Singles On The Go website has a portion specially dedicated to couples dating and singles in Houston, Texas. What is so interesting about this particular dating site is that they offer all sorts or speed dating and networking events. With Houston Hurry Date, for example, an equal number of single guys and gals attend a party or event held in Houston. The deal? Each one should be able to hold a three-minute conversation with every member of the opposite sex. If you believe 8 is a lucky number for romance, you can try Houston eight-minute dating. The more adventurous singles can opt for Houston Lock and Key parties wherein singles have the chance to meet their perfect match in a more fun and surprise-filled way. Meanwhile, gay and bisexual singles who are based in Houston can browse Request A Date website for potential friends and romantic partners.

Couples dating and singles in Houston, Texas have a lot of options when it comes to online social networking sites. They can choose among various kinds of speed dating and the like, depending on their preferences. Gone are the days when women and men can only meet friends and dates through going out in bars, restaurants, or other hot spots. Although there are still couples dating and singles in Houston, Texas who personally dig meeting new people through traditional means, many are lured to join in dating sites and online social networking sites.

Dating Tips for Men: Grooming Tips

You’ve donned the latest fashion accessory. You have reservations for the best table at her favorite restaurant. And you know the doorman at the hottest nightclub in town. What more could impress your date? Well, consider your appearance? Does it stand alone without all of the extra bells and whistles you have to impress the ladies? Would she want to be seen with you? Do not underestimate the power of a polished, well-groomed look. It can take much further with the ladies than you think. And some of the best dating tips are all about good grooming.

A Professional Appearance

Never underestimate the influence of a professional appearance. It has a far greater impact on human relations than you might expect. This is because it operates at a subliminal level. Without realizing it, we generally gravitate towards people who are well dressed and who have a clean, neat, polished appearance. We listen more attentively when they speak, unconsciously believing that what they have to say is somehow more interesting or more relevant. We take them more seriously. We give them our attention, and we want to be noticed by them too. And on dates, presenting yourself in a clean, neat, polished package can only enhance physical attractiveness. So how do you go about creating that professional appearance? It’s really not that difficult. Take a look at these tips.

Simple Tips To Improve Your Appearance

· Take a good long look in the mirror before leaving your house next time you are heading out to meet your date. Make sure your hair is combed, your breath is fresh, and your shirt is properly tucked into your pants. · Smell good. Not necessarily perfumed, but just fresh and clean. · Shaving can wreck havoc on your skin, especially if it is sensitive. Don’t be squeamish about applying a moisturizer afterwards (Dad FULLER Ultimate Skin Balm). · If you sport a beard or a moustache, keep it shaped and trimmed. · People notice hands, so keep your nails trimmed and clean (FULLER Hand and Nail Brush). · Bring breath strips with you to pop into your mouth after dinner. They are more discreet than chewing gum or candy. · And don’t forget about your clothes! Remove that spaghetti sauce drip from your shirt immediately with the portable stain remover (FULLER Super Spot Remover) you remembered to take with you before you left your house. · Keep a lint brush (FULLER Reversible Lint Brush) handy too, to remove any visible lint, hair, dust, and even dandruff from your clothes.

Simple grooming practices like these are essential for making the best impression you can on your date. And they are relatively easy to incorporate into your pre-date routine. You can be sure they will be noticed, appreciated, and may even lead to more dates in the future. In fact, good grooming should be a part of your daily routine regardless of whether you have a date or not. After all, you never know who you might meet at the bus stop or at the supermarket.

My Dating Tour Experience

I’m writing to speak about my recent Russian dating tour experience. I’ve just returned from Odessa, Ukraine after a 10-stay. It was hardly a holiday, but I can’t say it was work either. I was there to possibly meet my future wife.

I’m a 36 year-old American from Boston and I’ve never been married. I came close a few times, but in the end I backed-out. I finished law school nearly 10-years ago and I’ve built myself a successful career. I also work hard to keep myself fit and looking the best I can.

Here’s the point, being an attractive and successful lawyer, living in Boston, it wasn’t hard to find a date. In fact, I’ve built myself the unfortunate reputation of being a “playboy”. At first, I didn’t mind the label and even enjoyed it, but now it haunts me. I often hear women tell me that her girlfriend’s girlfriend told them I was a “playboy”. Ouch, especially when I really liked the girl!

In short, this reputation has made my search for a serious relationship or even marriage very difficult. The nice women, just don’t want to take the chance with someone known as a playboy. However, I also have to comment that finding a “nice” women isn’t so easy these days. I’m not shying away from my well earned reputation, but finding an attractive woman, who is also looking for a serious relationship, can be difficult. Especially if you’re looking to meet someone in their 20’s (which is what I’m interested in). Most of the attractive 20-somethings I meet are all about, party, party …

After a lot of complaining, a friend finally recommended I try a “Russian Bride” site. I thought it was a crazy idea and something definitely not for me. Come on, online dating is for losers, not playboys! After a few more bad dates, I was finally persuaded to try and I joined a site. At first, it seemed a little surrealistic, there were just too many young and beautiful women looking for serious relationships and marriage. To be honest, I thought the women there couldn’t be real.

However, after a week or so I started to seriously correspond with several women. I could sense that it was real. Plus, the dating site I joined made a big difference. The dating site I chose, AnastasiaWeb.com, quickly and honestly addressed all of my questions. This gave me even more confidence that everything was legitimate. In short, within a few weeks I was actively corresponding with nearly 10 women, who I really liked. After about a month, I had narrowed it down to two women. I was able to use my dating site’s phone service to speak with them, but I knew I had to meet them in person to understand if this was a real beginning or not (just like dating anyone else). The main problem was that they were thousands of miles away on the other side of the planet!

I had never been outside of the States except for a few trips to Mexico and Canada. So, I was a bit nervous. My site offered a “dating tour” service that wasn’t too expensive and all-inclusive (meaning it included the airfare, transport, hotel and breakfasts). That definitely made the travel part much easier. The other benefit to the tour was that it included three organized social events, where my dating site invited more than 200-300 women from their site. There were only about 25 guys there (I’m now good friends with several of the guys from the tour), so it was a great ratio! I thought I would be overwhelmed, but it wasn’t so bad. The women came to the social gradually over a five-six hour period. The tour company had interpreters on-hand, so communication wasn’t a problem .In fact; it was a lot of fun, much like my speed dating experiences in Boston. I met several beautiful women there; including the women I had been communicating with via the site. Please believe me when I say the women in Odessa are incredibly gorgeous! It’s really true and of course, this created a small problem. Now I had other women I was interested in and I was again feeling like the “playboy”. I knew I needed to be careful, although it was really tempting!

Young Love?

Dating, romance and courtship are traditionally considered the preserve of the young, but with growing numbers of ’silver surfers’ (senior citizens using the Internet), it is becoming obvious that one doesn’t have to be a spring chicken to appreciate the joys of spring!

Here in the western world we are obsessed with youth. Our media is saturated with images of the young, beautiful and happy selling us products on the back of the promise that we will become like them if we should only buy this face cream or that car or this insurance policy. The fantastic and circular equation this fallacy is based on seems to be that youth=beauty=success=desirability=love=happiness=youth etc. One only has to look at our icons of romance to see the indelible link between youth and romance. In fact, two of our most famous romantic icons, Juliet and Pocahontas (as lauded by Peggy Lee in the classic love song ‘Fever’) were so young at the time of embarking on their turbulent romances that they would not, today, be considered of legal age. In amongst all this, ne could easily be left with the impression that beyond the age of thirty, all hope for romance is lost.

Happily this is not so! Our senior citizens are getting involved in the dating game in their droves. Actually in all probability they have been doing it for years but the older generation, certainly in Britain, are renowned for their discretion almost to the point of coyness. Luckily for social analysts and writers like myself, a convergence of recent phenomena makes it possible to now gain a much fuller impression of just what our seniors are getting up to!

Recent years have seen an explosion in the number of ’silver surfers’, that is to say people of retirement age or above who are web literate to a greater or lesser extent and are making regular use of the Internet. The same period has seen a rapid growth in the online dating industry. The result of these two phenomena is that we can see quite plainly, looking at the figures, that it’s definitely not just the young folks who are looking for love online. A recent study carried out by my company revealed over 14,000 active dating site users over the age of 65 compared to an average age group membership of just over 25,000. With numbers like this it’s understandable that seniors are regarded as an important demographic by us in the online dating industry and hardly surprising that classes in Internet dating are springing up at places like the Pleasant Hill Senior Centre in Contra Costa, California.

With a population that is increasingly ageing as the baby boom generation reach their 60s and take a greater knowledge and awareness of current and developing technologies into their later years, it can only be expected that this phenomenon will increase. And so it should be! Why should the spring chickens get a monopoly on the joys of spring?

Online Dating: To Your Success, Safely

Many parts of our lives have changed due to technology, and dating is one of the most notable changes. Many thousands of people have turned to online dating to find true love, and it’s not difficult to see why. The online dating scene can be convenient, low pressure and most of all fun! With your computer and a dating website to guide you, you can find great success in the world of online relationships.

Although looking for love online may appear to be simple, don’t be fooled. It isn’t always easy to find what you’re looking for on the internet. If you are wondering how this difficult-sounding process can be made easier and produce a better outcome, there are some ways to improve your online dating experiences.

First, you need to remember to be yourself. If you are looking for someone to be genuine with you, you need to be genuine as well. Remember this when writing an online profile. It would also be a good idea to set up profiles on several dating sites. It will help you to find and connect with more people, allowing you to have a better chance at success in love. These sites are designed to help you find the right person for you, allowing you to search for other singles and match them with you according to similarities and other criteria. This is the best, easiest, and most effective way to find romance on the internet.

There are also some things to think about when writing a profile. First, it is helpful to post a picture of yourself. No matter what you look like, potential dates will want to see you when looking over your profile. When you are writing the actual profile, remember that it is the way that people will first be getting to know you. Make sure you create an interesting and honest description of yourself. You should include things such as an introduction, your hobbies and interests, your values and morals, and other items you feel are important. Try to avoid writing with a negative attitude towards yourself. Be positive and, above all else, confident.

If you have decided you want something of a more personal relationship with someone you’ve met and they give you a contact number - try ringing it. If you can never get hold of them be very wary, even if they give you a seemingly reasonable excuse. If you have to page or text them so that they ring you back this is a real warning sign when considering your online dating safety. Presumably they have something to hide.

If you seem to be the only half of the relationship that is making the effort to progress your relationship to the next step, you should step back and take a good look at exactly what they are saying.

Asking for financial help or other kinds of help should be a sure fire online dating safety warning sign no matter how polite, sweet and charming they are. An online relationship has in no way progressed to the level where they should be asking you for money.

While it’s true that you should take before you give out your personal details once you decide that’s the level you want to move to, it should be a two-sided thing. If the person you are talking to is entirely unwilling to give out personal details and you’re sure that you’ve had long enough to get to know each other then their lack of commitment in wanting to meet you might indicate a secret.

Is your emotional baggage preventing you from successful online dating?

You’re single yet again, a long relationship down the drain. Now you’re eager to get back into the dating game; you’re human, and, for this reason, you have a tendency to bring along your baggage into new relationships. Getting back into the dating world is an excellent time to analyze the baggage you’ve accumulated; emotional baggage is a correlation … to your history, what you’ve been through. Having a healthy soul and mind is a direct result of how you deal with your emotional baggage. Reflect on your past events and ponder your re-entrance into the dating scene; perhaps it was the end of a long, stale relationship or a divorce. To make a successful leap into your new life, you must be willing to deal with and to unpack your “baggage”. The key is acceptance; whatever pain you may be feeling, remember this: it will pass. When starting a new conversation with a prospective match, they may ask you about your past and why you decided to get back into the dating game. Try to maintain a simple and “to the point” reply; don’t dwell on your history. Instead, give just enough information and move on. Remember that the more you stay on the topic of your painful past, the more the bad feelings resurface, causing grief and sadness. Your emotional wounds may still be tender and need time to heal. The trick is to get yourself into certain a frame of mind so that you accept your issues and places you into a balanced state of well-being and tranquility. Seek out the support of your family and friends; they can do wonders for you spiritually and emotionally. It’s not a good idea to introvert your negative feelings deep down inside. Let them out. Sometimes the only way to move out of the past to confront them head on, analyzing them, exploring them, letting go of them. Prospective matches don’t want to hear about how bad your last relationship was. A retelling of your past relationship only says something about your current state of mind: you are not over your past, you are still hurt, and that you are not emotionally available for a new relationship. Drop your negative past like a bag of bricks; take a load off of your spirit by moving forward to a brighter, happier future. When engaged in a conversation with someone, tell them a little about yourself. Good topics of discussion are hobbies, passions, goals, your job, and anything positive you might want to expose. Don’t let any negativity cloud your chances of finding happiness again. Unload your emotional baggage and live life! You no longer have a need to lug it around anymore; you’ll feel better once you realize this. The past is just what it is: the past. It’s a learning experience from which you gained a mountain of knowledge. In time, all wounds heal, and you’ll find happiness again.

The Pros and Cons of Internet Dating

I asked my lovely wife recently what she thought about internet dating as an alternative to meeting someone at in the workplace, church or other more traditional settings. She only wrinkled the pretty forehead of hers as if I had said a bad word. Strangely, she asked me if I had ever considered it. I said I might if I was not ALREADY HAPPILY married. Am no dummy. I later found out that Internet Dating, in her opinion, is for those who are very desperate or very insecure. I don’t necessarily agree.

I think its undeniable that Internet Dating nowadays has become more socially acceptable than it was just a few years ago. It has completely changed the dating world with which we baby boomers are more familiar. There is no question that it has absolutely revolutionized the dating scene all over the world. Serious adults who are genuinely interested in meeting people in order to pursue serious, healthy relationships and who are exhausted with traditional approaches find it a much, much better alternative.

But how did we meet the opposite sex before the internet became so powerful and popular? Well, the predecessor to internet dating was the posting of personal ads in your local newspaper. Not the papers that appeared so sleazy that you dare not get caught reading them publicly, but in the same newsprint you would utilize if you wanted to rent gardening equipment or find out where the nearest garage sale was being held. Even so, there was a huge stigma attached to the practice.

Let’s face it, many people make false assumptions that anyone who utilizes the internet as a method of finding a lover are either one of the following:) too U-G-L-Y, b) too desperate, or c) too psycho, or d) an axe murderer.

The passage of time and advances in technology has produced thousands of online dating sites. Internet dating still wrinkles a few foreheads for us more traditional folks or those of us who found the love of our lives through more traditional means, but as my daughter would say, “don’t hate, just celebrate those who are confident enough to try internet dating.”

There are several obvious benefits to internet dating. Here are a few:

1) Safety – No one has to know who you are until you are ready for them to know. You are generally in complete control of the process.

2) Security – If you end up talking with someone online who you believe should be seeing a psychiatrist as opposed to a psychologist, so they can get drugs with their treatment, and then it is fairly easy to drop him or her. If they persist, it is easy enough to red flag them to the sites’ webmaster, and they will be history! If you have been proceeding with caution, they will not be able to harass you further and you will be safe.

3) Here is one of the most important benefits, it’s FREE! - Internet dating sites allow you to sign up and log on, generally without having to commit to a membership fee. You can have a conversation with someone without even having to buy him or her a cup of coffee or dinner. That’s what I’m talking bout!

Hall Of Fame – Vienna City Hall

The ambitious program of architectural improvements to Vienna introduced by Emperor Franz Joseph I, including the Ringstraße, the Rathauspark (City Hall Park), and the Opera. Friedrich von Schmidt, who had been one of the architects working on Cologne Cathedral, designed and built the Vienna City Hall between 1872 and 1883. It is the most significant secular building in the neo-Gothic style in the city.

As Vienna is Austria’s federal capital as well as a federal province in its own right, it is the seat of the mayor and governor of Vienna - two posts held by the same person. The Provincial Assembly is composed of 100 members and elected for a term of five years.

The huge chandelier in the historicist style is the most striking feature of the 14-metre-high Council Chamber where the members of the Assembly convene. It has a diameter of five meters and 213 lights. It was cast in one piece, weighs 3,200 kg and can be entered by maintenance personnel to change the lamps. The coffered ceiling of high-grade larch and spruce wood is decorated with 22-carat gold-leaf rosettes. Directly below the ceiling, a series of frescoes depicts events from the history of Austria and Vienna. The section situated on the right hand of the central visitors’ gallery shows scenes from the 13th to 16th centuries; one can see Duke Rudolf IV laying the foundation-stone for the southern spire of St. Stephen’s Cathedral and the institution of Vienna University, the world’s oldest university where students are taught in the German language.

The left-hand side takes one into the 17th to 19th centuries. Empress Maria Theresa is surrounded by famous exponents of the politics, arts and sciences of her era. Most of the pointed-arch windows with stained lead glazing facing the gallery were reconstructed after the Second World War on the basis of the original plans. The back wall of the central visitors’ gallery depicts the tasks of Vienna’s municipal administration in symbolic form.

Another attractive feature is the Senate Chamber which serves as the meeting-room of the City Senate. This is one of the most impressive rooms of the City Hall. A special sight is the beautiful majolica fireplace - a present by the Guild of Stove and Fireplace Makers dating from 1885 - on the wall facing the entrance to the hall. The walls are covered with green silk damask. The ceiling featuring inlay work and gilt elements is intricately and richly decorated.

The Arkadenhof is one of the biggest inner courtyards in Europe having a surface of 2,804 square meters, and can be compared to the courtyard of the Doge’s Palace in Venice. A choir-type oriel along its western wall is a reminder of the original project to build a chapel in the City Hall. Lined by five-meter-wide, pointed-arch arcades, the courtyard offers a fascinating setting for a wide variety of events. A folding roof designed by the architect Silja Tillner is a new addition to protect visitors against wind and rain. It also houses the Municipal and State Libraries and Archives which hold many key documents of Vienna’s history and a large collection of local memorabilia.

July 17, 2006

Russian Bride Agency Conspiracies

You read all over the internet involving NEGATIVE OPINIONS on how Russian Bride agencies run their business. It almost seems that everyday there is a new conspiracy developing over such-n-such agency and how they DO BUSINESS. That their agency is a scam, the Russian women are fake and the forever thundering echo of “I’ve paid nearly $200 and not one girl has ever written me back!” I’ve even heard men say that almost all of the Russian Bride sites have the same girls, that a truly great agency won’t share their girls, etc. But my friends, there are always TWO SIDES to every story, and perhaps after reading this article, you will think twice BEFORE blasting out your own conspiracy theory….

CONSIDER THIS:

There are many dating sites that contain the same profiles. When I was a member of Match.com so many years ago, I used to see the same girls all the time on other sites as well, such as matchmaker.com, udate and yahoo personals. We all joined multiple sites to spread ourselves out — to have more options. And during that time, I can say that I joined nearly every site imaginable. So would you agree that all of these sites are involved in some kind of conspiracy because they have the same profiles?

A man searching for a Russian bride joins 2-3 sites at once, writes to many ladies, gets his photo in the site catalogue that is presented to Russian women… so that’s 3 site catalogues he is now a member of. The ladies see his photo in 3 different catalogues and begin to wonder… is he involved in a conspiracy then too, simply because he has joined 2-3 different Russian Bride sites?

A man describes himself as being wealthy, good looking and successful… and he sends out 400 emails telling Russian women how he is a God in bed, how women love him and worship the ground he walks upon. How he loves to have cybersex and invites all Russian women to join him in on the fun… yet not one letter was returned. Is this a conspiracy?

BOTTOM LINE:

Business is business — always has been and always will be. Part of the success to any dating site is having a large database to attract new customers. Profiles hardly ever get removed — and while some do remove the old profiles, most do not. My profile is still on many of the other dating sites and I can’t get them to remove it because I forgot the email address I used to sign up with. This was 5 years ago too!

Russian girls are human too — and they spread themselves out too by joining many different marriage agencies. Many of the Russian bride sites use real marriage agencies located in Russia, and many of these agencies are NOT exclusive to just one bride site. They are all in business to make money, so you cannot blame them for spreading themselves out too. And after a while, these same Russian girls forget which marriage agencies they joined up with, lose contact or whatever, and their profiles stay forever in the database. It’s part of the dating business and will always be like that. Nobody’s fault really — but don’t blame a dating agency for not deleting a profile simply because a user has forgotten to contact them and tell them to remove it.

Agencies are not the bad guys nor the good guys. They are a business, plain and simple. They have a list of over 30,000 clients — so do you really expect them to call every single women and ask if their still single? Does match.com do that? For the record, does any dating site do that? Of course not and it’s ludicrous to think that they should.

And what about writing those letters and not getting any responses? Well, what about it?!! Write some more and keep on truckin’! Not everyone is going to think you’re as great as YOU seem to know that you are. That’s life… get used to disappointment. I sent out probably thousands of letters in my 4 years of online dating, and at best, I might have gotten maybe a 15% return rate. In my opinion, that is actually pretty good too. Online dating is not easier, so don’t be a fool and think it is. It only gives you more options to meeting more people — but along side of that also comes more rejections.

So the next time you hear a negative”Opinion” about how Russian dating agencies are handled, just remember one thing… they are in business to make money; and whether or not the practices of certain agencies might be argued as being ILLEGITIMATE, you always still have the choice of NOT JOINING. If you believe a certain agency carries a lousy reputation, then why bother joining it in the first place? Just move on and find another site to join that you feel more comfortable with. Good luck!

Dating Myths for Men

To a Man Who Wants To Attract More Women and Get More Dates — But Can’t
Get Started -

First - Learn the Truth About These Myths!

How Often Do You Find Yourself Saying: “I Wish I Knew How To attract the ladies and get more dates”?
If you’re like most of the guys I know, it’s often. More often than you want to admit.

We go out on “dates” with women, hoping that if we PROVE ourselves to them in some way, they’ll be interested in us and attracted to us. And time after time that just never happens. The date ends with a hug or a quick peck on the cheek, as she tells you, “I had a real nice time.”

If you’ve been put on the defense in this dance of romance, you can never really stop worrying, and your attitude will communicate things to a woman that will ultimately drive her away.

What I want to do is take a few minutes here and destroy some myths about women and men and get you started on the right path.

Let’s start right away with:

MYTH 1) Women want what they say they want.

It’s a shame we have to cover this one, but it bears repeating. All you have to do is see the apparent contradiction between what women SAY and what they DO and you’ll understand that they are not the same.

Women have an ideal picture of “romance” programmed into their heads as little girls, primarily from bad fairy tales they read. Then they moved up to the “bodice ripping” romance books. Yes, those cheezy ones you see on bookstore shelves.

Women (and men) don’t understand that they respond to definite behaviors much more than others, and they are behaviors that conform to simple rules. They’d be ashamed to admit them, but they are true.

And the good news for guys is that they can be learned. They’re part of you already; you just have to learn how to demonstrate them.

MYTH 2) Women are hard to understand.

This is a gross example of laziness . Women are extremely EASY to understand. The reason most guys say those cliche phrases like: “Women! Who can understand them.” Or other jokes to that effect is because men don’t think the way women do about certain things. They think emotionally, while you think LOGICALLY.

All it takes is for you to learn how to understand their way of thinking to understand them. You don’t have to BE a pet hamster to understand that he just loves chewing and running on that wheel in his cage. So you give him things to chew on, and give him a nice wheel.

Ba-da-bing. You just made Mr. Hamster happy.

But when it comes to women, guys want them to behave and think like GUYS. And when they discover that they don’t, they get all mad about it instead of learning how women actually think.

Ask yourself this: Are you mad at the weather when it rains? Or do you just figure out how an umbrella works so you can stay dry?

One you can control, the other you can’t.

One belief will leave you CONSTANTLY frustrated and angry. The other will put you back in control. Remember: It’s not what happens to you that’s important, it’s how you RESPOND to what happens to you.

MYTH 3) Right this minute you have all the skills you ever will with women. (Or, you can’t improve your skills beyond where you are right now.)

This one is the belief that follows right after the last myth. Men give up trying to figure out why a woman behaved a certain way, figuring that it’s easier to just run around saying, “Women! Who understands them?” Just like everybody else.

Who could blame us for feeling this way? Guys want a very UNcomplicated lifestyle. We don’t like hassles and drama. (Whereas women seem to feed off this energy.)

The truth is that your skill with women can ONLY increase from here, unless you’re in a rock band or you’re a gorgeous movie star where women are handed to you on a plate.

But make no mistakes - you don’t have to be a rock singer or a movie star to get women interested in you.

All it takes is getting the right information to put you on the right track.

MYTH 4) Women who are attractive are more important and their opinion means more than regular women.

Now, before you take that the wrong way, let me clarify. A guy will tend to treat a good-looking women as if she is a precious commodity, and that she is more valuable than himself.

We live in a society (and a world) that is completely hung up on appearances. We love beauty.

We actually WORSHIP it.

Look at the covers of magazines. Look at actors on television and in the movies. Look at our pop music stars. (Interesting that there are no ‘average’ looking people making good music, huh?) We pay billions and billions of dollars on our vanity. Hair
coloring, makeup, cosmetics, you-name-it.

There is a well-documented psychological fact that we tend to attribute more positive beliefs and attitudes to people who are attractive. We respect them more. We tend to believe that they are more talented and capable because of their appearance.

“Average” people don’t get the same kind of favorable treatment. As we all know, you can’t judge a book by its cover.

Remember that hot women are no different than any other woman, other than the fact that she lucked out in the genetic lottery.

She’s probably been spoiled and unchallenged her whole life because of her looks, which actually makes her EASIER to get than most other women.

MYTH 5) You need to convince, beg, or trick women into getting them to sleep with you.

Oh, dear. This one is where so many good guys go wrong.

Women want to do the nasty just as much as guys do. In fact, they get even more pleasure than we do, so they enjoy it more. The only difference is that women have better control over their desire than guys do. This stems from a time when women had to be VERY careful who she mated with, because she had to be sure she knew he was worth gambling her children’s future - and her own - with. If he couldn’t provide for her, she’d be in an incredibly difficult position.

Probably even fatal.

So she had to choose well. She learned how to read a guy’s status and standing by his actions. (Never his words. Anyone can SAY anything.)

The good news to this evolutionary programming is that it’s not hard to understand, and it’s easy to see through the Matrix and understand how to make it work FOR you. All you have to do is bring out certain behaviors you’ve been hiding for so long.

MYTH 6) You have to be rich, famous, a jerk, or good looking to attract hot women - OR - You can’t be a nice guy and get women.

NOT!

Women aren’t actually attracted to jerks because of their abusive behavior. Or to famous people because of their fame. Or rich guys because of their wealth.

They’re attracted to the potential feelings that these guys can give them.

Jerks give her a CHALLENGE.

Fame is attractive because of the POWER.

Wealth is attractive because of the SECURITY, COMFORT, and POWER.

And all of them are really just indicators about the guy that wields them.

It’s easy to assume because a guy is wealthy, he can keep her in a way that she would find comfortable.

It’s easy to assume that because a guy has fame, he also has the wealth. And he wouldn’t be famous unless a large number of people MADE him popular, right? This is called “social proof,” which I cover in my e-books and audio.

Again, the good news is that these are external indicators that you can simulate with your own behavior.

You don’t have to be rich or famous - or a jerk - to get the women you want.

MYTH 7) Women are better than men.

This one is a lot like #4. A lot of guys run around with the idea that what the media tells you about men is true.

- That we’re dogs
- That we’re only out for s*e -x
- That we’re the rapists, pedophiles, and violent offenders
- That we start all the wars
- That we are just a bunch of grunting animals who only love football and porn
- That we’re just plain BAD.

Watch any of today’s movies or television shows and they portray men as buffoons that can only understand “Three Stooges” episodes, or lounge around on our front lawns in wife-beater t-shirts on “Cops.”

Women have more than their fair share of problems and issues, and if you’ve dated a woman for longer than a few weeks or months, you know I’m telling the truth here. Don’t get me wrong; they’re the most wonderful and complicated creatures, but they’re not BETTER than men.

They’re just women. And they can be understood.

MYTH 8) The more you tell her about you or about how you feel about her, the better your chances to impress her and make her want you.

This one is COMPLETELY the opposite. The more you tell her, the LESS she will feel for you. Especially if it’s about YOUR feelings.

A lot of guys think that if they just tell her how HE feels, she’ll suddenly discover the love within her for him.

Again, another Hollywood lie that is perpetuated because guys don’t take the time to really sit down and think this through.

What is the most important thing to a woman?

HOW SHE FEELS.

If you can make her FEEL the right mixture of curiosity, excitement, and hope, you can get her interested in you.

I’ll show you how to do that.

MYTH 9) Guys must “ask women out” on dates because it’s what women want.

The single most routine and ordinary (BORING) thing to do is ask a woman out.

You have to have more imagination than this. This is the oldest routine, and all women know how it works. By asking a woman out, you force her to think of you in romantic terms.

It’s like you just asked her:

“Do you like me romantically, or don’t you? Or would you just like a free meal and drinks, on me?”

Golly. What a choice, studpuppet.

You should never invest money in a woman that isn’t ALREADY interested in you.

That’s like giving money to an investment that you know NOTHING about. You just saw the advertising pamphlet and it looked really good, so you bought into it.

I’ve got a bunch of ways for you to find out if she is really into you or not.

MYTH 10) Since I’m a “nice guy,” I should be what women want, and therefore I should be getting laid.

Nope.

Sorry.

Negative.

This one belief will probably cripple you for life, as well as turning you into a bitter, angry man.

There are more myths about women and seduction than you would believe. They’re misconceptions that have been pumped into you by years of bad advice, well-meaning friends, and our media and Hollywood programming.

You owe it to yourself to find out what women are REALLY thinking, and what you can change to start GETTING RESULTS with them.

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And Which Bouquet Will Make Her Heart Sway?

The ancient Egyptians are considered to be the first to use flowers as symbols of love. What a trend they set… thousands of years later, flowers are still at the top of the charts for gifts of love. Love is a hugely broad category, and fortunately, so are flower varieties. Love can be expressed as friendship, as intense passion, as filial, and any relationship in which respect and care are the foundation. Thus, when choosing flowers to send to whomever your feelings bend to, and in whatever degree of love, there are flowers that are appropriate. Beyond your feelings for the lady or man, consider her or his feelings – the type of person receiving the flowers is more important than the meaning of flowers, as interpretations differ, and while you may be passionately in love with a girl who loves nature, she may prefer simple ivy to red roses. In addition to the personality, flowers can wonderfully complement a lifestyle. Take note of the type of surroundings, colors and style of those you love, and they will be impressed by your sensitivity to what they love. When thought goes into a bouquet, the gift takes on a new meaning, and will be remembered long after the blossoms end blooming.

First on the list in choosing your bouquet is to know what you want to say in giving it. If you are giving the bouquet to one who is cheerful and charming, and your relationship is innocent, chrysanthemums or daisies convey this message. If you are falling in love, but it is still quite playful and the tone is not too serious yet, hyacinth is an option. These bright flowers themselves are playful, with a strong, intoxicating smell. This sums up the first stages of love for many couples! If you intend to give flowers to one who is modest, violets won’t hurt anyone’s modesty. If anything, a tad of modesty may be lost in receiving such a gift of understated elegance. When we are giving flowers for romantic purposes, do not feel limited to red or pink roses. In addition to the gorgeous rose, other romantic contenders include tulips, lilacs, wildflowers, and orchids. If finally, after all the years of motherly love, you wake up one day wanting to acknowledge mum for all that she’s done, pink carnations are an especially interesting choice, as they represent a mother’s undying love. According to legend, carnations stemmed from the tears of Mary as she watched Jesus carry the cross. Thus, in giving carnations to mother, you are recognizing the years of undying love that she has given to you!

While flowers traditionally have their own language and meaning, do not feel limited to flower language when choosing a bouquet. Often far more pertinent to your life is the personality of the person receiving the bouquet. Starting with the eternally beloved drama queens (and kings) in our lives, the flowers they receive should represent their fiery personalities. Best for the dramatic one is a bouquet of bold colors in a sharp, non-traditional vase. Perhaps a metallic square vase is in line here. While pleasing an artist aesthetically may seem a mission impossible, lean towards exotic flowers. Their rarity will please the artistic eye, and if you ask the florist to recommend some flowers of uncommon shapes, this will be even better eye candy for the artist. The free-spirited and natural will love that which reminds them of being outdoors: green and flowering plants, with some spicy smells added to take the imagination away from contemporary life. A classic beauty will like a traditional arrangement of lush and various flowers, while the romantic will enjoy softness in both colors and fragrance, with ribbons decorating the bouquet.

Beyond personality, if you are looking for a more creative way to please, choose the bouquet based on other factors, such as color or home interior. Knowing her favorite color, and giving her a bouquet with that color as the focus will make any flower that much more appreciated. If you are going to an event, be it a ball or an anniversary dinner, figure out the color of her dress beforehand, and order a bouquet that will match or complement the dress. Even if it won’t go out with the two of you, it will look great in any pre-photos. Did grandma buy new curtains that she’s extremely proud of? How touched she will be when you give her a bouquet that complements her beautiful new curtains (no matter what your opinion of them!). The general style of an apartment or house can be considered. Don’t feel you have to buy a huge gushing bouquet if the apartment where the flowers are heading is minimalist and contemporary. Florists are artists, and they can make a bouquet as different as you ask for.

Of course, with all the meaning that flowers can take on, most important, and most pleasing to the recipient, will be the flowers that have personal meaning. If, on your first date strolling through St. James’ Park, you pinched a tulip to impress your girl, this may be the most romantic flower to you as your relationship progresses. Guidelines are always guidelines, but life experience should be what marks and makes our own guidelines. Do remember that whatever the flower, you can always add to its importance by choosing a color she loves. Still, knowing the traditional meanings of flowers helps you decide what message you want to convey in giving flowers. Knowing his or her personality and lifestyle will add to making a bouquet unique to that person. Thus, when choosing flowers, there is no right or wrong, but the more thought you put into the bouquet; the longer it will be cherished and remembered.

Love Quiz- Do Looks Matter To You More?

What is love? What is attraction? Why do we love someone? Why do we say that we love someone? Why do not we say that we like someone or are getting attracted to someone? This is all because love is becoming a common word to be used for all kinds of attachments and relationships. Have you quizzed yourself about how much looks matter to you in love?

Will you love an ugly looking person even if she/he has every other quality in plenty? Or you will accept somebody better looking but missing in some qualities? What if you are told that the best looking person of the opposite sex has fallen for you and wants love in return? When you develop relationship, you find that person missing in many essential qualities and values that you respect. What will you do?

Quiz yourself about your relationships. Many of the relationships break because we are attracted by looks but as we get closer we find the other person difficult and break the relationship. It happens with most of us. We all go for looks in the beginning. Very rarely, we give points for other qualities in a logical manner. We look at a attractive person and say-I am in love. Quiz yourself and you will realize why many of your relationships broke? We may deny that. But the main attraction is always great looks. Quiz yourself about this and probably you will come to know more about what are your priorities in relationships and love.

Dating-Habits for Successful Dating

Every time I talk to a guy who tells me his dating experience, I discover he’s making the exact same mistakes most guys do, dating mistakes that kill his chances of successfully dating sexy women. Dating can be an absolute nightmare for some people. Whether you have been dating for years, getting back in the game, or just starting out, you could always use a bit of dating advice.

1) Pay attention to her and listen.

Most guys try to impress sexy women by talking all through. Sexy women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she will begin to wonder why you’re not slobbering all over her. She’ll want to discover more about you herself… now you’re a challenge, and sexy women love challenging guys. Why? Because they rarely meet one.

2) Ask questions.

Come up with a list before you leave the house, i.e., How did you get into that line of work? Where did you go to school? Have you seen the new Tom Cruise movie? And so on. If a woman tells you about her weekend at the yoga center, and you know absolutely nothing about yoga, just ask her what she likes about it, how she got into it, etc.

3) Compliment the other person.

Show sincere appreciation, so find something you like and mention it. You may be freaked out by the idea of complimenting a woman on her soulful eyes, so mention her watch, dress, hairstyle, or even her shoes. No need to go overboard: “Nice shoes,” will do it.

4) Be yourself.

Exaggerating or boasting your credentials, successes, etc will only make the woman lose interest. Make the other party feel at home so that she does not feel pressured to impress or lie to you. Sincerity is the best policy. Nobody feels more comfortable around people who are genuine and sincere.

5) Give your date the royal treatment.

Buy her some flowers, buy her dinner and make her feel special. Show her that you value her company. Women loved to be showered with attention and pampered by her man. For the subsequent date, Cook up a meal at home and spend the evening watching movies or some other activity such as a board game. The meal most likely will be better than at a restaurant.

Enjoy dating while you can and live life to the fullest. You’ll attract women who are looking for someone special for a change.

Am I Cheating? Fidelity and Online Dating

Online dating is one of the fastest growing industries in the UK today. Every day, hundreds of thousands of us log on to one or more of the growing number of sites available; some looking for serious relationships, others for friendship and companions, and still others for casual flings and that extra ‘bit on the side’.

Some sites claim to be purely for genuine singles seeking committed, long term relationships, others turn a blind eye to, or even actively encourage, married or cohabiting members who may or may not use the sites with the blessing of their spouse or partner. Of course many people who use online dating sites do so purely for chatting and exchanging messages and never meet face to face; with the steady growth of the Internet as a communication tool since it’s inception, it has become increasingly possible for netizens to conduct deeply involved, real time relationships with people they have never actually met.

So what does this change with regard to the old ways of doing things? When does an online relationship become ‘intimate’? Can you fall in love with an avatar, and can you cheat on someone, or with someone, who is in a different time zone?

A recent study by Dr Martin Graff of the University of Glamorgan showed that our perceptions of what does and does not constitute ‘cheating’ online are affected by a variety of factors – most prominently, and perhaps unsurprisingly, by the level of information dating site users are prepared to disclose about themselves; Dr Graff explains

“From this study, it seems that the greater the level of typed disclosure, then the stronger the perception of infidelity.”

Seemingly, in the absence of the ‘nonverbal cues’ on which face to face interaction relies so strongly, how much we are prepared to give away about ourselves is the primary indicator of how intimate our online relationships are and by extension, the degree of unfaithfulness inherent in the actions of non single site users.

Perhaps more surprisingly, the study also showed that the time of day at which online encounters took place was also a key factor in establishing infidelity, concluding that

“Exchanges later in the evening were perceived to be more infidelitous, than those which might take place in the day or early evening.”

Dr Graff’s study is ongoing and subsequent phases will look at the issues of jealousy and trust in the0020context of online relationships.

Ultimately the jury is still out on exactly what constitutes online infidelity and indeed relationships over the net as a whole. It is doubtful that a firm conclusion will ever be reached as the world of online dating and relationships, as in ‘real life’, will always be immensely subjective due to the differing moral standards and emotional responses of the individuals involved. Studies like Dr Graff’s can however provide a fascinating insight into the human causes and effects of the modern world, and how these are shaped by the direction of our rapidly developing and changing communications technology.

The Online Dating Jungle - What Kind of Creature are You?

It’s like a jungle sometimes! The Sugar Hill Gang could have been talking about online dating when they penned their greatest hit. Of course, back in the early 1980s the idea of finding a partner via the Internet would have been regarded in the same light as taking a day trip to the moon; twenty plus years on and strolling around Copernicus for the afternoon is still the stuff of fantasy, but finding the perfect match on the Internet is something that more and more of us are doing.

Out there in the online jungle are a great many different creatures, all of whom make their respective ways down to the watering hole with their own aims in mind. Some come merely to socialise, to chew the fat with the other denizens of this fertile environment, rub shoulders with the great and the tiny, hear the latest gossip on the bush telegraph and keep abreast of recent goings on; others come to prowl, surveying the ranks of assorted beasts, picking the choicest morsels to feast their eyes upon (or more)! Still more come in hope of something less tangible, they come seeking companionship from creatures like themselves; a life partner to raise a brood with or share a nest.

So, what kind of dating creature are you? We identified a few of the inhabitants of the dating jungle below:

With their long legs and lurid pink plumage; the flamingos come down to the watering hole to preen, flirt and catch tiny krill. The slightest noise or sudden move and they take to the air, startled. Flamingos in the world of online singles are equally skittish; they upload pictures of themselves so that they can be admired, preening in the water, thriving on compliments they snap up like so much krill. These flamingos will take to the wing at the slightest mention of meeting, or taking things to a more serious level.

Howler monkeys are the jungle’s gossips; rampantly sociable, they come to the water to meet and chatter, to groom and to reinforce their social bonds. Howler monkey dating site users are often looking for friends to chat and gossip with. They tend to use the sites very regularly and sometimes for hours on end, chatting to new friends and adding to their favourites lists. This can be a great way to use dating sites for people who have just moved to a new town or city, or who find it difficult to meet people because of work constraints.

And then the lion – the self-styled King of the Jungle may have a mighty roar but is actually quite a timid creature, shying away from large groups of prey, preferring to circle silently and pick the perfect target. These types of daters will often view your profile six or seven times before sending you a hello; they like to make sure of what they’re getting as lions don’t like to waste energy. Of course when they do make their choice this skilled hunter’s charms can often prove hard to resist!

Mainstream Dating or Adult?

It depends what your looking for but in general both sites will have something on offer. At the adult sites you can expect to find sex and erotic fantasy, lots of gay, lesbian and bisexual type members as well as swinger couples. At the mainstream sites you can expect to find sex and relationship types. It is less common to find a serious relationship on a full blown adult site but we do see some people looking…

The point is there is cross over from one to the other, I’ve seen women looking for relationships - long term type on adult sites and I just think no way your in the wrong place. Your going to get hammered with replies from guys who are just after a casuald fling every time so you must be kidding yourself. In contrast you do see quite a few girls advertise for guys and making a point of “not looking for anything serious or long term” It’s not uncommon.

The other shift we are seeing is the community nature of the sites coming into play, more and more people are using a website as a hangout rather than getting out to a regualr venue. Not sure how healthy this is but it is happening and as the new generation comes through it will only become more common. We may see a further fragmentation of the “dating industry” into niche groups of people with like minded interests.

So the question is pretty easy to answer - the adult site is going to be more of an adventure ride and the mainstream sites are more community contact find true love and romance. At the end of the day it is yoru choice as long as you go in knowing what to expect from each site. One thing is for sure your going to find lots of grey areas in between.

Consider Using A Dating Service

There are many people in the world that are looking for that special someone to share their life with. In fact, as a counselor, I meet with countless people everyday who are looking for love and are just not sure where to find it. I have learned that people are somewhat desperate to find true love and that they will often go to extreme measures to find someone special. One method that I often suggest to my clients is using a dating service.

If you asked me ten years ago if I would ever suggest that people use a dating service, I would have definitely said no. I would have said that people need to find their special someone on their own and that a dating service is just a phony way that people are using to try to make money. But I have seen multiple clients try a dating service and find great success. They met amazing people and are all settled and married with children.

If you are thinking about using a dating service, then do so with caution. While there are many great dating services out there, there are also a lot of poor services that only seek to get your money and keep you hooked on the hope of finding true love with people that don’t really exist in their dating service. So be careful that you take time and do research to find a great dating service.

Ask your friends or people you know that have used a dating service with success for their suggestions. Proceed with caution in this process and realize that no dating relationship will ever fulfill you until you are fulfilled within yourself. That is one of the biggest misunderstandings people have of relationships is that they will find satisfaction and completeness in a relationship. I always work to teach my clients about taking the time to learn themselves and to learn the things that they are passionate about.

A dating service can be a great way for solid people to meet one another and to begin exploring romantic relationships. Call and research dating services in your area and also do online searches to learn more. Proceed with caution and be sure of your expectations before you begin any experiences with a dating services.

If you are